My daughter is 5 yrs old. She started school last year and she found this little boy that she became really good friends with. She went away for the summer with my mother to Portugal, when she came back it was like I have a teenager on my hands. All that she talks about is how she has a crush on the same little boy that was in her class last yr, and how she met a little boy on vacation that she also has a crush on. Its to the point that if you mention the name of the little boy that she met on vacation that she pretends to pass out. I was wondering if anyone has gone through this with their daughters, or if this would be concidered normal for her age. I wasn't expecting to deal with this yet. How do i explain to her about boyfriends and such things.
2006-11-04 04:12:06 · 21 answers · asked by fazugosgirl 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Yes, it is normal. I have a 5 year old little girl as well and she has had a crush too. At that age they start to act out a lot of things and they fantasize, especially when it's fueled by these princess movies from Disney. My daughter acts out the scenes and she does come up to me and tell me she likes a boy in school. Your best bet is to be cool and don't make a big deal of it, they cannot comprehend love in that way, they are too young. I asked her pediatrician and researched it and it's not out of the norm. So far I have had not problems with my daughter so don't freak out, it's a phase like any other that you will face in the coming years.
2006-11-04 05:29:06 · answer #1 · answered by earthstarlatin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is most likely that she has seen others act like this, and was probably told that she had a crush on these boys. If you weren't there, you can't say whom told her what. I think she is too young to explain the boyfriend thing too. She is young, I remember when my niece was that age, each day it was a different little boy that was her "boyfriend"; a term one of her friends had told her. Kids at this age like someone one day then the next they don't . Just let her be a little girl. I am expecting the same from mine when she starts school next year. Since I have been through it, raising my niece, I can handle it. I have no idea what my husband will say when she comes home with a boyfriend/crush.LOL
If it bothers you try to explain to her that it isn't a crush, they are just friends. If she meets someone that she likes then they are her friend, not a crush. Good luck.
2006-11-04 04:37:29 · answer #2 · answered by tnmomof2as 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, it IS normal. (I had my first marriage proposal when I was 6 years old!!) It's better if you don't make a big deal out of it, but just explain that it's always good to be friends first and fall in love later. Maybe you can give her some good examples about how to be a good friend -- to think about the other person's feelings and learn what they like. At 5, she's probably just beginning to be empathetic towards others, so this is a great thing to encourage.
Good Luck!
2006-11-04 04:17:42 · answer #3 · answered by phillipa_gordon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 09:12:55 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 3 year old already talks about boyfriends! It's terrible! Since your daughter is 5, try to explain to her that having friends that are boys is good, but saying he's her boyfriend might scare him away, because boys, in general, get much more embarrassed about that stuff.
2006-11-04 04:18:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OH YES THAT IS NORMAL MY 4 year old thinks He has a 16 year old as his girlfriend. He says he will beat up her boyfriends. I just let it slide with him bc he does not really know he does not even see her that often either so its kinda funny but she is only 5 it is nothing she will not do anything. like the others said its a phase.
2006-11-04 06:20:10 · answer #6 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does she watch on tv? Does she have older siblings in the house? Are you married? Do you have boyfriends? There are so many reasons why your daughter may think relationships are so important. She may just be mimicking other behavior.
Either way, as long as you talk to your daughter, and explain boundaries, I think it's normal.
2006-11-04 04:17:00 · answer #7 · answered by Slappy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe her attitude is open about such things. i did have my first crush at an early age too. and there was this 6 year old boy who used to send paper airplanes to me with his love note in it in preschool. media i think also plays a big role in this.
2006-11-04 04:18:58 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My little sister was in Pre-K and got her first "boyfriend". I t was cute. When girls are little they think that if you have a friend who's a boy its your boyfriend. Explain to your daughter that there is a difference in boyfriends and boys for friends.
2006-11-04 07:15:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a teenager myself and i have 3 little sisters, two of my sisters are boy crazy or aact like you daughter and the other one is more layed back and wants to be friends only, so in my family this behavior is normal, as far as explaining to her about boyfriends it depends on your beliefs and morals. i wouldnt worry to much
2006-11-04 04:31:07 · answer #10 · answered by lil a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋