Why do we take things for granted when we're in a relationship and get surprised if things go off course?
2006-11-04 04:38:23 · 15 answers · asked by NotsoaNonymous 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What a mature question from one so young!
You have hit the nail on the head! The number one reason that relationships fall apart. People work hard to beat video games, spend hours working on them. People work hard to climb the corporate ladder. But people stop working on the relationship when they think they have won.
Relationships like anything else requires work, and open communication. If you are with someone who you feel you cannot share your innermost fears and joys, then you are with the wrong person.
We are all guilty of becoming complacent in relationships. It is just the nature of the beast. Which is why, if you don't both make a conscious effort to deepen the relationship, is is going to die.
I am really impressed by your foresight. It is a sign that all is not totally lost in the younger generation!!!
2006-11-04 04:45:13 · answer #1 · answered by diane_b_33594 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that people take things for granted in a relationship b/c they have entered a stage where they don't know what else to say to the other person, or they think that no matter what happens, that person will always be there. Sometimes, the other person in the relationship gets tired of the way the relationship is going and does not agree with the whole "I don't have to express my feelings b/c I know that you will always be there for me." My advice would be to sit down and talk things out, communication is the key to any relationship. Words were invented for communication, so use them :)
2006-11-04 12:45:54 · answer #2 · answered by Rah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it in our nature to take things for granted, and seems like between working and kids by the time there is some time to talk to tired and just go to bed without talking which makes it hard for each other to know how the other person feels...i have been with the same man for 19 years and sometimes we still don't communicate good enough....and yes he gets all surprised when things go off course cuz he is so caught up in himself that he gets all shocked and acts like hes surprised that there is something wrong...so I know this is long and hope it makes sense ....but I still think it is just in our nature to be like that unfortunately ....
2006-11-04 12:45:36 · answer #3 · answered by Betty B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as humans we can not focus on more than one things unless we are add, plus I belive we take granted such as friends, family etc.... thinking they will be there if the relationship doesnt work out. Most of the time friends will stick arround but they also have the tendancy to forget, the people we do not talk to , see etc.. we tend to get off in our own worlds while they are in theres and we all move on . The friendships might survive but it will take some tlc to get back what you might have lost while you forgot them in the relationship. This is just what I have exeperienced in my life and my opinion take it as such :)
2006-11-06 23:02:58 · answer #4 · answered by JNS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the question that women tend to ask, but I think it's because you some how associate expressing yourself will some how make you venerable or less then a man. You feel like if you give into what you feel you are some how giving up something in you or giving into her which technically to a degree you are you just need to find out why you think that is a bad thing or what do you think you are actually losing. I don't know if that is what it is but that is what I think.
2006-11-04 12:55:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it's just out of pure embarrassment. We let our partners see us physically naked but when it comes to our emotions, it's a different story. You don't want to be seen as weak. It's such a shame really. I reckon you could probably trace some of it back to the relationship we have with our parents. I know my mother finds it hard to express her feelings and I always try not to be like that
2006-11-04 13:52:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your just like most other guys. You don't say what you feel because you don't know how. We ave to learn to put those that we care about ahead of our own emotions. We aren't the only part of our lives, but some times we think we are. You need to give a man someone to love...we just have to do the hard part, making it work
2006-11-04 12:45:30 · answer #7 · answered by Montana R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we become so complacent in relationships that we are almost lazy about sharing our feelings. Reality though is that without communication, honest and open communication to boot, the relationship is doomed.
2006-11-04 12:42:45 · answer #8 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
cud anyone answer this question i think we can all be idiots when it comes to this and probably most of us regret it and hurt and have a loss. good luck if you can sort it babe.x
2006-11-04 14:19:58 · answer #9 · answered by angelalways 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
such a shame.....maybe if we could comunicate more we'd be much more successful in our relationships, and life would be a lot easier!
2006-11-04 12:48:50 · answer #10 · answered by Just passing the time! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋