There's this guy at work who I really really like, but he's not available, I accept this and we're just friends. I'm not sure it would work anyway even if he were single, cos we're just so different.
The thing is, whenever I see him my heart skips a beat, and I get kinda nervous, and it's the same thing if someone mentions his name. We were chatting on messenger earlier and I could hardly type cos my hands were shaking. I also seem to suffer from a loss of appetite when he's around, and he occupies a lot of my thoughts.
I've never been in love before so I don't know whether I am now, or if I just like him cos he pays me attention. I REALLY hope this in not love - what do you think?
2006-11-04 04:55:37 · 22 answers · asked by Kirsty 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I actually do know him quite well, as I said we are mates, and often chat on messenger and exchange texts etc.
2006-11-04 05:02:08 · update #1
Believe me I am trying to get passed this, but you can't help how you feel can you?
2006-11-04 05:11:42 · update #2
Well, it is what is a crush! But unlike some of the others, I suggest you enjoy it. Nobody has the right to say to you never been in love, how sad....sometimes we make connections with people, there is a type of chemistry and sometimes we never find out why that chemistry is there! Maybe sometime in your life he will become available for what ever reason and then something will happen if its meant to be. Crushes are there for reasons, probably to teach us how to deal with such feelings-just look at him as unavailable at the moment, great friend and enjoy the feelings he gives you. You said it yourself, you can't help how he makes you feel....just don't step over the line until fate presents itself, he is taken and thats that for now!!
2006-11-04 05:31:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if this is a case of infatuation. You are crushing on someone you know is unavailable, and you have narrowed down why it wouldn't work between you both so I'm sure that you are being strait with yourself and staying aware of the danger. I'm pretty sure it is not love you hit it on the nose when you said he pays you attention. I would be specially careful what his intentions might lead up to just be careful with yourself and remember he is unavailable this could set you up for big heart break and disappointment. And don't worry about the side effects shaking will soon stop and your appetite will return.Goodluck
2006-11-04 13:14:15 · answer #2 · answered by sweetcheeks 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In what way not available?
Married or just with someone?
Im going to go against what everyone else has said. Im a big beliver in following your dreams, this has to be someone special to make you feel like this. Im not condoning that its right to go with someone that it is attached. But do you know his situation - is he happy with who he is with?
there are several questions you have to ask yourself. How do you know he doesnt feel the same about you?
Follow you heart - it might end in sorrow but you wont know until you follow it - and if he loves you as a friend only he will tell you so and you will have to accept that and I know that there will be someone who also makes your heart skip a beat.
Keep us updated and I hope it works out. Doesnt matter what anyone thinks - you know whats right.
hugs chick x
2006-11-04 17:03:26 · answer #3 · answered by passionate_angel101 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you are infatuated and have a huge crush on this guy.
Love is much different and comes with time when you both feel the same way and are in a relationship.
2006-11-04 13:00:24 · answer #4 · answered by trixi 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
hi ya, yes i believe that u r infatuated. u say that u dont think it would work even if he too was single. it seems to be that u have answered ur own question hun. move on and find someone at the xmas party. all the best :)
2006-11-04 13:05:21 · answer #5 · answered by cerys 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Change jobs..... I bet the feeling will go away.
We can fall into like, infatuation too. but to fall in love...you have to start with a blossoming relationship...so I doubt you love him since you aren't even dating him.... you may be excited at the thought of it however.
Crushes can happen often
2006-11-04 13:00:16 · answer #6 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Its not love..just a crush..how sad to be your age and never been in love before or even felt anything like it.
2006-11-04 13:03:05 · answer #7 · answered by fajita 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's not available... move on - hard but you definatly should. maybe he'll become available someday and then try for some kind of a relationship. don't wait for something that might not come. i think infatuation.
2006-11-04 13:00:33 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Could be love, but since he's already involved with someone else, it won't help you get him. Your best bet is to find someone that isn't attached already. Sorry to bum you out though!
Good Luck! Life isn't easy, sucks a lot of the time.
2006-11-04 13:01:37 · answer #9 · answered by dodd319 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
infatuated. you cant be in love with someone you THINK you know. just because you chat online with him doesn't mean you you really know what he is like.
2006-11-05 08:39:18 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋