how do i get along with my mom?

Question

yea lately me and my mom are the worst together,yea we never had a great relationship as mother and daughter but not this bad.everything i do is wrong she thinks that just because i'm 17 i want do whatever i want bcuz i'm almost 18 but is not even like that,i think she should just give me some space she gets annoying sometimes.AND all she does is tlk about my BF and how he is not good for me,even if were talking like about apples she'll bring him up"ALWAYS" and it drives me crazy, i just want to get along with her,without her bring him up what should i do?

Answer 1

Let her know that you understand how she feels about your BF and that you are keeping her feelings in the back of your mind and not ignoring them.

Ask her to give you time to consider what she has said and to stay off the subject until you ask. Tell her that you want to talk about other stuff and don't escalate into arguments.

At 17 everything is so emotional and passionate. Just try to keep a cool head.

Answer 2

Teenage girls and their mothers........for some reason there is conflict in every family at this stage in life.

I was a teenage girl once too and fought with my mom over trivial things like you. My mother died from cancer and now I look back and wish we had spent that time talking and shopping instead of bickering.

Don't rush your childhood - once you are an adult you'll have all the freedom and independence you could ever ask for - and be wishing for your childhood and the good old days when you lived at home and had no responsibilities!

Your mom cares about you - teens interpret that as parents being too controlling. We are only concerned about your safety!

Teenagers think they know everything and are bulletproof. Usually mothers know best and if she thinks your boyfriend isn't good enough for you - I hate to say it but she's probably right. She's just trying to prevent you from being hurt.

Sounds like a great mother you've got there! Appreciate her because one day she might not be around. She's more important than any boy will ever be.

Boys come and go but mothers are always there for you! Just try to appreciate her. Also, I know you want freedom to go out and party and have fun - just take it slow!

Answer 3

Yeah its annoying when mom's point out something you don't want to admit is true. Why not sit down with your mom, actively listen to her concerns and then if they aren't true or unfounded, prove to her that they aren't. You aren't 18 yet, and she's still responsible for you. If you are living in her house and she is providing for you, then you owe her the respect to at least consider what she's telling you. My guess is that its weighing heavily on her mind and she's worried sick for you.

As parents we are powerless to stop our kids from doing really stupid things to themselves. We can raise them right, but when they get to your age, its just really a trust issue. Something has made your mom not trust your judgement. What would that be?

I don't know your mom, and you say you always have had a bad relationship with her, however she's at providing you with an above average lifestyle because you are posing this question on the internet and that means you have access somehow. Someone has to pay for that, and if that's not you, then you need to step back and take a look at things from her side.

Don't get me wrong, I am not saying you are all wrong and she is all right. I never got along with my mother and she was just evil to me and to anyone I brought home(when she allowed my friends in our house). To this day very little has changed even though I haven't been a teen in about 35years.

I'm simply saying, see if what she is upset about is valid and you just don't want to admit that this guy is bad for you. If she's wrong, then tell her why, and make some plans for supporting yourself. Good luck.

Answer 4

Wow, You And Your mom Have a lot of problems you somewhat desire to Confrount Her And Say This Isnt truthful! And tell Her What you experience, If She Takes It LIke A comedian tale Then tell Her Its no longer, And tell Her You Dont rejoice with How She Doest tutor Her Love For You. Then tell Her What Your dealing with. She ought to alter Her strikes around You And If She Doesnt Then pass On Strike tell Her Your no longer Speeking along with her Or Somthing, Then merely Wait It Off until you are able to pass Out on your person. Mkay.

Answer 5

look first u need to listen when she talk and make her fell like that u care about what she think, then u need to do some work at house so she can see that u are responsible, this may not sound like a good idea but tray to talk to her about Ur problems, not all of them just 2 or 3 and see what will happened then OK, and if u ask how do i know all that because i am 21 and i have a sist in Ur age and she had the same problem

Answer 6

Your mom is probably right about your BF. My parents were the same way and were usually right. You are also 17. It's guaranteed that you will fight with your parents. Your mother is worried that her little girl is growing up and now she's going on the defensive. I moved out of my house the day i turned 18 and my relationship with my parents did nothing but get better.

Answer 7

hey,she is your mom and she will never stop caring all moms do that okay. the solution to this issue is simple , you have to here your mom out okay and ask her to explain to you why she feels that way then you can conclude cause he is your man and its your choice and life. never yell at your mom cause a mom is the greatest gift god has given to us girls. she is your friend and when everyone has turned their back on you she will always be opening her arms and tell you she is with you. if you don't discuss issues and solve them you will never get along with her . you have to tell her politely how you feel and listen to what she has to say. she will not always be there so why don't you enjoy and love each other the time that you still have each other. love you and good luck

Answer 8

Well I pretty much did what my mom told me......up until I turned 18 then I maid my own decisions and only took her opinions as just that opinions. What I do now is usual agree with her or tell her what she wants to hear. I still make my own decisions. I just don't have to listen to her *****

Answer 9

As long as you live at home, you have to abide by the rules! if you don't like what your Mom has to say, just leave the room rather then get into an argument with her!

Answer 10

i don't get alomg with my mom, and never have. to save time from arguing and having her hurt my feelings, i just say yeah yeah yeah to everything and then be really nice and walk away. tell her that you need some space and just be respectful. it may always be this way. good luck