i want to teach my father a lesson for shouting and hitting me every day what should i do?

Question

i am 13 years of age

Answer 1

call someone and tell tehm. believe me i went thru that for 16 years. you need help. i learned that i did not have to accept my father hitting us and everything else. there are lots of people that will help. what we finally did was we told a preacher at a church and he had the police come to the church and talk to us then the cops never made us go back again.

Answer 2

Tell your most trusted teacher. That teacher is legally obligated to tell his or her immediate vice principal, and the wheels will be set in motion through the Child Protective Services Act. You will be taken from your house, and your father will be taken in for questioning by the police. If the police and social workers deem him an unfit parent, you may go into foster care or into juvenile hall. But you won't be hit again, and you'll be safe.

A word here about your intentions: that phrase "teach my father a lesson" raises a red flag to me. As a teacher for 14 years, I don't want to see any child abused, ever. But I also know that kids can make life hell for adults by lying and claiming that adults hit them, when the kid is just angry at the adult for something and doesn't know any other way to solve the problem. Then the police and counselors and social workers get pulled in, and suddenly it's a lot more serious than the kid reckoned on.

If he is really abusing you, report him. You need out of that situation in a heartbeat. On the other hand, if you are angry at him for any other reason and you just want to get back at him, this is not the way to go about it. Think of the consequences: being taken out of your home, forced to live with strangers and possibly other troubled kids, and perhaps the breakup of your entire family.

I'm not telling you not to report him. Do it if you are being abused. Absolutely do it. Don't wait. Tell your teacher on Monday, first period! But, if your dad isn't abusing you and you're just angry, find a way to solve your problem without creating more problems.

I hope you get the help you need, and that you are never abused again. I hope when you grow up that you don't abuse others, especially if you choose to have children. Break the cycle of abuse now, within yourself. Good luck, and God bless you.

Cheers, K -- feel free to contact me again if you need help... I don't ever want to see a child hurting, afraid or scared of a family member

Answer 3

This is a hard one. Spanking your child is not against the law as long as it is on the bottom and they have one layer of clothing covering them. However, if he is beating you or using objects to hit you then it is called child abuse in the eyes of the law. I am not against spanking, but beating your child is wrong. If he is in fact abusing you you need to talk to someone you can trust about it. An adult that you know will fight for you when you feel you can't anymore. Sometimes the law doesn't listen but you need to keep fighting until they do. Remember though, reporting abuse means you could be removed from your home and placed with strangers and sometimes they are no better. I would talk to a family member that you know you can trust and that you know will take you in. You are 13 years old and where you live could be your choice. Depends on how the judge sees things. I hope this helps and I hope you are ok.

Answer 4

Dont jump the gun with child services just yet,unless you want to move out.Is he hitting you intending to hurt you?Is he cursing and shouting at you because you walk into the room or because you stole and wrecked the car?Theres a difference
IS he angry all the time at you when you dont do anything wrong?
No one should shout and yell at you and you should tell someone if he is abusing you.Abuse is different.Not many parents out there are calm EVERYTIME their kids are doing something they shouldnt.And most kids feel they arent doing anything wrond even if they are.If you are being abused,Tell someone.If you are misbehaving and being given a good taking down then you should behave.Parents HAVE to dscipline their children or they will get out of control.Different parents have different beliefs on how to discipline,BUT NO ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO ABUSE YOU.

Answer 5

All you can do now is to call child protective services and tell them you are being abused. I urge you to do that as soon as possible, or talk to your school counselor about the beatings, and let them contact CPS.

When you grow up, you can teach him a lesson by NOT becoming a father like him. And this not the kind of person I would want my children around, so he can forget about seeing the grandkids.

Answer 6

O please!!! *** wooping will make you grow up to be a good kid....and you are not the only one in the world that gets them, I know of so many people who got *** woopings for their school grades and not doing their chores....but nothing tooo abusive....just minor ish...But if you case is abbusive like you have regular bruises and stuff then you might wana start to look for a job soon.....Other then if the hitting is minor and for a good reason like schoo or something liek that then don't be a ***** and take it like a man and as for the shouting...come on don't you know how to use one ear and take stufff out the other? If that doesn't help then I would suggest go outside play sports or when you are home be in your own world and do something productive like homework and ish or entertain yoruself.

Answer 7

Don't threaten your father,it only makes matters worst,if you are being abused call child family services and tell them what is going on and you do not want to stay at home and you will meet them somewhere for someone to come and get you until things can be checked out,most likely you will be placed with other family if it's OK with you,they also will check that out be for placing you.If you are scared now call some hot line in the phone book and they will guide you now on what to do,or call the police.

Answer 8

You should speak to a counsellor or an adult that u trust!!
Is ur mum around!?
The best thing to do is to is find someone u can trust to tell and ask for help!!
Make sure ur not lying as some other people think u are!!
My father hit me occassionaly and was always yelling at me for doing something wrong!!
I got outta there as soon as i was 16 and never looked back!!
Again find someone u can trust, be it a friend, family member or someone professional!!

Answer 9

Is he hitting you in response to something you do, or does he just start hitting. If he has a calm moment, you might try talking to him.

But teaching him a lesson - no, not until you are 18, move out and surprise, never want to visit. He'll get the message them.

Answer 10

Go to the police station and report him for physical abuse. Get an AVO out on him and go live with other family members. You must report him though, this is the only way to teach him a lesson.