We've been living together for the past year PLUS & spoke of marriage & he says I am not wasting my time, I am the one & he's not ready & I will KNOW when he is. He also doesn't do anything for me lately "sexually". I do stuff for him constantly, like every other day(until lately, as I started rebelling). I told him that I am being neglected, and he apologized for that, but it's still the same. He hasn't "touched" me in so long & even before now, it was like a once every 2-3 month thing(and I look like a playmate)! It always is about him & getting his needs met. Also, since we've been together, he's had 2 DUI's, & won't admit to drinking too much & that hurts. I am so unhappy living with him since day one b/c I NEVER believed in living together before marriage. So I have let it get to me, A LOT, & it's been about a year since our "talk" & now he thinks when I bring it up that I am "angry" & "bitter". I am smart(just got my Master's In Accounting),got promoted & am beautiful. HELP!!!
2006-11-04 06:29:40 · 7 answers · asked by italianabella777 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey, it's not want you want to hear, but I think you better cut your losses and move on. Realize that you share part of the blame for givin it up without a commitment. You sound like you'll have no problem gettine a new guy, just don't forget the lessons you learned from being with this one. Best of luck.
2006-11-04 06:35:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT Propose to him like the first answer said!
Honey, I am just like you, I'm 30, Beautiful, and I'm a Professional woman--and I'll be dam*d if I waste 2 MONTHS a man who does not ask for marriage, much less 4 years. I'm been proposed to by 2 different, sucessful men--and I didnt sleep with either of them--so the no sex, dont live with them thing truly does work...
Look, your "man" is getting ALL the milk fore free--he has NO REASON to marry you..You are being used--period. you just got your accounting degree- Good For You!....Its time you cut that ZERO, and get you a hero. Put yourself back on the market while you still are a good catch.
Pack his bags, tell him its over, and get you a professional man who will treat you good and be a good lover that you deserve. But next time, dont sleep with the guy before he takes you to the church and marries you, and definitely dont move in with him--and you might just get yourself that ring. Good Luck
2006-11-04 06:49:56 · answer #2 · answered by Victory 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two couples I know were dating for 5 years before they got married. And they are, indeed happily married. Another couple I saw were dating for 12 years, and they still are unsure of their future. So, you shouldn't worry about the "no proposal"; now, if ur unhappy, and if he's had run-ins with the laws, then I'm srry, but it's time to break up. It's not worth it to be married to the wrong person who doesn't love you and who you can't be happy with. It might be hard, but sometimes u gotta do what u gotta do. hope this helps
2006-11-04 06:36:31 · answer #3 · answered by Caroline 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You crazy gal! Dump him like a hot potato!
2006-11-04 06:34:01 · answer #4 · answered by Daphne M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the only advice I can mention is to find a new guy that wants a committment
2006-11-04 06:35:28 · answer #5 · answered by scottb03gt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you HAVE to do is propose to him. Good Luck.
2006-11-04 06:32:32 · answer #6 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why buy the cow when the milk is free?
2006-11-04 06:36:45 · answer #7 · answered by onelonevoice 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋