Does religion kill your sexdrive?

Question

I was reading an health article and it stated that if at an early age, if sex is considered dirty and wrong, it can effect a person later on in life. It can prevent a person from having an orgasm and feeling comfortable having sex.

I'm an example because sex was considered dirty by my family and my sisters created such a bad image of sex during my childhood that it messed me up for life. They always talked about how stupid it was to have sex with men because they would end up hurting you and leave you while you were despartely attached to them because you opened you legs therefore your soul to them. Now I am unable to open up and feel vurnable while having sex. I defended that feeling of feeling dirty about sex by not opening myself up to be hurt. I just know how to **** rather than to make love. I am bitter and religion is the cause of my upbringing.

Think about it, does your belief make you feel guilty and ashamed even while having sex with your husband?

Answer 1

All in all Christianity is bad for you and bad for our civilization too.

Answer 2

Hi Boopie, I'm not a religious person but I do feel that your upbringing was the cause of your sexual problems. It wasn't as much your religion as it was what your sisters were telling you. Think about it...if sex was so dirty, where did you & your sisters come from?
The problem with you not able to have an orgasm is because you aren't relaxing & I've found that it takes trust to be able to relax. You aren't generally going to open up to someone you don't trust, relationship sex is always the best kind.
Good Luck, Dear. ;)

Answer 3

The Jewish religion, in my experience, has a very positive and health attitude towards sex (despite what you hear Jewish comics say about Jewish wives).

But getting back to you - OK, so you've identified the problem. What are you going to do about it? You need to start hitting the bookstores for books on recovering from a bad sex life. You probably also need a good female shrink to help you work through this. The choice is going through life "spreading your legs and ****ing or learning how to make love.

Don't be a jerk - get off your a-s-s (pun intended) and get to work!!!

:)

Answer 4

Religion didn't screw you up, religious people did. If you think you won't get used when you have casual sex, then you are wrong. Sex between a husband and wife has no guilt or dirtiness to it. My wife is the daughter of a minister from a very strict religion, they don't preach that sex in marriage is dirty, they preach that sex outside of marriage is a sin, and medical evidence proves that it is very harmful to your body and mind.

Answer 5

You kind of answered your own question. I was lucky enough to avoid a religious upbringing. But even I know of people that say it's dirty, I guess this view is a hangover from more religious days, bummer. I don't think religion affects sex drive, it just messes your brain up and gives you a load of emotional baggage meaning you enjoy sex less. Of course religious organizations don't care about your mental wellbeing as long as the bucks are rolling in.

Answer 6

Actually does the opposite and frees me. Religion taught in fear is quite damaging and I'm sorry to hear that were taught sex = dirty. Sex in the context of a loving marriage has no shame or guilt, just pure love and acceptance. I must say though that sex prior to marriage did make me feel used & dirty even though I wasn't a Christian then.

Answer 7

It shouldn't. Supressing it and now having the authority to actually do it day in and day out in the privacy of your own home, I'm counting multiple orgasms. You don't have to worry about diseases and you don't have to compare it to the many other guys who just used your body as a piece of meat and a hole to ejaculate in. This guy with you married you and dedicated his life to be with you forever. Now that's more meaningful than a hundred one night stands.

I was brought up not to drink by parents until I'm legal age, and now that I'm legal age I love drinking wine.

Answer 8

no but I did have sex before marriage and did not enjoy it. I think there is to much pressure on women to achieve orgasm every time it is not an automatic thing for women as with men but hopefully will come with time and patients. let Go of all your bad feelings if you are married and trust your husband let things happen in their own time. I had my first orgasm when expecting my third child and it certainly changed my view on sex.

Answer 9

In Islam, sex was a gift by God and we believe that it is even something divine if it is only between legal wife and husband. Sex is defined in Islam as something very important in a family as to tighten the realtionship of husband and wife, and also as to continue the human generation (I mean to get child). Even in Islam, there are details on what you should do or not in sex(because this think will affect both wife and husband and also their child).

Answer 10

Wow. Umm, where to start. First of all, you stated your own problem -- all you know how to do is "****" instead of make love.

I'm faithful, was brought up in a faithful and conservative family, was taught sex out of wedlock was wrong and am now married and enjoy the fruits of a healthy, adventerous, wonderful sex life with my beautiful wife.

Sorry you are bitter, but it seems you have deeper issues than that.

Answer 11

Never been a problem for me. Of course my religion has made me stupid so how would I know. A sex drive is inherent to human beings. Religion didn't give you you views on sex, people did, however misguided they may have been.