I have a serious problem related to my life ..can u help?
i am doing my engineering .i have lost 3 years because of attendance shortage(because of an accident).i wasn't allowed to take up my exams.I am slipping into depression..its been many years since i spoke to anyone in my family although we have been living in the same house.i just sit in my room day after day..week after week..trying to figure out a solution but no one even bothers to knock on my door
I am avoiding all my friends till i find the answers.
i havent completed my graduation...
i never get out of my room.
though i have never seen drugs till now...my dad thinks im into drugs...
my family isnt bothered ...i consulted a psychiatrist but it did'nt help much..
i have also attemted suicide a few times.
i know that sounds week but i had no other choise. in the place where i live..,people treat you like dirt if you are'nt educated.(atleast a basic degree). now i seriously want to complete engineering but..
2006-11-04 09:50:22 · 7 answers · asked by confused 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
***it is okey if u dont answer but please dont laugh at me this is the third time i an posting the same question today ...some people said it was bull ****
2006-11-04 09:53:51 · update #1
i am really confused in life.
i do not know what to do .
they say depression is anger without enthusiasm ...how true....
2006-11-04 09:56:13 · update #2
***please try and ignore my spelling and grammatical errors
2006-11-04 10:02:20 · update #3
Hello There....Breathe, and Take a Deep Breath...Again!
1. You took a break from society, and that's good. Hey, we all need a break sometime in life...some just get one sooner than others.
2. Now you think you may want to get back to society. Good.
3. Now don't think this is not real, it is. I want you to practice something. Everytime you pass a mirror, in the bathroom or wherever, smile....laugh at the mirror...you will start to feel differently.....as you do this remember...GOD looks down at us and laughs. There is nothing you could tell GOD that GOD has not heard before now. So tell GOD what you want!
4. Keep Smiling...even at your family...just a little smile to start, and so start getting out of your room and do this when you start to feel comfortable about smiling....it's contagious.
5. Now, you may start back to school, and I suggest night school.
6. The momentum of school gets you out the door, into competition with your peers, and gets you going to try more courses...regardless of your choice of study.
7. When you feel ready, take 2 courses....but not until you feel ready.
8. Make sure you try to .....and this is important....go and have at least one meal with your family a week....yes that's right...even if you have to eat standing up....at the kitchen counter.....just being there...will make a big difference.
9. I believe in love. I believe your family loves you and wants you back...but they don't want someone who does not want them. Perhaps you need to put yourself in their shoes. What if they were doing what you're doing.....dropping out for a while, would that mean that you didn't love them? Of course, not. You would allow them their space.
10. Because I believe in love, I would like you to start...yes start to love the most important person in the world. That person is YOU!....start small by smiling at yourself...everytime you see yourself in that mirror! Ok, then now is the hard part.
11. I want you to make a list of everything you want in the world.
12. I want you to make a second list of everything you do not want or do not like in the world.
13. As you accomplish the things that are on the list of what you want, cross them off. They will give you a feeling of momentum and accomplishment....which leads to you gaving back control of your life.
14. Ok so, as I can sum up things (I am a CPA) you had a bad day, and maybe the days added up to more than a few bad days. So what.....Do you really think GOD cares that you had a bad day? No, GOD does not care that you went through bad times but that you are still here and GOD still sends you love every single day...and I'll bet GOD waits all day to hear from you...but you don't ask...So start to put GOD on the line. Ask GOD to open doors to show you what to do....Ask GOD to send people to you.....good people...and ask GOD to remove toxic people and toxic circumstances from your life.
15. Now take another deep breath....This is not easy.....and if you need more help, find a guidance counselor at the school of your choice, or a minister, priest or a doctor who you can trust and ask them questions...yes anything that's on your mind.
16. If you don't have anyone to talk to, write down the things that are bugging you....and when you are done with that piece of paper, tear it up into a dozen pieces and throw it away....and feel better that you always have a place to put the bad stuff...to get it out safely.
17. You are worth it!
18. All you need to do is try again........today I met 25 teenagers in New Jersey that want desperately to be adopted....one was 16 and he lived in 19 different homes, and talked about how he had to control his anger because at times he was beaten.....all these kids need a role model, and want a home...a soft place to fall.
19. So no matter how bad you have it, did you live in 19 different homes by 16 years old...No of course not. So perhaps you need to realize that you are worth whatever struggle you went through, to get you to now.....and begin again!
20. The rest is yet UNWRITTEN....what will you write as a comment to me....please write.......yes, I believe that I am worth it because....I believe in you...whether you're an engineer or a CPA like me.
God looks down at us and laughs!
2006-11-04 10:17:47 · answer #1 · answered by May I help You? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you tried all of these things and they haven't worked, why don't you change your diet - amybe you have food sensitivities that are making yo depressed. Lay off all carbs and try high lowfat protein. Maybe you need to join a church and get involved with a group. When you don't want to be around people, that's when you need people more. You need to be in a support group and talk to people who feel the same way. Help each other. When you find someone else worse off than you, then you'll realize that you have a lot to be thankful for. Go out an do something nice for someone. You don't need a degree to be a good person - show people that you have are a beautiful person inside.
2006-11-04 10:03:18 · answer #2 · answered by susan08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing that you really need to consult a different psychiatrist, get on an antidepressant if it is warranted. It's sad that you basically have no interaction with your family or anyone else. But please, get to another psychiatrist, you are apparently in a major depression and there are medications that can help with this.
2006-11-04 10:00:45 · answer #3 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only my 2 children...till they are 18. I supply them a targeted quantity of freedom, however now not an excessive amount of. They're nonetheless little. I allow them to be themselves, however I do not allow them to be disrespectful or damaging. And I pay the charges and purchase the garments so that they put on wth I inform them to.
2016-09-01 07:13:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are depressed. You should go to a councilor and talk your issues out. You do sound really stressed too about your education. If you are able to go to school now, sign up and go, but you have to be doing it for YOU.
2006-11-04 09:59:00 · answer #5 · answered by truebeing3030 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is pathetic.
Go to the psychiatrist.
You are seriously in need of professional aid.
Do it NOW!
I can see that you can't focus, and you can't decide what is best for you. Get the attention of someone who can help you to get to some help!
2006-11-04 10:07:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i dont think its bull that you are going through something like this and if you think you would want some one to talk to i wouldnt mind talking to you somethime!!
2006-11-04 09:57:45 · answer #7 · answered by Kelsey_blair 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋