my gf was molested and she's okay. The thing I want to know is she is like anti-contact not. She doesn't even like shaking people's hands anymore whereas b4 I could walk up behind her and grab her and she wouldn't care. Will she ever go back to the was she was?? If so when? She doesn;t want to report it cuz she doesn't want to have to relive it. I am ok with that, I just want to know when she will be comfortable again.
It was a friend of mine who did it to her. Is that part of the reason she is afraid of any physical contact?? Becuz he was my friend??
She says she feels like it is her fault. It isn't though, is it? Its not her fault she's 5'1 and 90lbs. She's just a hot gymnast!! I love her personality too, don't think im superficial.
She says she doesn't know if she is worth me loosing a friend. I don't want her to feel this way. How can I help??
Could you tell me why she don't trust me??
2006-11-04 05:13:13 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't want to push her but even if you gently bump her in the hall @ school she gets all uneasy. How can I help??
2006-11-04 05:15:51 · update #1
I hate seeing her like this. I just wanna beat the crap out of him.
2006-11-04 05:17:36 · update #2
i couldnt tell you when she will be normal again... maybe never.... this is a big deal and isnt to be taken lightly....you need to help her cope with it... next time she brings it up or acts shy to you.... help her get over it and... NEVER every talk to that guy again because it will make her very very nervous and she will get permenently freaked out again....
good luck
2006-11-04 05:23:27 · answer #1 · answered by mojo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make her report it and get into some therapy. I have been there and didn't get help for almost 20 years and none of my relationships worked because that was always in the back of my mind. Because she thinks it is her fault she needs to be with other women who have been there to help her understand that is was not her fault. This is were you will need to be very strong and the most understanding you will ever need to be. She will take a while to recover and she may never be exactly the same. Please do not try and push her into feeling okay about, you have not been there and have no idea how hard it is to "get over it". But, please if you take no other advice, Get her HELP soon. All the best, stay strong.
2006-11-04 05:27:47 · answer #2 · answered by raspberryflavr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you gotten rid of your so-called "friend?" If not, theres your problem. If you have, it is going to take her a while to come around. Make sure you reassure her that she didn't deserve what she got. It is NOT her fault. For the record, the best way you can help is to ask her to report it, and stand by her through the process. It's probably the best way for her to move on. Good luck.
2006-11-04 05:18:22 · answer #3 · answered by kpie21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of that friend, and she should report it because when he gets sent to jail it will give her a small sense of relief. But most importantly she needs therapy, because she got to talk about so she won't live in fear. It is normal after this happen for a person to not want to be touched but there's nothing you can do. She gotta be able to talk to somebody whose neutral and work through this situation, all you can do is be patent love her. She will never be herself again, but if she survived this she will be a better and stronger person.
2006-11-04 05:25:26 · answer #4 · answered by Annie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i answered this before, but now that you added this, it makes it a little different. try and follow the advice i gave before, but it was your friend? you need to talk to him about it. why would he do something like that? do you really still want to be friends with him? maybe the best thing to do is stop being friends with this guy for a while. this will help her feel more comfortable around you.
2006-11-04 05:20:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋