my boyfriend and i have three kids together. Up until recently he has been the most wonderful povider, father, and boyfriend that a gal could ask for. well, a few months ago he met up with one of his old highschool buddies that he had not seen for a long time. this buddy of his is a total loser. he lives a t home with his dad and drinks all day. since my boyfriend started hanging out with him he has lost his job and is drinking every night. this is creating problems with our relationship. even though he waits until the kids go to sleep to drink. he is becoming less responsible, it is cutting into our alone time, and he is a total *** the next day because of his hangover. am i over reacting? should i just si tback and watch him screw up our lives? what can i do?
2006-11-04 06:00:45 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
councelling? AA meetings? how bout just sitting down and telling him how much u respected him and loved the life you had and letting him know that if any of that was important to him too then it's time he smartened up b4 he loses it all.
2006-11-04 06:07:49 · answer #1 · answered by meme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have a long talk with him. If he is changing completely from the man he was, that is dangerous, to himself and your relationship. You have children together, without a job, how are you going to support these children. Drinking all day leads to absolutely nothing but the grave. You and your children deserve more than that as well as your boyfriend. He has to be careful about this ex friend, people that have nothing and have habits such as this friend have an uncanny way to drag someone under. Misery loves company. He sees all that your boyfriend has, and is trying his best to see him lose it all, don't let this happen. Tell him of your love for him, and the children's love for him, tell him he is a good man and you don't want to see him lose everything he has worked for. It's fine if he wants to have a little fun, who doesn't. When you compromise your family and livelihood, you are doing an injustice to them as well as yourself. Best of luck to you, and your boyfriend, I hope he finds his way back.
2006-11-04 06:12:45 · answer #2 · answered by june clever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely, this tale sounds to me like he thinks you adult men are shifting somewhat too quickly. adult men tend to be greater slowy-down kinda human beings. they do unlike rushnig. in case you have been at the same time for under a million 3 hundred and sixty 5 days, you haven't any longer have been given any reason to be offended. He nevertheless has to get to renowned you. such as you, he would not understand what the destiny will carry. he's in all probability puzzled and he feels somewhat rushed. you need to think of roughly taking a million day at a time. via ways, i'm basically 13!
2016-10-15 09:16:17 · answer #3 · answered by cordier 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That doesnt sound like lil problems to me. A guy losing his job, acting not responsible, creating problems along wth you..then there is issues! major ones... if his friend can influence him to be like this than you got the right to be mad at him. Yes, you can say he is stupid enough not to think for himself and for you guys. You should talk to him. If he is still like this than show him how angry you are with him. Show him that your really upset becuz of his loser friend. If that don't do.. then I suggest a time out. Maybe time can help. Maybe than he can realize with out you being in his life. But i'm pretty sure.. he is having fun with his guy friend but he still loves you the same. Right now is his friend. The whole thing is about his friend influencing him. Talk him out !
2006-11-04 06:17:14 · answer #4 · answered by ceci 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell this guy if he wants to be with you and your children that the drinking has to go! It's one thing to drink on the weekends casually with your buddies, but when it interferes with your home life and your work life that's when you know that you have a real problem.
2006-11-04 06:03:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he feels his is missing out on having fun. You are not overreacting, I know how you feel. If he doesn't think it is a problem though you won't be able to solve anything. You will only be able to fix things if he sees that it is a problem in the realtionship
2006-11-04 06:04:40 · answer #6 · answered by Angel2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't just sit back and watch your previously great relationship go to hell. You need to talk to him about this and it may require talking in a safe, refereed environment like a marriage counselor. It sounds like he is a good guy that has just lost his way momentarily.
2006-11-04 06:03:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you need to give him a option your freind or me and the kids let him know how you feel dont let him do this to you and your kids let him know he needs to get off his *** and get a job because you and the kids cant live off of beer and him sitting on his *** good luck
2006-11-04 06:06:01 · answer #8 · answered by mandysosexy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better act quickly. It isn't just you, it's 3 children who look to you to do what's right for their safety and well being.
2006-11-04 06:03:15 · answer #9 · answered by Rich B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu talk to him and let him know exactly how you feel and if he doensn't change you have to leave hime. He cannot bring you and your kids down with him.
2006-11-04 06:03:25 · answer #10 · answered by schell_75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋