I had my son 16 months ago and I am breastfeeding. I know that it is normal to loose your sex drive after having a baby and while breastfeeding. For a while I was completely not interested. Lately I think about and dream about sex all the time. However, when my husband lets me know that he is interested in having sex I still can not get into it at all physically or mentally.
Is that normal?
What do you think that is about?
2006-11-04 04:42:07 · 6 answers · asked by CaTT 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Its normal, your body gets physiological messages from your mind. If it caused pain once, then avoid it(what that message is). You already realize the message is wrong, take it easy on yourself. You'll get back when you're ready. The ladies on this site will be more help.
2006-11-04 04:53:18 · answer #1 · answered by relaxed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a "mommy" complex. Seriously.
I had that problem a little. It's all about this psyche that you're a mom, and mom's aren't suppose to be sexy or have full-blown, crazy porno sex. You may not think that's it, but it is. You're with a baby all day, and it's hard to get from mommy mode (pacifiers, diapers, feedings, goo-goo talk) to wife mode. It's hard.
I would have someone watch the baby, then go out with your man. Have a couple drinks, loosen up. It'll come back. Don't stress about it too much.
Good luck...
2006-11-04 07:44:05 · answer #2 · answered by still waiting 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a hormonal thing with breastfeeding and caring for
a baby but you should be glad that your husband still wants to
have sex with you because some men get turned off after the baby and either don't want to do it or avoid certain things.
2006-11-04 04:54:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes true that's normal ~ specially for breast feeding moms. In most of the cases, during such periods pregnency dont take place. Ask your husband be patient and to wait for some time! Its a building of family~ its not a game or liesure ~ its a process of continous efforts and hard work
2006-11-04 04:49:39 · answer #4 · answered by MY Regards to All 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it's hard when u just have a baby, i feel the same way i have 3 kids, my youngest is 14 mos. i feel unattractive because i've gained 30 lbs, but inside i'm like lets get down, also my body is tired it's just i'm outta whack and my husband doesn't understand that.
2006-11-04 06:39:22 · answer #5 · answered by mgm_5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your brain and your body are out of sinc. I think that it is probably related to hormons from breast feeding. But call your Gyn and see if they have any thoughts.
2006-11-04 04:47:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋