2006-11-04 05:33:53 · 19 answers · asked by PrettyEyes 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
They do have authority to spank you and anyone else that has consent from your parent.
The use of force, but not deadly force, against a child younger than 18years is justified:
If the actor is the child's parent or stepparent or is acting in loco parentis (grandparent, guardian, any person that has jurisdiction over the child) to the child
when and to the degree the actor reasonably believes the force is necessary to discipline the child or to safeguard or promote his welfare
2006-11-04 05:37:33 · answer #1 · answered by Amy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm..stepparents walk a fine line in disciplining stepkids. Most children over the age of around 10 won't listen to a stepparent, and are often resentful towards a stepparent who tries to discipline them. If they're going absolutely berserk, then maybe. But I'd try to talk to the biological parent first (if it is say, your new husband or wife) and let them attempt to handle the problem before I'd go as far as to spank their child.
2006-11-04 14:08:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the natural parent has authorised them to, yes.
They should discuss this with the parent before the need ever arises. At the same time other forms of punishment like grounding, allowance reductions, etc. are to be dealt out and by whom.
Although a step parent doesn't replace a natural parent, they are a figure of authority and model for the growing child and as such should share in the bad as well as the good of parenting. And the child should be aware of this. This will avoid challenges to said authority. As time goes by and the step parent eventually gains "parent status" this will not be a question any more, but to the child's eyes, the step parent should be as much a source of love, encouragement, support, education, fun and equitable justice.
2006-11-04 14:08:53 · answer #3 · answered by NotsoaNonymous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very tricky question, now why? The word stepparents makes it scary- remember the wicked stepmother in Cinderella? Some stepparents have bad reputation- so I would let the real parent discipline in this case.
2006-11-04 16:22:07 · answer #4 · answered by Taz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
Why is it okay for an adult to hit a child?
I watched a lady spank her kid while yelling "Do not hit your sister!" spank - spank - spank
What message does that teach but bigger people can hurt smaller people.
Step-parents have to be very, very careful with discipline. They want to be the parent but that takes a lot of time and respect from the children. It is not automatic.
2006-11-04 23:56:14 · answer #5 · answered by Lily 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the child is with you and its parent is not there then yes you should discipline the child, if however the parent is there then they need to be the one to do it. My husband and I each had three children when we got married and from the very start it was made clear to all of them that whether we was there parent or not we deserved the same respect as their parent did and we would show them the same respect but if they needed punished they would be punished and if one of us wasnt home the other one would do it. They also learned real quick that running to dad saying I got them or me telling me he got them didn't work, if you are going to discipline them you have got to have the support of your spouse and present a united front to the kids.
2006-11-04 14:22:21 · answer #6 · answered by Martha S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, NO, NO, NO, DID I SAY NO.THAT IS NEVER EVER THE STEPPARENTS PLACE. IF YOU WANT TO START A WAR OF THE PARENTS THAT'S THE WAY TO DO IT.IF YOU CAN NOT HANDLE YOUR STEP CHILD THEN TELL THE REAL PARENT THAT THE CHILD CAN ONLY BE IN YOUR HOME WHEN THE REAL PARENT IS THERE. IT WILL NEVER BE YOUR PLACE TO SPANK A STEP CHILD. I CAN NOT SAY THIS STRONG ENOUGH DO NOT DO IT.
2006-11-04 13:43:35 · answer #7 · answered by BLOODHOUND 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You damn right you can spank them. You run them if not they'll run all over you. My husband had a son when we meet. He was about 6 years old. He and my 2 sons were just acting up something terrible. I went to whoop them and my husband said that I couldn't whoop him because he wasn't my child. I told him if he's gonna be in my house he getting his butt whooped too. If he don't like it he can take his son and hit the door. That was ten years ago and he didn't hit that door needless to say. Good Luck and GOD BLESS!!!!!
2006-11-04 13:46:48 · answer #8 · answered by kryptonnite2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
only if it's an agreeable punishment. if the bio-parent doesn't believe in spanking you have to respect that. as long as I'm the adult , and I'm responsible for the children when in my care they will be disciplined by me.
2006-11-04 13:36:30 · answer #9 · answered by uknowme 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. My husband spanks my son when it is nessisary.
2006-11-04 14:59:46 · answer #10 · answered by bbear20 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋