Seriosuly, I have guy friends. We hang out in groups. I dress cute & may have a crush on one, but I dress how I do for me... It's not trashy either. I'm 15. But the guys keep trying to make a "move" on me, even if I tell them I don't like them like that...But they keep trying. Why don't they get the point??? I've tried everything to make them relize that I don't wanna, but they keep trying...WHY???
2006-11-04 06:39:32 · 10 answers · asked by skoolgurrrl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell your chick friends. Make a pact with each other. Tell all the guys if they dont stop trying to get in u&ur friends pants none of you are going to talk to any of them until the learn to respect ur wishes. That should calm them down a bit...
2006-11-04 06:51:58 · answer #1 · answered by bubblesonme_18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys will be guys and you can't blame them for trying. The worst they can get is "no" and the best they can get is "yes". If they don't try, then it automatically is "no".
You may ask yourself if you are not being flirtatious with them or giving them body signals that you are interested in them. When we are young we are experimenting with our powers to attract the opposite sex. You may be sending signals without really being aware of it.
The way you dress may be part of the problem. It is too bad that things work this way but they do. When someone does not really know you, they make judgments about what they see. Everyone does it and it is impossible to get away from it. Even when you get older and into the working world, the way that you present yourself counts. It sometimes makes the difference between someone taking you seriously or not, or even getting a particular job or not. For instance, short skirts are different than skirts that come to the knee or longer. You have to ask yourself, what do you want someone to notice about you. If it is your body and you want that kind of attention, then continue to wear the short skirts.
2006-11-04 14:54:56 · answer #2 · answered by Lucid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are u doing hanging around a bunch of guys at the tender age of 15 anyways for? Don't play yourself. Young men at that age is always thinking about sex because it's something new they discovered a couple years ago. And since you dress like a girl, your going to be the butte of all of their jokes, comments, whatever. I would advise you to find some females that will chill with you when you chill with the fellas. If not, then start dressing like them, but with a little femininity. They'll think twice before saying something provacative or offensive to you, and start looking at you as really "one of the guys".
2006-11-04 14:52:38 · answer #3 · answered by Ebony da *Dimepiece* 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
These guys are trying to "close the deal". There are many tactics used in professional salesmanship to "close the deal". One very effective tactic is the "presumptive close". The selling person pretends to presume that the buyer agrees with him and that the sale is done and its just a matter of working out the logistics. It's very annoying!!!! To fend off these types of moves you need to be very direct and to the point ...explanation need not be given. Start off the first sentence of your rebuff with the full sentence: "No." Then make 1 or 2 very direct statements, like: "We are not going to go there." ...and smile and give direct eye contact (do not be the first to break eye contact...it's an Alpha Dog tactic). They will get it. If they try to get you to explain or if they continue to try to "sell"...then repeat a quick and firm "No." ...with no other words. Then break eye contact AND turn your back on him. That's a pretty strong message. Need stronger? Walk away. Need softer...smile, maintain eye contact and with confidence compliment their good taste in trying to "close the sale" with you by saying "Nice try." Then stay silent. If they pursue, go back to the full sentence of "No."
Good luck!!!!
2006-11-04 14:54:29 · answer #4 · answered by branchcaptain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All guys will try and some are more persistant then others. You must be sending out signals by the way you dress, even if you think it is just for you!
2006-11-04 14:43:42 · answer #5 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey it's not only your problem 80% of woman have the same problem...guy's are going to try and get woman goodies.Don't get pressured into anything. You'll know when time is right.
2006-11-04 14:42:59 · answer #6 · answered by nfld_girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to take a rolled up newspaper, and with a firm voice say "No! No!" whenever they try something.
2006-11-04 14:47:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are always think about girls and sex. Why do you think girls are smarter? Date one and break up with him that night. That'll send the message.
2006-11-04 14:42:39 · answer #8 · answered by Sakura 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dress up as sheep & the wolfs will approach.
2006-11-04 14:48:38 · answer #9 · answered by Poker Face 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They suffer from wishful thinking.
2006-11-04 14:41:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋