iam a 42 year old mom , of a 20 year old guy, for 3 days he tried to help this girl out by giving her shelter as she was a teenage runaway, Instead of calling the cops, Or her family who are very abusive to her, I called the salvation army to come get her, Did i do right, she graduated from school
2006-11-04 05:36:30 · 10 answers · asked by trudycaulfield 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes, doll you did the right thing. She is in a safe place and who knows what went on with her. If it comes up she's been molested or raped that would keep your son in the clear. Sometimes the very one that tries to help get caught up in the blame. So give yourself a big pat on the back. Cause you could have just left her to fen for herself. Good Luck and GOD BLESS!!!!!
2006-11-04 05:56:27 · answer #1 · answered by kryptonnite2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say how old she was, just that she was a teenager. Even though you did state she graduated from high school, she could still be under 18 YO, and if she is under 18 YO then you could be commiting a crime, called harboring, could also be considered contributing to the delinquency of a minor. If she is 18 or 19 then she is old enough to leave her families home if she wants to and not considered a runaway. You also didn't state how long or how well your son knew this girl or her family. If abuse was so bad then why wasn't law enforcement or CPS called to investigate? At the very least Law Enforcement should have been called.
Also in response to Debra_Lee's answer, kids can and do run away from home for reasons that they perceive to be real, but are not legitimate reasons. Don't get me wrong but there are some reasons for leaving home but if abuse is involved then law enforcement should be notified about it. I have a G-daughter that is doing just that, and I have seen others that have runaway for unjust excuses, or just because they didn't like the rules of the house. I even know of one that ranaway just because she didn't like and didn't get along with her stepmother. Kids are not at the stage of reasoning and are at the "ME" stage, and before anybody says anything a lot of adults are the same way.
I have seen to many kids and even some adults tell stories that make them look innocent and everybody else look to be the bad person. I guess it is societies answer to the "Poor me syndrome, I am a victim."
I apologize if I sound synical but I speak from personal knowledge and experience. Also don't get me wrong I do not condone abuse in any way shape or form but it has gotten so easy to claim abuse in todays society.
2006-11-04 14:38:59 · answer #2 · answered by trollwzrd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she graduated from school she is around 18. I would have ask can I take you somewhere I can't keep you here. The Salvation army picked her up that is hard to believe, she is old enough to say where she wants to go. Was she retarded or on dope, your son is the one that was wrong, you don't just pick people up and bring them home, he is not baby 20 yrs old. This seems kinda like your son or you may have a problem.
2006-11-04 13:54:15 · answer #3 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. She needs more help than what you or your son can do. Yes, you can give her a roof over her head and food, but getting her the help she needed was the best thing you could have done.
I didn't know the salvation army would come to pick someone up.
2006-11-04 13:56:25 · answer #4 · answered by Old_Brat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing. She had to have been being seriously abused to have run away in the first place. Kids don't run from their families for no reason. If your son is an honorable guy and hasn't been seeing this girl you're in the clear. If he has been messing with her and is hiding her out so they can see eachother that's not right. I'm sure you know your son well enough to know if that's the case and you didnt mention it so, Yes, you did the right thing.
2006-11-04 13:41:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you did she needs help. Not for someone to do it for her. Don't worry you were right.
2006-11-04 15:59:23 · answer #6 · answered by Sexy-n-Hot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you cant help her out i guess it is understandable. let her know your there for her and accept jesus so you can repent from your sins and be saved.
2006-11-04 13:40:36 · answer #7 · answered by Dan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think you did .
2006-11-04 13:39:21 · answer #8 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you made it worse. He knows what he is doing.
2006-11-04 13:40:05 · answer #9 · answered by Briana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its diffecult to know what the right answer is.
just do your best.
2006-11-04 13:39:44 · answer #10 · answered by missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋