When you are not "into" some one, would you come right out and be honest? What do you do? The truth hurts for only a little while, and I have found that if the other person does not like your answer and respect you for being honest then that person was not woth spending time with anyway. It seems as though, men will become angry jerks when you tell them that "you just want to be friends".....why is that?
2006-11-04 08:41:29 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Most people will know within a few hours of meeting another person if there is a possibility of it becoming more intimate... if you don't feel that right away don't lead the other person on. Having to let another person know that you don't feel the same way as they do is difficult to say the least, but this let's still be friends line is just insulting. If there isn't chemistry, and you don't want to continue a relationship, then just let it go. How would you feel if the roles were reversed. It would be miserable to try and be around a person that you are attracted to and want more than they can give. I say if it's not a connection, then just move on. Respecting honesty in a person is not par with the course for being rejected... and that is what is happening when you have to let a person know that you are not interested in them in an intimate manner, and want to persue other people. Your right, telling them will cause a rift for a short while and you will just both move on, but don't count on keeping them in your list of friends.
2006-11-04 09:01:13 · answer #1 · answered by julianna76301 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am just honest with the person. Most men in the over 35 age group are grown ups and can handle and generally appreciate the truth. If they become angry jerks, well then you are better off without them.
2006-11-04 08:51:23 · answer #2 · answered by bella36 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because most me are only looking for 1 thing and that is sex.
There where only 2 guys I found that were willing to be just friends, no strings attached. I am over 60+yrs. and my yahoo personall says I am just looking for friend. You should see what I get. And when you tell them what you are interested in the get all pushed out of shape. They think you are going the same reason they are. Dahhhhh! I don't think so.
As for being Honest they have enough trouble spelling Friendship how can they spell Honest. LOL
2006-11-04 08:47:38 · answer #3 · answered by Angell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy a double barrel shotgun and ask who's gettin out a dodge? If they don't get the hint pull the trigger at least you won't feel guilty about their hurt feelings just cos you were honest and don't care about hurting them anymore. Honesty should always be measured with tact - Its the art of being civilised
2006-11-04 08:52:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-21 06:37:46 · answer #5 · answered by oleyar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be honest. the whole "just friends" thing makes 'em mad 'cause it's so overused as a way of telling them to back off (it also makes 'em angry 'cause it ruins their delusions that they're a virile roman god desired by all, but... gotta break some eggs for that omelette, right?) LOL ... and yes, you're right, if they don't respect your honesty and point of view by telling them you're not interested, you DEFINITELY wouldn't wanna waste your time on someone who's only interested in your chin & below
2006-11-04 08:47:44 · answer #6 · answered by rachel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell if your being honest just that amount of respect of being honest is very respectable so if the guy is a gerk just ignore it cause people should embrace things rather than put up walls.
2006-11-04 08:46:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, Guys do that because they dream about life the same way some girls do. Good to see someone our side of life online!
2006-11-04 08:43:58 · answer #8 · answered by relaxed 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Reality of life , stupidity of disappointment, anger to be rejected.
Some people are just Little people.
I don't have a problem - and you are perfectly right.
2006-11-04 08:46:20 · answer #9 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd just say it, but in a nice way, so that it seems like a polite and sweet but honest rejection
2006-11-04 08:43:06 · answer #10 · answered by Franky 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋