It is not always assumed that the woman is the abused in a relationship. But the data that is reported, shows statistically woman to be the victims of abuse. It has been suggested that men just don't speak up, nor report abuse. The social stigma involved is the main reason for that some men remain silent . From what you've described the woman you are in relationship with seems to have severe moods swings and "should' be diagnosed & perscribed medications to prevent these Dr. Jekyll , Mrs. Hyde behavior manifestations. But there is something more disturbing in you story....why do you put up with such abuse? Why haven't you spoken up to her and told her how her behavior has affected you? Love is blind but it doesn't have to be stupid! You seem to be flushing through some emotions in your question which is a sign you are seeking help. I suggest you continue to move in this direction. Get some professinal counsleing. Before it is too late. You've kept alot of anger & frustration bottled up you don't want it to reach a point where one day you blow a fuse and shut her up in an abusive manner. You can still love someone and not like their beahvior. Often times troubled individuals, ( like your girlfreind) cry out for help only to be tolerated by the person they want to have help them. STAND UP! fight for what's right....tolerate no further verbal or other abuse. Tell her that part of your relationship is over,,,You do not deserve it and will no longer accept it! Take responsibilty for the part you have been playing in this abuse!
2006-11-04 07:43:46
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answered by Brains & Beauty 6
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Its time for you to step up to the plate and wear the pants!
I dont mean... be bossy, but you need to be the leader, not the follower. Take her "good" advice, but not her "bad" advice at times. Listen to her sincerely. Women like to be heard. You dont have to have ANSWERS to her every problem. Most of the time women go off, they are just venting. So let her vent, but dont let her verbally abuse you. (or any kind of abuse)
If she starts verbally abusing you, this is what I'd do......... I'd yell back something like, "ENOUGH!!!!!" and if she dont shut up, walk out for a few hours. Let her cool down and let her worry a little too.
Was she raised in a verbal abuse household? Tell her that verbal abuse isnt normal or healthy!
Wow, good luck to you dude.
I know of some good DVDs that she needs to see. Email me if you're interested. They changed me completely. Wish I'd of seen them 20 years ago. Sure changed my outlook on men.
2006-11-04 07:36:57
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answered by Kings Child 3
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She's very stressed out and it's not right for her to be putting it on you. You need to tell her to stop because this kind of things isn't healthy for either of you, nor is it helping. Suggest counseling or relationship counseling. Something like that.
Maybe she has a problem and don't know how else to tell people? If you've been with her for four years, you should be comfortable enough to tell her in her face that something is wrong and that you both need to fix this.
....Otherwise I think it's time to end the relationship slowly but really it's on you if you still want this to go on.
2006-11-04 07:27:53
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answered by Suzy Suzee Sue 6
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the only reason why you don't find a whole lot of stuff about men being abused by women is because men just don't report it nearly as much as women do. men are seen as "they have to be big and strong and they should be able to handle their women", but i think women can be just as emotionally abusive (if not, more!), as well as physically abusive, as men can be.
if you're in a situation like this, don't be afraid to get help. i think i would really admire a man who can stand up for himself up against a woman and say 'i shouldn't have to deal with this anymore'. get out of this situation before it gets worse! tell your family or some friends so that they can watch out for you, or maybe they'll let you stay with them so that you can get away from this controlling woman!
2006-11-04 07:30:57
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answered by mighty_power7 7
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people gradually loose self-self belief while they stay with an abuser and start to think of that they do no longer look to be worth or no longer able to hit upon somebody else. it incredibly is oftentimes a psychological situation that develops by way of psychological and emotional abuse. Abusers are controlling and could oftentimes make you experience that it is your fault which you acquire hit, that it replaced into you who did some thing incorrect, etc. it is in basic terms terrible and not common to have faith in spite of the indisputable fact that it incredibly is genuine for each individual and every physique can fall into this. it incredibly is the way that persons develop into in a poisonous dating that they do no longer look to be solid adequate to go away. What makes it harder to go away the abuser are situations previous the sufferer's administration. you're oftentimes remoted and have not have been given any acquaintances left or you would be financially based on your abuser. you have have been given babies with them, you would be depressed and ill and no longer able to conjure adequate capacity to get by capacity of, much less to go away every physique. There are too many reasons, incredibly. what's genuine is that as quickly as you're in, it incredibly is not any longer incredibly common to get out. for this reason, you should be looking out, once you initiate dating somebody you should observe them heavily for symptoms of an abusive character. on no account make investments your self in a dating too quickly the two, they'll oftentimes teach their genuine colours while they are effective of your thoughts or while residing with you.
2016-10-21 06:30:51
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answered by ? 4
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I was once married to a woman not quite as possesive as this one. But I was finally confronted one night with her running at me with a butcher knife clenched in both hands. As I tried to leave she hollered at me, stop or I'll shoot. As I turned to look at her, she had ran into our bedroom and pulled a 30 caliber semi automatic rifle out and was aiming it towards me. She didn't know the caliber of it, nor how to correctly hold it. But I had to duck after she pulled the trigger so as not to get hit in the head by the barrel when she swung it at me. When she was aiming at me she had it against one of her large breasts, instead of the shoulder. My advice is, get away before it's too late! They always get worse from either side. Man or woman, the answer always ends up the same. I'm sorry for you, but I've been there, done that so's to speak!
2006-11-04 07:37:38
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answered by Bullett Bob 2
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You are not alone as there are many males who not only suffer from verbal/emotional abuse but also much physical abuse also. I suppose that this is not reported very often due to society's view of the male as being so macho and in control.
2006-11-04 07:28:51
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answered by crazylegs 7
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The assumption is there because it is usually the truth. You have no idea how many women are abused every day. However it certainly happens the other way around sometimes, and I am sorry for your situation. She sounds quite unstable, she probably needs medication in all honesty. It would probably be very difficult to convince her of this, but if you can't, you have to get yourself out of this situation. Try your best to get her help though. Good luck.
2006-11-04 07:31:23
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answered by Heidi 7
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abuse can come from men and women..and the abusee can be of both sex...but no one should stand for abuse and if you ask me which you sorta did...no matter how 'wonderful' it may be it is not wonderful...so take off the rose colored glasses and see her for what she is a narcissus who only cares about herself and to stick with her is to have a serious lack of self respect and dignity you are a person just like she and you matter maybe not to her but hell you should at least to you. best of luck...I'd run as fast asI could away from that. now as for why it is assumed because most of the reported abuse crimes are from women, men just don't like admitting they get beat up by women...
2006-11-04 07:31:16
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answered by TPete 3
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My ex wife became a cocaine addict and would throw things and even hit me with her fists if I didnt give her money for her addiction. I am twice as big as her and could have hurt her with one punch, but I learned at a young age not to hit women. She would use that against me knowing I wouldnt hit her back. My only solution was to divorce her. Just get away from it, because hitting a woman isnt right even if they hit you.
2006-11-04 07:37:57
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answered by Anonymous
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