My Daughter is 12 and half and she started her period. My husband and I agreed that when our girls started birth control was gonna come into play. I would also like to say we have a very open home, we talk about everything and have really good relationships with our girls but there is always those situations that manage to just happen. Not everything in life is planned. I know I had sex at 13 and it was not planned. PLEASE ALL ANSWERS ARE WELCOME AND I AM OPEN TO ANY ADVICE. WE JUST WANT TO BE SAFE AS WELL AS DO WHAT IS BEST FOR HER. TY
2006-11-04 05:42:53 · 21 answers · asked by cjpburgess 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You and your husband are to be commended for being open minded enough to see that no matter how much we talk to our kids things do happen. My daughter is 14 and although she is not allowed to date she has been on the pill since she was 13. I have been called a horrible mother for it but oh well I might be but with everything else going on with kids today I don't need or want for my child to have to deal with an unplanned pregnancy and I was a teenage girl and my mother always talked and let us ask anything and told us it would be best to wait until were married but guess what me nor my sisters did and my sister ended up with a baby at 17. This is one way of protecting your daughter not to mention when a girl first starts her period they can be irregular and this can get her to where she knows when and less likely to have an embarrassing accident at school as well as it can help with complexion problems. Just explain to her that although you are not condoning her having sex and really hope she will wait that you want her to be protected no matter what, and go one step farther when she does start dating get her some condoms as well.
2006-11-04 06:12:23 · answer #1 · answered by Martha S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my period as well started at 12 almost 13, and my mom had me on a birth control option at 14 and it wasn't because she was saying it was okay to have sex, but because in the event that it did happen she wanted to me to be safe because there is so much going on these days. So many disease and that is what you need to express to your girls more than anything, in the past everyone use to be worried about pregnancy now you need to worry about something deadly. Anyway just talk to them and explain why it is that you want them on something, however I believe that birth control pills are not the best option for someone so young., because adults tend to have problems remembering let alone teenagers remembering. God bless, and good luck
2006-11-04 08:08:10 · answer #2 · answered by cheryl m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By giving her birth control you are condoning sex. There a lot of thing that sex brings these days that birth control can not protect against. Teach her about STDs and a trip to the clinic where these disease are treated in in order. That true love waits and just because you did it at 13 try to help them how you were not ready for that. This will take a lot of soul searching. GOOD Luck
2006-11-04 05:50:32 · answer #3 · answered by Andrew B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's good that you and your husband agree about the safety and the welfare of your children. I know like you say some things are not planned. If your relationship is that good why want you talk to your daugther about it. If she is liking little boys I say it's not to soon. Since your going to get the birth control don't just stop there get the condoms too. Let her know about the diseases out there as well. It's better to be careful now then sorry later. Good Luck and GOD BLESS!!!!!
2006-11-04 06:03:57 · answer #4 · answered by kryptonnite2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with everybody who says 12 is too young.
She shouldn't be thinking about that kind of stuff till she is married. If she doesn't wait and actually does do it then not only is she risking to die during labor (because she is not done developing and maturing-physically and mentally) and also she will not be able to have a regular life because she will be taking care of a kid.
Encourage her to have kids when she is happily married and is at least in her twenties. This is the best for her because I'm sure you really love her and don't want her to risk losing her life by having kids at such a young age.
2006-11-04 06:01:39 · answer #5 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, girls and guys shouldn't be 'messing' around at such young ages, and birth control is not an appropriate answer to it. I had to start taking BC because of a hormonal imbalance in my body, and to me it's important in order to stay healthy. Just because I take the pill does not mean that I should start messing around with people. I take it because I need my hormones balanced, otherwise I become very ill. Birth control is not an option. The way you are making it sound is that you want to give your girls birth control so they don't get pregnant. If you don't want them to get pregnant, don't let them mess around! Your girls should save themselves for ONE guy, the man they marry, no one else. But to sum this all up, birth control is not the right answer, and that in my opinion is not the way to teach your girls not to get pregnant. If you have an open and good relationship with your daughters, they will respect you if you say "no sex", and save yourself. If you stress it to them that it is important to them, and will become important one day to the guy they marry, they will probably respect you, and won't mess up.
2006-11-04 06:19:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter was once sixteen while she acquired on beginning manage and if she could have attempted to be sexually lively earlier than that age then she could had been on it previous. There had been a few men and women who stated that it was once like I was once giving her permission and will have to instruct abstinence. I do not don't forget soliciting for permission and was once preached abstinence and I jumped in with all fours with the intention to talk. My daughter is now 19 and has countless peers her age that experience 2 youngsters a few don't seem to be married and my daughter does not have any. However, she has been preached that if she does get pregnant that she will have to be ready to rock it that this mama had her youngsters younger and gave up the ones younger and amusing years for her and her brothers. My youngest youngster will probably be 15 in March and upon his top institution commencement I WILL fairly absorb in which I left off. I won't allow her to have a host of youngsters and drop them in my lap like my mom in regulation did to her mom and grandmother. Oh and he or she says she makes use of the condoms offered to her as good to thwart STDs
2016-09-01 07:07:17 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is so young but I know you want ot be prepared. Just try to be open with her she is now coming into the time where she will think she knows it all. Hopefully for her sake she will make the right decisions and wait until she is older. I don't have any daughters but I remember being their myself and there are many pressures and always wanting to fit in and not just trying to be yourself. Good Luck with everything.
2006-11-04 05:50:14 · answer #8 · answered by schell_75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is very awesome that u have an open house old that is what I was raised in and I think it is best. Congrats for not hiding the truth from your kids even if it is not always pleasent. U should consult a doc but I think 13 is just fine
2006-11-04 05:45:23 · answer #9 · answered by do you know me? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is better for her to be safe than sorry...but if I had a daughter I would incourage her to wait for sex. I tell my nephew wait until your married or in your twenties. You will understand people better, & you hopefully won't get used, or make a mistake you can't take back. I waited until I was 23 to have sex & I have never regreted that decision. My sister in law wants to give the kid condoms, but not really talk about it. I think it is telling your kid that it is perfectly fine to have sex. There are so many reasons to wait.
2006-11-04 05:52:00 · answer #10 · answered by shouldbworkn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋