I like this girl who has a great personality?

Question

I met her at work, since the first time I met her we hit it off. I am really attracted to her becuase she is really cool. I went out with her for a week and then I dumped her because of her looks, I still really like her, I dream about her, and I think about her everyday. It's crazy I like her and i dont like her....Looks or Personality that is the question. I still talk to her on phone and at work what do i do?

Answer 1

It sounds like the real issue is you buddy. You need to figure out your morals and your expectations. This girl sounds like she is great but she doesn't meet your expectations or is it the expectations of other people that has got you worried? Personality is the greatest gift to have in a partner, looks can only be a bonus, if you love her you would actually see the beauty in her. But until then you could be fighting your own demons. ;)

Answer 2

First of all, I would be cautious, since you're considering
dating a co-worker. I wouldn't do it, because these things can
blow up in your face. You should choose someone you're
attracted to in every conceivable way (physical appearance,
personality, common interests/likes/dislikes and whatever else you can think of). If you dumped her, because you were repulsed by her looks, what makes you think you will be attracted to her the second time. My advice is to remain friends with her, but don't date her. The reason is your past history, and the fact is if you dumped her once, you may do it again, and she deserves better than that. Ideally your perfect match should be a female version of yourself who is compatible to you. If you date someone
who is signficantly uglier or more beautiful than yourself, you run
the risk of being incompatible in other areas as well, like personality and common interests. Do you have any common
interests? That's what you should ask yourself if you want to
ask her out. Why do you want to ask her out again after you dumped her? is another question, or Why did you dump her if you want to go out with her again?
I think the problem lies more with you than it does with her,
because you don't seem to know what you want in a girlfriend or
date.

Answer 3

Hmmmm...lets see...I think you should be dumped! If I was her I wouldn't take you back..especially if she finds out why you dumped her..you better be lucky I am not one of your co-workers who knows the real reason why she got dumped!
People do this everyday..but if you truely care about her then maybe you should have been honest with her as to why you dumped her. I don't think you care about anyone else but your self. You are a selfish pig!!! You only talk to her on the phone, because you can't stand to look at her in the face....

How does this make you feel?

Answer 4

Do not jerk her around until you figure out exactly how you feel about her. She sounds wonderful, some guys wouldn't go near a girl if she wasn't good looking, you could date her based on her personality but it bothers you that she is not good looking. I think if you start to date her sooner or later it will begin to bother you that she isn't hot. Maybe you will be in love with her and not want to leave her because of it. Sooner or later it will be to much for you to look past and you will end up hurting her.
Do you think it is possible her looks will grow on you. I would stay close friends with her and see if she doesn't start looking better to you but don't try to start anything, she sounds like the last person on Earth who should get their feelings hurt, got it?

Answer 5

All previous answers were from girls and they said personality. Does that say anything about how they look?...hmmmm...
Look, I have met some girls that are the nicest of nice and the sweetest of sweet, but if you cringe when you look at them you can't really expect to have a fulfilling relationship with that person. Being compatible with some one also includes liking how they look. Everyones expectations are different so everyone is compatible with someone else. Don't hate on people who want someone pleasing to the eye. Not all pretty people are bad people. oh, how big is this girls rack??....hahaha just kidding

Answer 6

If this girl is as great as you say she is. you don't deserve her. She needs a MAN that likes EVERYTHING about her, not one that has to see past her looks. I'm sure you have your fair share of imperfections, we all do. It sounds like she acceptsd you for who you are. But you are being shallow- point blank. She deserves better. And remember this- I don't care who you are, looks (and sex) eventually fade and there better be something more there to keep the relationship going.

Answer 7

well i had a relationship like this i loved him for his personality he was sooo funny and sweet. but he wasnt all that attractive very wirey and geeky when it was just us i loved him but when other ppl were i wanted him gone. i made the right choice we stayed together and i couldnt be happier looks will come and go but a good personality will always be there

Answer 8

no offence but its kinda mean just to dump her for her looks. i think if you cant stop thinking about her, looks sholdnt matter. if she has a sparkling personality you can't stop thinking about, go out with her again, and apologize for last time, and say you would like to try this relationship again :]

Answer 9

if dumped her cuz of her looks that isn't kool u like her for her personality thats hot ask her out again and try to get to know her better.

Answer 10

Look. Looks are not going to get you anywhere. A personality is what truly matters. No matter how ugly the person you need to look deep down and i mean in her heart not clevage! Please realize it doesn't matter about looks. Don't judge a book by its cover!