Will someone please tell me what is benefitted from spanking? What does it teach a child? Is there a lesson to be learned? Why do people/parents do it? Are there any benefits to this form of discipline? Personal experience, your parenting techniques, or educated guesses are welcomed!
2006-11-04 07:59:13 · 8 answers · asked by Feeling Froggy 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Spanking teaches a child that it is acceptable to hit when one is angry, frustrated or just wants to..it teaches that violence is the way to solve al problems. IF there are any benefits to this I fail to see them.
2006-11-04 08:02:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 4⤋
Spanking doesn't teach a child anything. I am a mom that uses spanking. There is punishment and discipline and the two are separate.
Punishment enforces the wrongdoing. Discipline teaches. Sometimes you need one or the other, or both.
2006-11-04 10:46:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
DEPENDS ON WHAT THE CHILD HAS DONE SOME THINGS YOU CAN TALK TO AND PUNISH THE CHILD. WHEN THE CHILD DOES NOT LISTEN THEN IT NEEDS A SPANKING (NOT A BLACK AND BLUE BEATING) ENOUGH TO GET THEIR ATTENTION, THEN YOU CAN EXPLAIN WHY YOU GAVE THE SPANKING. THIS HURTS THE CHILD WHERE AS WORDS WON'T. YOU CAN TELL YOUR CHILD OVER AND OVER NOT TO DO SOMETHING AND THEN WHEN THEY GET A SPANKING THEY KNOW THEN THAT YOU MEAN WHAT YOU SAY AND THEY ARE TO LISTEN TO YOU. MOST 9 YRS AND UP THIS DAY AND TIME ALREADY TALK BACK, DO AS THEY PLEASE. THAT WHERE THE GUNS AND ETC ARE GETTING INTO SCHOOLS. GIVE THEM A SPANKING WHEN THEY GET OUT OF LINE AND DO NOT RESPECT THEIR PARENTS AND THE WORDS OF WHAT NO MEANS. YOU HAVE TO BE THE STRONGER ONE OR THEY WILL PUSH YOUR LIMITS TIL YOU SNAP AND DO SOMETHING YOU'LL REGRET.
2006-11-04 08:10:12 · answer #3 · answered by jordenstan 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Spanking makes parents feel better quickly. Usually they feel worse later, but in an instant gratification way they felt better at the moment.
When a parent spanks a child, they've lost control of the situation.
The parents I really don't understand are those who hit their kids for hitting other their siblings or other kids. Huh?
2006-11-04 08:11:48 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 4⤊ 2⤋
It is an attention getter for sure. When touchy-feely-psycho-babble has failed or when the child is in a dangerous situation and not heeding the warnings a well placed smack on the backside is an immediate wake up call to come to order. However if you over use the technique the child will become immune to it. Save it for those dire situations.
2006-11-04 08:06:09 · answer #5 · answered by anything_my_child 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Children have to be taught discipline. They are not born with it. Little by little parents have to teach it to them. While teaching discipline does take time and practice, it gets easier as children learn to control their own behavior. And best of all, teaching discipline does not have to hurt either the parents or the kids.
Parents ask.. What is discipline?
Discipline is helping children develop self-control. Discipline is setting limits and correcting misbehavior. Discipline also is encouraging children, guiding them, helping them feel good about themselves, and teaching them how to think for themselves.
Is spanking a useful approach to discipline?
No. Discipline should help children learn how to control their own behavior. Spanking is used to directly control children's behavior. Spanking does not teach children how to change what they do, as good discipline should.
Isn't is easier to just spank my children?
It may seem easy at the time. But babies who are hit often cry louder. Older children who are hit often are learning to solve problems by hitting others. Many parents notice that after a spanking children may settle down for a while, but pretty soon they start misbehaving again.
Won't spanking teach children whom boss?
Kids do need to know that the adult is in charge. Spanking can teach children to be afraid of the adult in charge. Good discipline teaches children to respect the adult in charge. Respect goes both ways- treat children with respect and let them have some control, and they will respect you and listen to you.
Won't spanking make my children afraid to misbehave?
It can. Spanking can make children afraid to misbehave, but probably only when you are watching. Children need to learn to control their own behavior even when you are not around to watch them.
Don't children need a good spanking sometimes?
No child needs a spanking. Spanking can be dangerous. You can never tell when children will be hurt badly by a spanking if you lose control. Children do not need to be hit in order to learn how to behave.
If I do not spank, then what can I do?
You can do lots of things that will help your children learn self-control - you can help them feel good about themselves, you can show them how a person with self-control acts, you can guide them, you can set limits, you can correct misbehavior by talking to them, and you can teach them how to think for themselves.
As a child growing up, my parents spanked me. Being born in 1966, things were different then than they are now! My dad and mom are the best and I would not be where I am today in life if it had not been for the way they raised me. I did get a few spankings but it didn't kill me and it did not teach me to hit others. I have two (2) children, and yes, I have spanked them a time or two, but it was more less than a spat on the leg, nothing to harm them. My son is 16 yrs. old now and is the best of all, to me! He is well behaved, repsects others and will do anything for anyone that is in need or help of any kind! I also have a five (5) yr. old little girl! She is doing great with discipline and its not spankings. Sitting in time out does wonders for her when its needed! Good luck and hope this bit of info is helpful! :o)
2006-11-04 08:14:41 · answer #6 · answered by Blondie 3 · 3⤊ 3⤋
it teaches a child not to do wrong anymore, it teaches discipline whenever they are out of line.
2006-11-04 09:00:19 · answer #7 · answered by mamas_grandmasboy06 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
i think it is best to sit and talk to your kids, i dont feel that spanking is good.
2006-11-04 08:03:51 · answer #8 · answered by ruthie 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋