Ok, I'm a fairly successful graduate student (creative writing) in the US and I've been in a long distance relationship (different country, same continant) for almost 6 years. We see each other a couple of times a year. We've had problems and he's insisted on being on a 'break' to work on his career (this break has been on for almost a year). I'm also extremely overweight (240 lbs at 5'3), so I don't feel like I can find anyone else. I've lost a good amount of weight but my boyfriend just says I'm still not good looking, esc. I feel so trapped... sometimes he's very good to me, but lately it feels like I don't even have a boyfriend, beacuse he basically ignores me. If I was thinner I would go out and find someone new, but I know that if I end this relationship, I won't find anyone else. He's coming in to visit for Thanksgiving. I'd appreciate any advice. Thanks!
2006-11-04 09:23:26 · 6 answers · asked by SBWV09 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh my gosh, am I glad I found your question! Girlfriend........under no circumstances, should you continue this relationship with this loser!!!!! My God! You don't have to settle, you don't have to feel substandard -- you do not need to put up with a TURKEY like this, who makes you feel like crap! You should not have to alter yourself to "get him" to like you more!
Invest all that time & energy & angst into your writing -- forget that sorry sucker, and if you are still unhappy & unfulfilled -- try some Jungian analysis! Find yourself first - love yourself first -- you deserve it. You didn't choose the body you were issued, but you can choose the bodies you spend your time with! He is not worthy!
2006-11-04 09:34:39 · answer #1 · answered by amuse4you 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Being fat is totally within your control. Stop using as an excuse. You are hiding behind your fat and putting up with a jerk who isn't worth your time. He wouldn't be worth your time if you were 350 or 120, a jerk is a jerk is a jerk.
You are clinging to the illusion that you have a boyfriend, but you don't. You aren't getting anything out of that arrangement except someone who ignores you and tells you that you are still unattractive. What kind of person says something like that--if you are so repulsive, then why is he dating you? Because he is a loser with no manners who can't get anyone and preys on your insecurities about yourself.
Stop the hiding and take a cold hard look at your situation and determine that you can make changes if you put your mind to it.
good luck!
2006-11-04 09:29:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 07:36:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was you I wouldnt want to be with someone that doesnt appreciate me...Look he is just one guy. And about the over weight issue..I was recently in an accident causing me not to be in a wheel chair for over 6 months. In those six months I went into depression and gained about 50 pounds. During this time Ive had a girl friend the whole time. I love her and she loves me. She doesnt even care that I gained all that weight, Im the one thats hard on myself. She tells me the she loves me for who I am not what I look like. What I'm trying to say is that you cant just worry about your weight. I beleive that there is that one special person out there for everyone. So don't be with someone that doesnt appreciate you. Please every girl deserves to be treated like a Queen. Just hang on and dont think about it that much. Focus on your career alittle and that special guy will be there. Please just hang on. I wish you the best of luck!
2006-11-04 09:35:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are plenty of guys that will see past your body image --- there are a lot that like ample ladies --- stop putting yourself down ---- fall in love with yourself -- and decide what you want
if you are staying with this guy simply because you think there will be no one else for you --- then leave him ---- there is someone better and they will find you --- stop looking
2006-11-04 09:28:05 · answer #5 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you, he should love you as the way you are. Dont think bad about yourself. Cheer up please! Dress up & show him that you might not thin but you know how to make yourself beautiful as the way you are! ; )
2006-11-04 09:34:47 · answer #6 · answered by Winter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋