When you are sad what do you want a guy to do for you?? Hold you or let you be?? Also: how far would you say is too far?? Would you mind if a guy came up behind you and picked you up?? Thanx!!
2006-11-04 07:05:34 · 9 answers · asked by Sakura 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would love nothing more than just to be wrapped in my guys arms when I am sad. As far as being picked up from behind...save that for when she's in a good mood.
2006-11-04 07:19:12 · answer #1 · answered by ♪Krys♫ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would like to give you some feedback from a guys perspective. When I see a problem, I analyze the problem and formulate a solution, then I fix the problem. This works with things like a broken light, a stopped up toilet, or a car that wont start. When it comes to those thing, there is no emotion that is attached, just a problem and then a resolution. I have had to learn that when a woman is feeling sad, or upset, I may not be able to "fix" the problem, which is sometimes hard because I feel I need to fix it. I have found, through asking and listening that sometimes I just need to hold her, sometimes I need to let her have a little space, or just a kind word is what it takes. Every once in a while though she will have a problem where I can prove that I am a "man" and fix something.
2006-11-04 15:31:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd like it if a guy would hold me when I was sad... But yeah, just let her talk when she's upset, and maybe you could understand (don't make her angry by contradicting her, though)... It's true that we all just want to feel wanted and have someone make us all feel better, but don't go so far as to start making out with her or something because she's in a time of crisis, and most likely doesn't need THAT type of attention... (we'd all think, "Why is he focusing on his physical wants when I'm feeling awful?") Hope this helps! (And yeah, it also depends on how your gf acts. Some need silence... some need reassurance...)
2006-11-04 15:14:48 · answer #3 · answered by Chocolate_swirls18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most of the time if we are upset and we are doing it to get attention we want you all over us. shower us and make us feel wanted take our minds off of the stuff we are sad about, and that works for when we are really upset about something you have no control over a woman, a good woman always wants to feel loved and cherished and appreciated by her man like she is his pride and joy and that when she suffers he truely feels it and does everything to make it right...it goes a long way with women...now as far as picking us up some of us are afraid of heights take that into consideration and we have different opinions me personally i love it but not ALL women do. however if your woman is a closet freak or likes being tickled chances are she'll like you picking her up, cause she has a fun nature and making her laugh will make her forget her woes even for a moment and when she looks back on it she'll smile....when she cries try telling her you love her kiss her neck and tickle her then pick her up and twirl her around when you set her down look deep in her eyes and say "it's ok baby I'm here to make you happy" she'll melt. ask any woman and they will agree all of what I mention is nice from time to time.
2006-11-04 15:10:23 · answer #4 · answered by TPete 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Would depend really on the reasons behind the sadness. It is always best to let the woman come to you.
2006-11-04 15:07:43 · answer #5 · answered by opinionative_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like to be left alone when I'm sad. Brought out to dinner would be nice though. NO girl likes to be picked up. esp. in a public place!
2006-11-04 15:08:32 · answer #6 · answered by PegBundyWannabe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would love the guy to just be there if i am said. I would want him to hold me! I wouldnt mind if a guy did that.
2006-11-04 15:08:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really depends on how your girlfriend deals with pain/hurt/upset,,some women like to simmer down before they talk about the problem,,some want a hug,(until you give them one)some rant and rave and that is enough,,for instance,,if i get angry or upset,,i do get angry,,i want to rant and rave and i want whatever upset me sorted,,NOW,,most of the time i cant get it sorted now and that in turn frustrates me,,i dont want talking to and i dont want touching because that in turn will calm me down,,but as often as not my hubby gives me a hug and tells me he doesnt care whether or not i want one,,im getting one,,i soon calm down and it does help me,,he has taken only about 5 years to work it out though,,before he took me at my word and left me alone,,the swine,,,you see....generally we dont know what we want when we are upset but we DO want you to know,you cant win most of the time so all you can do is live and learn.
2006-11-04 15:13:21 · answer #8 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coming from a female, I would say a hug would work.
2006-11-04 15:07:03 · answer #9 · answered by coolbabe1959 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋