I have a friend who now has a boyfriend but, they only been going steady for about a little less than a month. They already said I love you and they even already made the committment not to break up with eachother in the near future, possibly ever. My friend I think is a little obessed about him. She calls me and all she talks about is him. She shows me photos over email about him. She only hangs out with him and has not been really hanging out with any of her friends lately. She's even thinking about taking a break from school because he is doing it at the moment. I 'm not jealous and of course I want my friend to be happy. However, I'm just concerned that this relationship is not balanced or is not healthy. My friend and her boyfriend are barely twenty years old. Is this relationship healthy?
2006-11-04 04:06:36 · 14 answers · asked by brooke992002 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no. its not. of course some people the first couple weeks they go out are obsessed with each other and thats all they talk about but dropping out of school is the worst idea ever and if hes inspiring her to do stupid stuff like that then chances are hes a stupid prick. you should talk to her about it.
2006-11-04 04:09:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is too early to tell if the relationship is actually healthy. Let your friend have her time with him right now. The relationship is too new and people always tend to want to spend all of their time with the other person in the very beginning of a relationship. Give it a little time and your friend will eventually come around...
2006-11-04 12:10:19 · answer #2 · answered by katrina k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brooke, your friend is not lost she is just numb for the moment!
Do you remember when you were little and you got a new toy for your birthday or for Christmas? Well, the "new" part of your friend's "toy" will get old soon, and she will have her head and heels back to ground level! Just picture him as a little puppy and maybe it will make you feel better, since all puppys grow up fast!
So keep your chin up and enjoy your time with yourself and others and soon she will realize she misses you too! Good luck
2006-11-04 12:23:51 · answer #3 · answered by shellyquinn@verizon.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its not unhealthy but its not good. I think that maybe ur friend might possibly think shes in love but isnt really, some people do that. Or maybe shes been hurt in the past by another guy and is just afraid of losing him. Im not sure, but have you talked to her about it? Hope i helped a little.
2006-11-04 12:11:45 · answer #4 · answered by charlies_my_man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor baby, you need some lovin' of your own so you can stop obsessing over your friend's life. You must let go of the urge to constantly try to exert an influence over others. If they want their lives to turn to ****, let them. If they are good for one another-more power to them, but it really has nothing at all to do with you and it is a waste of your beauty and talent to worry about it.
Time to move on, give me a call and think about dinner. LOL
2006-11-04 12:12:49 · answer #5 · answered by RHJ Cortez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with saying " i love you" to someone soon, as long as you mean it, and it is a good thing they are commited to one another. They are happy together and its a new relationship for them, of course all they want to do is be with eachother. I think they should reconsider taking a break from school, but they are adults, but its a prety normal relationship, as ling as she doesnt completley shut her whole life off besides for him.
2006-11-04 12:49:13 · answer #6 · answered by Ashly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The "taking a break from school" thing is a problem.
Falling in love with someone quickly is not a problem, but this guy seems to be.
2006-11-04 12:08:47 · answer #7 · answered by stevejensen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be, stand to the side and see what comes of it, let your friend have a little fun. However, continue your concern, but quietly and be there for her always.
2006-11-04 12:14:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every new relationship is intense...some more than others. I wouldn't worry too much about this right now...give it another month or so to cool off a bit.
2006-11-04 14:23:00 · answer #9 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its the early stages of a relationship and its all new, if this continued for a long time then i would have to say it is unhealthy
2006-11-04 12:16:30 · answer #10 · answered by wblueyesinvt35 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋