They have just had a new baby and they also have a 2 year old, everytime I see them she sits on her **** and gives out the orders but doesn't do anything! He changes all the nappies and ends up doing the nasty jobs.
2006-11-04 09:28:31 · 37 answers · asked by thompson_clare 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No, I don't think that you should say anything negative about the mother of your niece or nephew. Some things are better left unsaid even if they are obvious to everyone one involved. Your brother should be the one to say something to his child's mother.
2006-11-04 09:58:11 · answer #1 · answered by roddy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sticky situation... I get myself into advice troubles around this matter allot. First thing to remember is he loves her and will probably tell her what you said .. Not word for word but hes a man and it will come up .. so main point remember to be tactful when adressing the situation. I would sit him down and tell him nicely how you feel and maybe come up with a list of strategies that he can use to get her to do more things. Most men need action plans and women are good at this. So let him know that he can stand up to her in a nice way and what he should say to get some help
2006-11-04 09:32:07 · answer #2 · answered by starnickel 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hey love is blind, maybe your brother is happy doing the nappies and the dirty jobs, better to say nothing and let them get on With things, maybe you should help him out if your feeling so bad for him, change some nappies, maybe baby sit and give him a night off.
2006-11-04 09:38:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Best not to say anything. My brother used to my good friend. Until I told him the woman he was with and was with child by him was nothing but a lazy cow and all she did was lie. Now he resents me. He's still with her. It's been 12 years and she's still the same. I told him recently he needs to grow a backbone.
2006-11-04 09:38:24 · answer #4 · answered by CuervoBMed 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wanted to tell someone the same thing, but I knew that they were already aware of it. I am sure that your brother is trying to do the right thing. Even though she may get under your skin you will have to learn to look at her and go about your way. Your nieces/nephews will pick up on your distaste for their mother eventually. Just love them and your brother, technically she is not even family yet.
2006-11-04 09:34:35 · answer #5 · answered by Honey 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yup, but such caring for him comes at a high cost. Here's the thing. You will be the Wicked Witch of the West for a while. Then it will all fall apart for your brother. That is when he grows a spine.
Then he'll realize that you spoke the truth. Trouble is, he may hate you for it later until he;s much older and finally realizes that you were actually there for him.
2006-11-04 09:33:03 · answer #6 · answered by Geo-Guy 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i don't think you should get in your brothers way about his fiance but if you want to prtect him from getting hurt then the best answer is to sit him down and talk about what is going on between them or ask dohe like doing all those things and make sure he gives you an honest answer
2006-11-04 10:17:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a grown man and does he seem ok doing all the work??? Don't you think he has a brain and knows when he's doing to much... he may enjoy doing for his kids... I would never hender a man for caring for his kids ... so many men normally don't... they are the one sitting on their *** and the womans up tending to them... I know you care about your brother... let your brother be the daddy if he's not complaining... if he was my brother I would be proud of him...
2006-11-04 09:41:01 · answer #8 · answered by Sandy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is obviously happy doing what she say's, let them be. If he won't say anything its up to him. There's two people in a relationship not three. You will only end up in the wrong and they will fall out with you, so you are probably best to say nothing.
2006-11-04 09:33:28 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa P 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, just ask him is she is good in the sack because "something" is making him a slave to all her desires. If he says 'no' or 'don't know' then he is just a fastidious pratt - It could also be that some people go through a stage where they think that by showing their partners how good they are, they can change them.
2006-11-04 09:37:39 · answer #10 · answered by Ta 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋