Ladies, If a man approaches you, what makes you decide wether or not you are interested?

Question

I want to find a partner so bad, but I fear that no woman would accept me because I am not athletic and don't have a lot of money.

Answer 1

Hi AJ,

The most important things in any long term relationship are honesty, kindness, a good sense of humor and a willingness to be there during the good times as well as the bad. That said, the first thing that attracts me to a guy is his smile and the way he carries himself, with confidence but not too cocky or over the top. A guy who is clean, dressed appropriately and who has a pleasant demeanor and makes the first move conversationally will get my attention and that of most ladies out there.

BTW: Any woman who would value a man for his wallet alone is in the same league as a man who values a woman solely for her looks, both types are players and ultimately bad news.

Good luck and best wishes from bookyone :)

Answer 2

Because I am old and have seen a bit of the world, I would say I look at how some one carries themselves first, if they are confident, honest, thoughtful of others and clean.
To find a partner, I would suggest making alot of friends. Relationships are so short lived, finding a person who is your friend first and then a partner, is more likely to be long lasting.

Answer 3

It takes more tham the approach.
A man must at least treat a woman as an equal these days, or else you get nowhere. If you want a short term relationship, go for the bases ASAP. If you want a lasting relationship, you better become a friend first and foremost. You do not need to agree with her, but give her dreams hopes and aspirations the respect they derserve.
In return, she should do the same for you. If she doesn't, go fishing again.

Answer 4

hello,
well i don't go by looks or how much money you make, what i judge a person on is how they treat me and if they respect me or not.....looks don't get respect and money just brings evil.....but over all it is how you treat a person and what i would see in a person....i supported a man for 5 years and had his kid and he was on the thick side.....so i really don't judge people.....and if i am not living with you that makes it better.....i had a problem when he didn't work and i was supporting him......and i didn't care what he made just as long as he made something to help out on the bills that were acumulating around the house....but he wouldn't so there for i had to leave......i already had 2 mouths to feed and didn't need another when he was able to help and put food on the table...thats all i was concerned about....but some women do get money hungery...them are the ones that you have to look out for....but looks and money doesn't matter....it is how you treat a person and respect....because all in all its love in the long run.......that every one is looking for.....and that comes no matter you look like you could be green with red eyes and love unconditionaly.....good luck

Answer 5

First, I notice how the man looks. If he looks good, clean, and friendly he's got good chances.

And GUYS wear your best shoes out! Please! Any woman will tell you the shoes are one of the first things we notice. If they are dirty, old, and scuffed your chances just dramatically decreased.

Also, if you are not good at talking with women(and I say with a woman not to a woman) practice at home with your mom, sister, cousin, friend, etc. Practice with a female and know what you might say beforehand.

Also, it's not about how good looking you are (although that's one of the traits most people first recognize in the opposite sex) and it's not about how much money you have. Just be yourself without being obnoxious and you will eventually find the right person.

If not, ask Dr. Phil I guess.............

Answer 6

Well, if hes attractive, that gets my attention - then if hes not all creepy and agressive about it, if he seems genuine and not someone who approaches every female who walks by, and really just a gut feeling like if you can tell theyre a sort of person who is decent and what you're looking for. Doesnt happen often though. But I can tell you that a lot of women will be nice and give you a chance anyways.

Answer 7

So ur not athletic, and u have little money. I bet you have the personality a woman would die for o have. i love a man who smiles and is so polie, he dresses nicel, but doesnt have o have the name brand clothes. its not abut money, its about love, creativity and trust. be yourself. If she likes you and wants to get to know you, she would not worry about the financial part of the relationship, hey babe...go for a woman who sees you, not the society, but you, otherwise your fine. And if u dont have an athletic body, so what who cares, smile, and treat her like a princess. I hope you are blessed with one amazing women for one seemily amazing guy!

Answer 8

I am a rich gymnast so I look for athletics money personal appearence and self confidence. I also look for a person with a good perssonality. I need someone who will accept me 4 me( a 5'1" 90lb gymnast with a wonderful disposition/personality) Good Luck!!

Answer 9

I seem to be most interested when a guy is a real gentleman. I havea friend that is completely shy, but he always offers to help people, and women especially. Eye contact. Good dress. Those are key. Clean cut guys show that they can take care of themselves as well as their gal. Good luck!

Answer 10

For me, I find a man that is nice. Finding the right man for me is hard. I don't want a man who flirts with a lot of girls just to get more popular.