His daughter is 18. He thinks if she knows he has met someone else she'll hate him. I had nothing to do with his marriage breaking up. Didn't know him. I met him 5 months later. I don't honestly think his daughter would hate him. What do you think his secret is?
2006-11-04 06:43:22 · 11 answers · asked by cece_isme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
On one hand, it's good that he keeps his girlfriends out of his daughter's life. On the other hand, four years is a long time. If you've been dating for four years, the breakup with the child's mother can't be too fresh. (I hope) If your boyfriend is unwilling to acknowledge you exist, it might be time to move on.
Some kids can be pretty bitter when a parent starts dating someone new, but at 18, the daughter should be able to cope somehow.
2006-11-04 06:48:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you allow a relationship to go on for 4 years without meeting his daughter? The secret is you are not the only one he is dating.
2006-11-04 14:49:12 · answer #2 · answered by donnabbb43 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually think he's being honest. Have you ever watched those tv shows where someone comes into someone's life, and the child feels just awful? Honestly, I think he should tell her, and you should assert that fact to him. Of course, the daughter may be upset for a while, as my friends have told me. One of them recently told me that his father had a new wife, and he was very upset. But all relationships need time, and if she loves her father, she should be able to forgive him. Just make sure she knows that he has not replaced her mother in his heart. (All of us need to be reassured that we are never replaced) I hope this helps!
2006-11-04 14:48:12 · answer #3 · answered by Chocolate_swirls18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably doesn't have a secret, he is just concerned that his daughter will disown him for loving someone other than her mom. Being that you have been dating for 4 years and she is now an adult, he needs to tell her and be honest with her. She is old enough to understand that her dad deserves love just as much as anyone else.
2006-11-04 14:46:58 · answer #4 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure why he thinks she would hate him. I do know that after my parents divorced and my sister, brother and I were raised by my single father, he would end relationships if they began to get too serious. He pretty much kept his dating life separate from our home life. He would allow us to meet his girlfriends but that was about the extent of it, we never all did things together, he never talked much about them. I always wondered what his girlfriends thought about this. He probably only seriously dated 3 women in this 5 or 6 year period. I do know that now, since all of his children are grown, out of the house, taking care of themselves, he has grown so much as a person. I think not worrying so much or feeling as responsible for us and our feelings has allowed him to focus more on his own and he actually got married this week to a really nice lady who I know makes him so much happier than his failed 19 year marriage to my mom ever could. Good luck with this and if you love him just stick by him. What I have learned myself falling in love and getting married, you cant always make yourself understand anothers feelings but you can learn to accept them.
2006-11-04 14:55:57 · answer #5 · answered by Laney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can only believe to think his secret is what he is telling you. but he does need to get over being the protective father and allow his daughter to face reality. she will be even more pissed when she finds out he has been lying to her all these years. Unless, he has another one on the side that she does know about and can't present you cause of it. 4 years is long enough, bout time he comes out of the closet.
2006-11-04 14:49:50 · answer #6 · answered by Mo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't pressure him to include you in his relationship with his daughter. Parents don't need to disclose their dating patterns with their kids. I give him credit for putting his daughter first. You're lucky to find a man like that. Give him and his daughter time and space. Show him that you can respect his priorities. Don't you think that one day, you would want him to treat your daughter as his first priority?
2006-11-04 14:48:18 · answer #7 · answered by tamster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you think his secret is, that is your question, well his secret is you! And his excuse for not telling her is a cop-out. If you mean so much to him, he would have told her!
2006-11-04 14:49:36 · answer #8 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he would introduce her to the woman he is serious about and wants to marry. He is right to protect his child.
2006-11-04 14:48:15 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you ask him?
how do you expect to get the correct answer here.
only he knows.
2006-11-04 14:46:51 · answer #10 · answered by PrETty iN pUrPle* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋