go... and forget about it. it means a great deal to me that there happy 4 me! like my bro doesnt sound happy for me and my aunt i sound like i disappointed her! so i just kinda ignore it and be happy 4 what i have and what im gona have and what people are happy for me? i mean my aunt says shes not dissapointed in me but it her tone of voice it sounds it! she means a great deal to me! and so does my bro he said congrats but he was like if thats what you want than congrats! me and my fiance are sooooo excited we could explode but between my aunt and bro they make me feel like i shouldnt be having a baby or enjoying my life. my brothers 25 and had one kid but lost it over a custody battle! and my aunt could never have kids so she thinks of me and my brother as her kids! so she thinks so highly of us! mabe she doesnt want to see us growing up or something!!!! but i feel like im letting my family down cause i want to have a baby is this wrong? please help and answer......???
2006-11-04 04:40:35 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You are not wrong for wanting this baby! Let them get over it. In my case, I was 23, and not married at the time. My mom cried, but came to terms with it later. My dad was VERY happy- he smiled. The happiest moment for me was when my great-grandmother (who I adored), said, "Oh goodie!!!!" when I told her I was pregnant. (she just recently died along with my great-grandfather in a horrible car accident :( ) Anyways, my mom's side of the family didn't think it was "right" in their eyes that I was pregnant and not married. There are several divorces in my family, so I did NOT want to rush marriage. I was in love with my boyfriend at the time, but we didn't want to marry because of the baby....but out of love. (we later married, but that still doesn't matter-we are in love, and feel we were meant to be).
At my brother's b-day party my mom had with her side of the family, I was maybe 3 months along at the time, well, I was talking with one aunt asking her what age her daughter got pregnant... she said 23, I was like oh cool, that's how old I am. Another aunt added in, "Well does that make it right?" (meaning I wasn't married at the time) I wanted to slap her! I said, "Acutally yes, we are in love, we are set financially, and we are so happy to have this baby!" I just thought it was funny because her daughter ended up in divorce. SO I always say, do NOT rush marriage and don't marry simply because of a baby... but out of love for one another and when the time is right! Don't let anyone else get to you, you have a wonderful blessing about to come. They are so much work, but truly amazing! You don't need stress in your life right now anyways... be as happy and healthy as you possibly can. Once the baby comes, they won't be able to complain... it's already done, and they will see such a cute baby and fall in love with him/her. My mom is better now... and my aunt hasn't said another word. If she did, I am a Mom now, I'd actually say something back.
Goodluck and congrats!!!! :)
2006-11-04 04:56:20 · answer #1 · answered by m930 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as you and your fiance are happy that is all that matters. You are very hormonal right now and probably can not think straight and everything is going to bother you. Like you said just be happy for yourself, your fiance and the little wonderful exciting life you are about to bring into this world. Your bother is jealous and your aunt may be too. They will more than likely come around very soon-- if not they will when the baby gets here, if not then ---- then it is their loss and they will realize it sooner or later. For now it is your time and your right to be very selfish and think of you and your baby... Have a fun, relaxing, healthy pregnancy.
2006-11-04 05:18:32 · answer #2 · answered by Karlee bug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's upset because you're pregnant out of wed-lock. Or, maybe she thinks you're not ready. She also, could be a little jealous. There are many reason's that she could be upset over. As long as you are an adult, and supporting yourself, try not to let them upset you. You have to live your life, and yes, I understand wanting everyone you love to be happy, but it never works out that way. She'll come around after the baby is born. Besides, any person whom is human can't resist those cute little baby faces. All will be fine. Your responsibility is to the baby, not your family. Good Luck!
2006-11-04 04:54:45 · answer #3 · answered by Dawn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your brother and your aunt have reason to be a bit envious. Not ill-feeling toward you, but just envious of the situation you're in, the time in your life you are living now. Honey, the same thing happened between my sister in law and me. Enjoy EACH moment of your pregnacy, you never get to go through your first pregnancy again! It's amazing. They'll come around. When you are bursting with joy, some is bound to spill out onto them! Don't submit to their negativity. Good luck, you'll be happy!
2006-11-04 05:30:58 · answer #4 · answered by misskenjr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember that it is your life and their opinion doesn't really count. You need to focus on your household and not the family on the outside. It is always a family member that you think has your back that doesn't really care for you. They love you but they are jealous. You are maybe doing something that they only fantasize about. They may even want to fulfill their fantasies through out your life and fell as if you are messing it up for them.
2006-11-04 04:49:37 · answer #5 · answered by cutiestorm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
an entire nighttime of non-stop, passionate , wild and freaky intercourse .... no longer the rest even comes close then i will understand for particular she loves me .. snuggle together with her interior the morning and tell her how magnificent she is .. enable her lay there snuggling together with her head on my chest , listening to my coronary heart beat .. she will understand its hers and its rather happy till then it burns interior with ask your self and desire
2016-10-03 06:44:38 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe they are just jealous of you. as long as you and your fiance is happy, thats what should count.
2006-11-04 04:59:10 · answer #7 · answered by soapfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't live for your family, you have to live for yourself, and the baby, sometimes your family isn't going to agree with you, but its YOUR life, and you have to not get stressed out because it isn't good for your baby....
2006-11-04 04:46:05 · answer #8 · answered by babyatgradys 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You and your fiance are excited...don't worry about anybody else...
2006-11-04 04:48:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you and the father are engaged to be married to each other, i don't see what the problem is...
2006-11-04 04:44:21 · answer #10 · answered by isc_alli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋