I know some of it is my fault for letting people walk all over me. I can't help it though. When someone does something wrong to me. I get really mad but I let them do it again..I know that you can't make everyone happy and not everyone is going to like you. But for some reason I still try.I am just a good hearted person and I have tryed to change but thats who I am. I am not weak though. I can stand up for myself and I do. I just always go back on my word.
2006-11-04 09:23:39 · 12 answers · asked by kira 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My opinion is that people that get over on other people are the weak links. It's sad to say, But people like that only feel important when they try to intimidate other people..They take people like you for granted...I won't say your weak, But you need to have a stopping point to cut them off from you. I admire you for being a good hearted person, we need more people like you in our society...But you gotta realize, there are ALOT of ignorant people out here looking for people like you that they can manipulate, and use ..so have your guards up...Good Luck
2006-11-04 09:31:41 · answer #1 · answered by mmarie1221 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I have that same problem sometimes still I used 2 be super nice and in the long run it hurt me and the peolpe around me because one day I got really fed up with it and exploded on the person who walked over me last and it was bad becuz all the anger I had built up from over the years came out on 1 person.And it felt good but I felt really bad cuz all that anger was directed to that one person and not all of the people. Now a days , I am just freaking mean unless u are nice to me and I constantly have my guard up by always defending myself no matter what I think someone is trying to talk bad about me or negative so please try and break the cycle b-4 u end up like me .
2006-11-04 09:34:38 · answer #2 · answered by Mizz Lady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am the same way, I feel the same way. I don't know why we get walked over, maybe because it is easy to do. Look at it this way, we are nice and don't walk all over other people. It is not because we are too weak to walk over others, it is because we are too nice. The people that walk over us pick on us and not on each other because other people would put up too much of a fight. That means not only are they not nice but also weak. I guess we should use the fact that they are weak to our advantage. Example if a guy is always breaking dates with you to do something else, make him promise to take you out to a really $$$ dinner and a really girly movie. If your roommate keeps borrowing your clothes or makeup make her promise to buy you something new every time she borrows without permission.
2006-11-04 09:34:57 · answer #3 · answered by BLANK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's like the question of why dogs like their own balls......because they can!
When people find a weak spot in anyone they will use it to their advantage. You don't have to be rude or anything, just stand your ground when you make a decision. Be stubborn. When you say you don't want to go see that stupid movie....DON'T go see it. Even a small standing of your ground will make a huge difference. Rome wasn't built in a day, so just be persistent
2006-11-04 09:28:52 · answer #4 · answered by justforthisonepost 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you a secret: Real love hates sin. Period.
That is why God is love and still has wrath against sin. The Bible says that true love "does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth."
If God is love, you should model yourself after Him. The Bible also says, "Holy, Holy, Holy, is the Lord God Almighty." That means that you need to become Holy if you want to be truly loving, too. Jesus even said, "Be ye perfect, even as your Father in Heaven is perfect."
To see how good a person you really are, take this test: http://www.livingwaters.com/good
2006-11-04 09:33:58 · answer #5 · answered by JSB2 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have mostly answered your own question there my friend do continue to stand up for yourself and yes its great to have a tender heart but there are times when you have to be real tough with people life is this not everyone will like you so what there are always those who will spend more of your valuable time with them and enjoy thanks
2006-11-04 09:29:33 · answer #6 · answered by jeff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People DO NOT walk over nice people. People do what you allow them to do. I am a nice person, but I make it very clear to other how far I will ALLOW them to go. I am a nice person, I am NOBODIES door mat. You are not a good hearted person, you are a fool and there is a clear difference between the weak and the good hearted people.
2006-11-04 09:28:37 · answer #7 · answered by Errolyn27 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because they can! And because others don't let them walk all over them. I am the same way, but slowly learning to stand up and say "no" when I have to. Good luck.
2006-11-04 09:26:50 · answer #8 · answered by fifimee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are leading with people that doesn't love you, thats the only thing that causes people walk over you over and over...
2006-11-04 09:27:39 · answer #9 · answered by 123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its because you're too nice, sweetie. People are going to always try and take advantage of you as long as they think you can. You don't have to be nice to everyone.
2006-11-04 09:26:49 · answer #10 · answered by luvlee_lolo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋