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I am a middle class girl working at a major retail store stocking the shelves at night. (You can probably guess what it is). I also go to college and am majoring in Economics with a year and a half to go. There is a guy who is older that seemed to show interest in me and he came in to chat last night. He had just gotten off of work so he was all dressed up and it got around to what are you going to do after college. Truth is I don't know.. I don't have much direction. Meanwhile his father is a doctor and his brother is a doctor.. he is a technician for a wireless company. I started getting extremely nervous and insecure. I guess I was wondering how to further this relationship which is just friendly talking right now into something further without feeling like he is infinitely superior to me?? Did acting completely insecure ruin this?
2006-11-04 06:05:57 · 13 answers · asked by nothingconstant 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Insecurity is normal to feel when ppl around you have their life all in order. Some ppl take longer to decide on what they are going to do with their life, I did not graduate college till I was 29...I went back late but now I know what I really want to do. I would not worry about ruining a potential relationship.
2006-11-04 06:10:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, having money doesn't make someone superior and not having it doesn't make them inferior. I've been in both positions, and I'm the same person. Also, let's hope he likes you for you. I don't know how insecure you were acting to know if it ruined it, but just try to relax and be yourself. Honestly, being happy is more important that being loaded, though both is a pretty good situation.
2006-11-04 06:10:40 · answer #2 · answered by M H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no point in lying hun,,i mean,,if you do start dating and you dont have any direction,,dont you think he will notice,,you are by no means alone in not knowing what you want to do with yourself ,,but who cares,,you are doing something positive,,you are not living on dss,you are studying and working so why feel insecure,,if he cant accept you just dont know what you are going to do he isnt for you anyway and thinking about it,,,would you want to date someone so shallow?be yourself,you have nothing to be ashamed of . you will end up doing whatever you end up doing and it may be nothing like what you thought but if it makes you happy,,stuff what others think i say.i know someone,,a friend of my brothers,,and he cleans drains for a living,,he actually loves it,,the hard work,,the open space,,it isnt a job i would personally do but when he speaks of his work you never,ever hear an apology for it,,you can hear how happy he is and that comes across more than anything others think. who,s going to tell him he could do better? not me.
2006-11-04 06:15:30 · answer #3 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not at all. He obviously likes you (as a friend) if he continues to make small talk with you at work. Not everyone is tainted by the lines of class...and you have no reason to think that you are of a lower class because you work hard! Going to college shows that you have motivation and that you are obviously not going to work at Wal-Mart for the rest of your life.
2006-11-04 06:10:21 · answer #4 · answered by smellyfoot ™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello,
well we are all human and money doesn't matter....because we all had to start from the bottom up.....and some of us are what you call born in to money and some of us have to work hard for the money we get.....so if he is really worth it he will come back and talk to you no matter what the salary you make....money is evil and some of us take it for granted....and some of us don't have any......and the ones that were born into it may just lose it.....no one is better than the other and we all bleed red and if something were to happen we all look the same......look at 9/11.....we all came to gether money or no money....so if he is worth it he will come back to talk.....
2006-11-04 06:13:02 · answer #5 · answered by wendy p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My true love is one of the worlds richest. I've been one of the poorest in my country, but she loved me because I was full of ideas even ones that have damaged some of her business.
What I do know is that if it was meant to be you will learn to feel comfortable with each other and the rest is easy, but this is especially true if you have something that he wants.
2006-11-04 06:15:29 · answer #6 · answered by lord_andys_new_id 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. If it were meant to be than so be it. Just be his friend and what ever happens happens, money doesn't really matter if you are right for each other. Having more money than you doesn't make him superior to you.
2006-11-04 06:12:11 · answer #7 · answered by miss m. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try focusing on things you have in common not the difference in how much you make.
2006-11-04 06:08:05 · answer #8 · answered by movin12006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, he likes you, I don't even think he cares about how much money you have. Besides it's better if he's making more than you....
2006-11-04 06:10:13 · answer #9 · answered by Bibi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus on what you are going to do with your life when you graduate for starters.
2006-11-04 06:15:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋