The evil one?

Question

Hi, I've asked a question about this guy before but I didn't get many answers. So, I'll sum the situation up
1. I've known this guy for about 3 1/2 years.
2. He's my friend, but he's a total nerd.
3. He's hit on me only once, but has been flirting with me for years.
4. He makes me really uncomfortable whenever he's flirting with me.
5. I've tried to show him that I have NO interest in him what so ever!
6. He still hasn't let it drop and continues to chase me
7. He's really old fashioned about the way he does things, like, he reads a lot of old english books and is into weird things.
8. He just gave me a compliment today about how nice I looked, but, even though it was nice, I've had it up to my eyeballs with this kid! He just won't let it go!
9. I don't want to hurt him for two reasons 1. I do care about him as a friend. 2. I have to be around him at least twice a week.
10. My question is, HOW DO I NICELY GET HIM TO LEAVE ME ALONE!

Oh, and another thing is he's at least a year younger than me!

Answer 1

WOW girlie! I think you've got it bad. In all honesty I don't think he is gonna give it up. I would have to tell him a couple of things, First tell him, you are totally not interested and that if he wants to continue to be your friend, then he needs to back off. Ask him if 31/2 years of friendship is worth losing over this stuff. Or you can tell him that you are dating someone and would like for him to stop. (I have done it!)
Well best of luck to you

Answer 2

Well, either way if he is bothering you this much, you HAVE to tell him, nicely or not. Sometimes nice doesnt get your point across and he will just continue to do it. Although, if you want to be nice about it, take him to like a coffee shop, or a nice place so you two can begin to talk, dont just blurt it out somewhere uncomfortable, make sure the scenery is a comfortable atmosphere. But first, sit down and talk to him, then slowly ease your way into telling him:
"Look (name) I just want to let you know that i really like you, as a friend and all. Your funny/genuine/caring/etc. and any girl would be so lucky to have you as their boyfriend, but i think that we would be best as friends. Please stop trying to be with me, it is not going to happen, but i would still like to continue to be friends with you because i value our friendship very much. Please, just ease up a bit, i feel uncomfortable and i've tried telling you before, but honestly, its not going to go any further, but i still want you to be my friend because i care about you on that level"

see how it goes from there, if it doesnt stop and he continues to "chase" you, tell someone, that situation is so uncomfortable, GOOD LUCK!

Answer 3

LOL..I had the same problem when I was in school...I would tell him how you feel..Honesty is the best way to get things across..i know you don't want to hurt his feeling's, But he's not thinking about how he makes you feel by constantly nagging you..So just put it the best way you can..tell him he's pushing you away if he don't stop..That your over it. Tell him it either stops now or your friendship is gonna stop...See if that works, But ya know some guys now days are nuts, So he could be obsessed with you..So whatever you do be careful..especially if he's that weird....But you know him better then anybody..So good luck

Answer 4

The truth is not always easy to say. But if you don't tell the truth, be forewarned, "A lying tongue hates those that are afflicted by it" and hatred is in God's eyes as wicked as murder.

If you want to do what is right, learn to follow Jesus. He was perfect in all His ways. He was a man, as well. He knows far more about men than you or I ever could. He also will be our Judge after death. So heeding His commandments is a wise idea.

Answer 5

Next time you see him coming towards you grab the first accessible guy to you and ram your pink salivating muscle down his his throat making sure your friend sees it happening. Well.... maybe that's to hardcore for you. I am guy and could be hard on people at times.... I guess. This is not really helping at all. OK I got it....I will stop here.

Answer 6

Simply tell him the facts of the matter. Don't dress is up, don't try to be "nice" (there is no nice way to reject someone). Nice is misleading. Just be honest.

Answer 7

Maybe after all that you have just said there isnt a nice way to do it anymore simply ignore him till he finally goes away and finds someonelse to speak to thank you

Answer 8

Find a boyfrind so he can tell your not interested

Answer 9

If he will not listen talk to his parents. Ask them to talk to him.