i met this girl in the summer and we had a thing going on for a bit. NEver actually went out but we hung out a lot and one day we talked about a relationship and she said maybe. A couple days later she wanted to have sex and I am a 20 year old virgin cause I feel that it is important to me to meet someone I really care for before having sex. Then she tried to have a threesome when we were drunk? I again, had to refuse although I will admit it was difficult. She started sleeping with 2 of her ex boyfriends and stuff. Now, i told her I refuse to talk to her because i need to get on with my life in hopes of finding a girl that wants to be with me. One of her ex boyfriends is my friend and she made out with him in front of me 2 days ago. Now it seems that she continually tries to keep in contact with me and is sorry for what happened? Considering that she told me she wasnt over her boyfriend is it possible that she wants to be with me down the road? Or am I just lost?
2006-11-04 04:22:44 · 5 answers · asked by canuck131986 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Comin' from a dude...
It's very hard to turn down the occasional "intimate encounter" so to speak... lol... but... you are 20 yrs. old... you have held your ground (which is commendable... VERY commendable)... You are looking for someone who is "Right".... and she is out there... this girl that you speak of seems more of an infatuation... and trust me... if you do give in to her... you'll be the one who regrets it and she'll take pride in getting "it" from you...
Seems like all she's doing is teasing you... taunting you... tryin' to get you to give up something that you hold near and dear... I don't think that you are lost... I think SHE'S lost... and you need to stick to your guns and convictions... if she's back with "ex" boyfriends... then that should be an automatic signal to you that she's not stable in relationships... and is not going to be... even with you...
2006-11-04 04:34:11 · answer #1 · answered by grimmy19812000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People always want what the cannot have. The fact that she cannot easily have you makes you all the more alluring. A challange to break.
The villiage bicycle, (everyone has had a ride), is not the sort of woman you will want to spend the rest of your life with. Your own ethics indicate that you feel a sexual relationship should not be something taken lightly. This is an unusually mature attitude for a young man in these very promiscuous years.
One's hormonal urges sometimes make it difficult to see the correct path. They are quite overpowering, and are frequently the cause of bad marriages and relationships. You wake up one morning wondering how in the world you got stuck in it.
Give yourself some time to find the right person. Someone you respect and who respects you. Someone you want to share good times and bad times with. Someone you feel you could tell anything and they would not judge you. When you find that person, then share your love. But this girl is definitely not the right one for you. She has self-esteem problems that don't bode well for any kind of serious relationship.
2006-11-04 12:34:12 · answer #2 · answered by diane_b_33594 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Short and simple, if she made out with your friend in front of you that would pretty much seal her fate with me. Don't waste your time, but at the same time 20 years old, you should seriously start looking towards other candidates.Good luck
2006-11-04 13:07:17 · answer #3 · answered by kdks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would seriously tell her to take a hike down the road. He has issues and you do not want to get caught into her tangled web. They will get worse down the road. Give her up!!
2006-11-04 12:27:11 · answer #4 · answered by angelica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have your standards and you see what her standards are. Your hopes are not going to change who she is. It is best to keep who you are and keep looking for someone who wants you. It is nice to have that fantasy dream of someone who you want her to be to like you for you. She is not who you described who you are looking for. I commend you on sticking to your guns. Good for you. Keep looking. God has plans for you. Hugs for you.
I will say a prayer for you. I wish I could meet more guys like you.
2006-11-04 12:27:07 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋