Ive been dating this girl over a year now, and i think that i love her, she is really nice and sweet and cares a whole bunch, but the girl i lost my virginity is coming back into my life and i still love her too. I dream about my ex alot and even have had dreams of marrying her and having my kids. I dont know what to do, i feel like if i dont give my ex a try again i will regret it later, but i dont wanna lose my gf now because she really cares about me but i feel like i dont love her as much as i do she does me, i feel like when im telling her i love her im not being truthful. I am i wrong??
2006-11-04 08:49:43 · 13 answers · asked by Fatman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you are in a relationship with a girl that you say you love, now you can either keep that or lose it to your ex who could just be a sex thing, think about it.
2006-11-04 08:53:58 · answer #1 · answered by teresa.edmonds@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well u got 2 b honest w ur gf. I say if u don't love her like u say u do then u shud tell her the truth right away. Yes it will hurt her, but think about how much more u wud hurt her if she found out that u were lieing to her and liking someone else behind her back. It'd crush her for sure. I mean it does sound wrong to go back to ur ex, but keeping it a secret while in a relationship is worse. That's just how I see it. But make sure ur feelings 4 ur ex r REALLY 4 REAL b4 u cause any damage
2006-11-04 09:02:40 · answer #2 · answered by diamond 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will tell you now before you read on that i am seriously biased, but i am going to answer any way. I wish my ex was thinking exactly how you are now!
You need to be straight with yourself. You know deep down which person it is that you care for. You need to be honest with your gf and tell her something like you dont mean to hurt her but (sorry this is girly..) you gave your heart away and never really got it back. You cant give as much as she is giving you and its not fair to her. BUT... if its just about sex mate then leave the ex alone, you are always going to have an attraction with your ex on some level and for most its sexual (definately is in my case!) so you gotta ignore it. Like i said if you really think you wanna make a go of it with your ex then go ahead, you are being dishonest with your gf if you dont.
2006-11-04 08:58:57 · answer #3 · answered by sugar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting over the first person you ever loved is a lifelong process. They will always hold a special place in your heart, however there had to be a reason that the relationship ended. If you care for the new girl in your life sit down and discuss with her how you currently feel. sometimes it can take each person in a relationship a different amount of time to reach the same mutual level of love, but if a part of you sees the chance of completely falling for the new girl you should be honest with her. No relationship is easy, but it sounds like you may have the right girl. Don't let a part of your past jeopardize your future.
2006-11-04 08:57:42 · answer #4 · answered by novelwyrm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ever think that if you and your ex were together that you might start feeling the same thing for your now girlfriend? Sometimes I think it is a case of wanting someone when they are not available to you. It becomes a lot more tempting than when you were with her. Think before you do anything and weigh all your options...You will most probably have special feelings for your first but do not confuse that with something that you may have with your girlfriend now in the long run.
However do not stay with your girlfriend out of guilt either. Never forget you are talking about two other people in this equation and it may not be up to you as to what happens.
2006-11-04 08:58:52 · answer #5 · answered by tigerlily_catmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to think about things and sort them out. Decide who you really want to spend your time wiht, who you would really like to be in a long term relationship with and then choose. Do you think that your ex really wants to marry you, after all you were seperated because of sometihng in the past what makes you think that it won't happen again.
2006-11-04 08:56:34 · answer #6 · answered by kitiz2cool 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. That is very bad. if you're with another girl, focus your intimate feelings with her. Don't go off and fulfill them with other people. If you're saying you want your ex more than your present girl, perhaps oyu should consider letting your present girl go easily. That way, if oyu can't resist with your ex, oyu don't have to worry about your true girl finding out. You don't want to know the h*ll that'll cause. My last girl, katrina did that to me, and I was lucky enough to find out. You don't want to be like her. She trashed her reputation and made everybody hate her. She hates her life now. Don't make the same mistake. Think about it.
2006-11-04 08:57:14 · answer #7 · answered by badams1990 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do,because I'm in love with someone other than the person I'm having sex with that I cant be with
2016-05-21 23:39:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you're wrong....you're just not that into her...or the other one either. you "think" you love the first one. if you did "love" her...you wouldn't be thinking about what you missing with the other one. you didn't mention your age but i'm sure it must be in the 20 something range. do both girls a favor and don't make any babies with either one of them.
2006-11-04 08:54:34 · answer #9 · answered by bella36 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's bad to have sex with your ex when you are involved with another girl.If you are involved with another girl just for sex only..than to have sex with your ex is believable.You are totally wrong with your ex and not trustworthy with your new g/f.
2006-11-04 08:56:34 · answer #10 · answered by precede2005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋