im really trying so hard at the minute to cope with everything thats going on in my life. i have moved to a new place ready to start uni, split with my partner, and me and my lil girl are still hurting so much. some of you probably know this from my previous questions, but at moment its really getting to me i think it does more at wkend anyway only good thing is i get to spend more time with the lil one who is so grown up for her age and we are so very close. which is part of the reason i am tormenting myself, but really bad, i feel like i have no escape sometimes and so alone but ive made friends up here even two lads that absolutly adore me and want to take me out all the time and ive had the opportunity and i just cant get my head round nothing at mo. i gotta admit kissed both blokes wen been pissed but was with my x last week wen i went home and he messed my head up again. you know wot though i dont wana feel like this. im such a nice person to eveyone. wot do i do do ?. help.x
2006-11-04 07:06:41 · 15 answers · asked by angelalways 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
all them who say i need councilling no i dont im just going through a bad time at mo thats all. no need to be so funny.
2006-11-04 07:13:15 · update #1
also in addition to that wen your telling me to concentrate on my lil girl that is wot i am doing and thats why i wont get involed with anyone else. we do allsorts together, arts crafts, baking, all time favourite we both love music and we dance together. play games even hide and seek, most of whatever she wants i'll do.x
2006-11-04 07:28:18 · update #2
try to make some female friends. sounds like your a great mum,spending time with your little girl. but i think you need to spend time with big girls,not males. as they may be after one thing. i would stay awayfrom them for a while. if you do make some female friends and their busy at the w/ends. and your wee girl is in bed. that can be your time/quiet time. enjoy it. or if that bores you do course on line.something that interest you that can help your life and that of little girls. she will see a strong woman.raising a child on her own,getting more education to improve herself. and has good trusting friends.not drunken bums who sponge of her emotionally. good luck.
2006-11-04 07:41:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's lots of great advice here for you in the answers above. Indeed, look up and forward in life, with a great li'l on by your side to help you smile when you need it.
Weekends are worse because some of us have more time to stop and think about our own problems, whereas during the week we're off our feet dealing with other people's problems.
Your ex is part of your past and you are part of now and future. Make girlfriends, make menfriends and when you are ready, make boyfriends. If your weekends are not full enough, join something that will keep you busy and help you interact with new people. Hang out with those two lads, nothing wrong with that at all.
2006-11-04 07:33:57 · answer #2 · answered by NotsoaNonymous 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He seems to be like needing distance between you and he, what is going on in his existence throughout the time of the week that he's lacking on the weekends? you should appear heavily and doubtless you should hit upon some exterior help which incorporate counseling and placed across him into the communicate in a non-threatening way. To attack him in this situation, accuse him or placed him on the protective by any capacity is going to get you nowhere yet extra rigidity and pushing him further away. you have some homework to do nevertheless, go away him on my own and get to artwork.
2016-10-21 06:29:33 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get strong again before you get involved with anybody else. concentrate on your little girl and on yourself. or you will end up ruining ur uni degree. you need a focus and your little girl and degree will be that focus. dont go home and spk to your ex, dont know if he's the dad but if he is. get someone else to be there when he's seeing his little girl. you dont need this right now you need space. it will affect you more at wkends if thats the time you used to spend time with your ex. plan your wkends with fun things to do with the little one so you havnt got time to sit and think about these things. counselling mite help you. look on the internet for some counselling called people centred counselling, its not intrusive counselling and they dont push you, alternatively, your university should have a counsellor on site you could maybe talk to. but dont let this ruin your future, you owe it to your little girl. find some strength and ask for help if you feel you really cant cope.
2006-11-04 07:16:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Please do yourself and STOP reaching for men to help!
You have a child to think of and if she sees you with a broken hear all the time, then she will come to expect that to happen to her - and will be as sad as you sound my love.
Make FRIENDS - NOT BOYFRIENDS. Men come and go, and you will get hurt. But try to not go back with this, the ex sounds like a proper ****, like he is playing with you! Don't call or text, just move on with your life and try to be happy.
It sounds like you need a friend, focus on the ones you have and build on these new relationships - you may find it is better than someone's girlfriend.
Good luck to you are your child for the future.
2006-11-04 07:12:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stop tormenting yourself and cut off the X. Focus on your daughter and the new men in your life. You will feel much better. The heart has a way of wanting to hold on to the ones we loved. If he left you he was never good enough for you anyways.
2006-11-04 07:11:42 · answer #6 · answered by jmethod81 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
ur not the only one that feel hurt just try to be relaxed and enjoy life if u say u bin a nice person lifes gonna repay u dont look down look up appreciate every moment of ur life
2006-11-04 07:10:30 · answer #7 · answered by ♥yessy♥ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
aww sorry to hear u having a rough time!! it will perk up im sure!! u lucky u got your liitle un to keep u occupied... do u like any of these lads? why dont u let the one u like to take u out? give u bit of confidence and make u feel better bout life.. if u need a chat email me!!
2006-11-04 07:10:55 · answer #8 · answered by misslj76 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just slow down .....enjoy your little girl she wont always be little someone will turn up when you least expect it.. dont lower your self by getting drunk just to get a feller .. relax and live on your own a while... you will see things look better when you are calmer. ... and that will show in your daughter too .... good luck ...
2006-11-04 07:13:41 · answer #9 · answered by Pollys Mum 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't sound mixed up to me, you sound very brave. Moving, going to Uni and bringing up a little girl on your own. Hats off to you. Don't let your ex mess up your life.
2006-11-04 07:13:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋