Iv a friend who is the father of a 15 month baby. He is 18 and at uni. The mother of his child (his ex girlfriend) is taking the baby to live in england. He was supportive during the pregnancy and is in regular contact with his daughter every week and pays maintenance. He loves his child and doenst want to lose her. The mother wont reconsider moving to england. He wants to see her regularly and have joint custody of the child of not full custody. What should he do?
2006-11-04 05:26:32 · 25 answers · asked by Princess Peach 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
The mother is moving from N. Ireland to England and the father is at uni in N. Ireland
2006-11-04 05:41:34 · update #1
For the attention for sophiarose the mother drugged the father that was the only reason he didnt wear protection and she got pregnant - they ended their relationship because SHE was abusive but he is still friends with her for the sake of his daughter - he is the most amazing guy i have ever met and the ONLY guy i know who has actually stuck by his child.
2006-11-04 06:12:30 · update #2
He will need to retrieve a court order from the Family Court Judge to gain joint custody. I would also strongly recommend that they set up a regular visitation schedule so he can continue to see his daughter without drama.
This will eliminate confusion and keep things clear. If he feels by any means that she is an unfit parent I would strongly recommend that he obtain sole custody of the child. He will need to prove this beyond the shadow of a doubt but if he really feels that he wants the sole custody it can be done.
Either way he will need to go to court. A lawyer would be very helpful but most courts will provide you with a lawyer if you cannot afford one.
2006-11-04 06:30:06 · answer #1 · answered by ye 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The father should contact a lawyer asap, and file for full or joint custody. The mother has no right moving out of the country with the child and keeping it from the father , if the father wants to be around. She should be willing to work something out with him or stay in the states. He needs to fight her moving.
2006-11-04 13:39:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend should contact a solicitor to see what he can do, but if the mother doesn't want to live in the same country, he can't force her to. He may have to consider moving to where the mother is living in order to be able to see his child. If he's at uni and so young still, I don't imagine him being able to get full custody just yet, but he sounds like a good and caring parent and it should work out well for him eventually.
2006-11-04 13:34:02 · answer #3 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really a tough spot to be in...If she is moving away because of a better job...( therefore, a better means of living for the child) then the courts may side with her. I have seen it happen a few times. The mother has a really good job opportunity, where she would make more money, and judges rule in their favor to move outside the country. They look at the best interest of the child....nothing else....
Your friend needs to seek legal advice.....
2006-11-04 14:49:13 · answer #4 · answered by Cblack22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they were not married then he has no rights (except parental responsibility). And the court (in most cases) will be on the mother's side. The best thing is to reach a mutual agreement on joint custody or access to the child.
If it does not work he will be entitled to legal aid.
2006-11-04 18:25:23 · answer #5 · answered by Missie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not say where your friend is moving from, which part of Britain nor where the father of the child is in uni. All I Can tell you from my experience is there is no such thing as joint custody. only one parent can have custody. this is for the childs benefit. The best he can ask for (through a solicitor) is his parental rights and an arrangement for access to see the child.
2006-11-04 13:35:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think it is wrong that fathers think they have a right over the mothers life. if she feels she must go to england then she must. ryan air is so cheap it is a disgrace, so he can still see her...
as far as i am aware... the law says that the mother can live anywhere she likes in the UK... it is only if she leaves the UK that she would have get legal permission. as a result many fathers are spending there weekends in service stations on motorways just so they can see their kids.... a sad situation, but how about men trying to be more responsible about who they get pregnant or how they behave in a relationship, instead of blaming the women.
i only say this because i am sick of hearing men winging and not taking responsibility...and i'm not talking about money, i'm talking about the situation occuring in the first place. to loose a woman who has a your kid isn't and easy thing to do, i mean you would have to be a really crap partner for it to happen... but somehow there are alot of guys out there losing women after she has had their baby... and they all point the finger everywhere else apart from themselves.
perhaps the next time your friend shags someone he will remember to wear a condom.
2006-11-04 14:00:59 · answer #7 · answered by sofiarose 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Of course the father has a right to see HIS child
The courts are too much in favour of mothers I say
If you phone the Law Society they will put your friend in touch with a solicitor who will normally give a free 20 min interview
2006-11-04 13:31:22 · answer #8 · answered by toon_tigger 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you contact citizans advice, it's free, they should be able to help with Laws and Legislations, and give help to find the right low price lawyer, being a student he might be able to get legal aid in some sections, wish him luck from me x His guidence council at uni could start the ball rolling
2006-11-04 13:38:11 · answer #9 · answered by shiloh6662001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend that he needs to contact a local Family Law Attorney in your town ASAP. He has rights as the father the lawyer will be able to help better than we can.
2006-11-04 13:30:11 · answer #10 · answered by babygyrl11 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋