I Have been dealing with my Soon to be mother in law and she has been a pain in the rear.. I am almsot 18 and my fiance is almost 19..but she is Over controling and yea most women you woudl know what i mean here. i really want her to accept me,but as i try to talk to her etc.. she usually trys to avoids and etc..it geos on..but i am getting so tired of dealing with her for a long time and i just dont feel i could handle anymore..but i dont wanna ever loose my fiance because i love him so much etc.. should i call it a break between me and him i dont wnat too but what should i do? espically when she puts her son always between us.. :( HElp please
2006-11-04 05:37:24 · 8 answers · asked by Andrea 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well i understand teh concept that id be marry the familys too as marriage is a choice but also what doenst help she is a lesibian and of course has a gf.. But i dont want her to but in the way,because i love her son very much and i dont want to end it because of her son,but im just so over whelemed anymore what do i do?
2006-11-04 05:53:56 · update #1
you are still very young to be getting married what you want now, may not be what you want 5-10 yrs from now. beleive me i know, if i had married the guy i was with ( i was sure he was prince charming, turned out he was nothing more than a nasty frog). but for your monster in law, if your fiance stands behind 100% you have nothing to worry about. just be yourself and if she or anyone else in his family doesn't like you than they lose. stop putting yourself out there just to be pushed away. but please think long and hard about getting married. you have along time for that. i'm married to the real prince charming now for 6yrs with 2 childern. his mother hates me but so what he loves me and stands behind me 100%. he will not put up with anyone being hateful to me.
2006-11-04 06:09:03 · answer #1 · answered by queen_bertina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't break up with him because of his mother!!!!!!!
You should love HIM for who he is... and not who his mother is!!!
Trust me.
My boyfriend's mother is a lot to handle.
She thinks that just because she got pregnant before marriage, she'll think I'll do the same thing.
Well see... I'm not like her.
She doesn't trust her son.
And that really bothers me.
That's why she's so controlling on him.
And he's in his early 20s............
So you've got it good....
Honestly, I also think that she's being this way because she doesn't want her son to leave her so soon. I mean, you two are very young......... 17 and 18..... for marriage. I can see why she's freaking out. Just give it some time.
2006-11-04 05:40:42 · answer #2 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Andrea,
I hate to say this, but when you marry someone, you are marrying his or her family too. Unlike people who can't pick and chose who their family is, you do have a choice when marrying into somebody's family.
Marriages have enough troubles with just the husband and wife than to have problems with the in-laws and out-laws too. It's the whole package. So, it might be better to look elsewhere for a relationship.
Good luck.
--Rick
2006-11-04 05:47:54 · answer #3 · answered by rickrudge 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
attempt to transform her to Wicca, and notice how she likes it. If she says some thing, like that tell her it is your faith and it incredibly is none of her company, and if she nevertheless says some thing, do no longer invite her anymore or spend time along with her. additionally tell your fiance approximately it.
2016-10-21 06:24:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem with my boyriends mother, but i also have boys of my own so i know a mother never thinks anyone is good enough for her little boy. i wouldnt take it personally, she would probably like you if you were not with her son.
2006-11-04 05:47:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont let her get to you if you love him deal with her he's more important than she is my mother did the same thing to my 4 year b/f and he dealt with it for as long as he could til eventually he broke up with me and its been three years ive moved on but i still hurt cuz if he would of really loved me he would of stuck it through for me just ignore her but stick by him cuz if not you could hurt him alot
2006-11-04 05:44:51 · answer #6 · answered by LilMissYady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the man you love really loves you, than tell him about your feeling if you haven't already. If he isn't will to talk to MOM, than he doesn't love you enough to spend the rest of your lives together.
2006-11-04 05:42:32 · answer #7 · answered by lariat_sonata 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he doesn't tell her to butt out now he never will. she isn't going to change either. run now and find yourself someone who isn't still attached to mommy. there will be many conflicts and i assure you married or not she will be involved in them, so unless you can deal w/ being married to his mother get away from them
2006-11-04 05:42:02 · answer #8 · answered by uknowme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋