My step dad has been with my mom for 13 years. He did alot of things that were not appropriate while i was growing up. Now when I get married i have to dance a song with my dad. I don't have my real dad with me and don't feel comfortable dancing with him what shoul i do.
2006-11-04 09:15:02 · 29 answers · asked by needanswers 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It is your day, so you should do what you feel comfortable doing. You might want to hire a professional wedding planner who can help things go smoothly with you and your step-dad.
On the other end of things though, I've tried to treat my step-daughter like my own, and she maybe sees her dad once every 2 months. I just hope and pray that I'll be able to dance with her at her wedding. . . . . . . . . .
2006-11-04 09:19:14 · answer #1 · answered by TrainerMan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to dance a song with your dad - or step dad - if you would rather not. Just make sure you inform the MC and DJ in advance that there won't be a daughter/father dance.
If you want to replace it with something - one thing I have seen done is a dance were the groom dances with the bride's mother, and the bride dances with the groom's father.
But again - there are no "required:" dances - so pick the ones that have meaning to you, and cut out the rest.
2006-11-04 09:19:47 · answer #2 · answered by Chrys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no law that says you have to have a dance with your father or stepfather. You can bypass that all together - just talk with your band beforehand. Just go straight to throwing the garter & bouquet. You know, people don't really notice that sort of stuff, in the busy-ness of the party. You could ask someone to give a toast, if you feel that something needs to be done, but you don't have to dance with anyone you don't feel comfortable with. You could honor your stepdad by asking him to make a toast, if you feel you want him to have a place, other than dancing. Otherwise, it really doesn't matter. Do what rocks your world! Have fun and a wonderful wedding!
2006-11-04 09:19:27 · answer #3 · answered by amuse4you 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When my oldest married I was medically unable to dance with her. We both felt the loss but discussed it beforehand and she asked if it was OK for her to dance with her new father-in-law. I was very pleased there was an alternative for her instead of just a hollow place in the festivities.
Now I tell you as I told my own. Do what feels right, and make no apologies to anyone. It is YOUR day, and you are entitled to have one you will remember fondly not something you will wish you had done differently for the rest of your life.
Congratulations on the wedding and best wishes for a happy life together.
2006-11-04 09:41:16 · answer #4 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont HAVE to do a daddy daugter dance. It is your wedding. If you dont want to do it, you dont have to.
Something fun to fill that min of time...do a dollar dance. All the men who want to dance with the bride line up and the maid of honor collects the money from the men. They each pay a dollar for a 20-30 sec dance with the bride. It is a fun time and helps the bride and groom make some extra cash.
2006-11-05 05:23:35 · answer #5 · answered by Suzzette M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that you want to have a "father/daughter" dance, how about an uncle or a cousin that was there for you when you were growing up? Maybe a grandfather or your future father in law.
Good Luck & remember, it's your wedding, do what YOU want.
2006-11-05 03:26:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then just don't do it. Do you have an older brother or uncle you are close to? If not, just don't do the "parents" dance thing. Go right from the dance with your husband, into the wedding party all dancing.
2006-11-04 13:59:25 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to dance with your step dad at all. That is your choice. Is there a grandpa or someone you could dance with?..You don't have to dance with anyone if you don't want to. Just tell whoever is doing the music to skip the music for the dance of father and daughter
I did'nt dance with my dad. it would not of been comfortable at all doing that. Just becasue it is tradtion..doesnt mean you have to do it.
2006-11-04 09:19:49 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All depends on what you mean "not appropiate".
Pardon me for being direct, but if "not appropiate" means that ehe was molesting you in any way, he shouldn't even be at the wedding.
If he was just an jerk to your mom, well, why is your real father out of the picture?
So what it boils down to is this:
If he was not lewd to you, then yes.
If he was there for you and your real dad was off trying to get lucky with every other woman he could and ignored you, your step dad could be your "father-daughter" dance partner.
However, that is all for not if he ever, ever touched you or did things with you that any "father figure" should never so with their daughter.
2006-11-04 09:25:18 · answer #9 · answered by Geo-Guy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you don't feel like dancing with him, at your wedding, then don't, especially if he did alot of inappropriate things to you, when you were growing up. You have to remember, this is your wedding, not his and who cares if people notice that you didn't dance with him, you're not obligated, to do so. He should be thankful, that you're not banning him from your wedding, if it were me, I couldn't promise you, that I wouldn't ban him from my wedding. At your wedding, it's supposed to be one of the happiest moments in your life, don't let anything, get in the way of that. You and your fiancee, are in control of this wedding, you two do what you want and don't let anybody, tell you differently. By the way congratulations, when you do marry.
2006-11-04 09:24:34 · answer #10 · answered by A_WWE_FAN_4LYFE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋