Why do i think that the priests in my parish dont like me or is it just me as I am a good person. Is it just that they r picking up that im unhappy and they realise I am good or what is it
2006-11-04 04:03:04 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
i dress appropiately and always pay attention in church
2006-11-04 04:45:00 · update #1
since there isn't much background, one really can't say. i do have to tell you though one story.... i know my pastor very well - we went to the same small school and grew up together. he was older but was a year younger then my brother. it's a rather small community so.... there were times when i thought the same thing. then i volunteered in the rectory -- oh my gosh - what a nightmare they live every day! he has to deal with the staffing, the grade and high schools, the church repairs, daily masses and people calling and dropping by at all hours. let's not forget the home visits, seminarians, duties to the archdiocese and elderly patients in nursing homes and hospital visits. then there is his own family.... one sister in a bad marriage, another was battling cancer who recently died -- there is so much that goes on in their life -- sometimes they overlook the moment because they are already 10 moments ahead of the moment. it's a very hard life for them.
i would recommend trying to set an appointment to talk to them if it's really bothering you. realize it may take a couple weeks as you are one of many parishioners who all want their attention. in my opinion this is why priests don't marry --it would not last as their duties to their parish must come first.
2006-11-04 04:45:59 · answer #1 · answered by Marysia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you discussed this at confession? Maybe you could discuss it with a priest at another parish?
Are the priests a bit offhand with other parishioners? Could be tetchyoldgit is right and the priests are just overworked, or worried about their own problems, or just aren't particularly friendly/happy people in the first place.
You say you think they might be picking up that you're unhappy. What are you unhappy about? Could you be a bit depressed? Sometimes when people are depressed thay get the feeling people are against them when really they're not.
I think you need to find someone to talk to about how your life is going in general and how you feel about things. Do you have a friend or family member you could talk to?
I don't know how old you are, but if you're young, maybe there's someone you trust at school or college that you could talk to?
If you're feeling really down it might be a good idea to see your GP.
I wish you all the best, and hope that you feel better soon.
Pax vobiscum.
2006-11-04 12:24:01 · answer #2 · answered by mcfifi 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Why do I think....I am good, unhappy, am good. Do you think there is too many "I"s.
Priests do not like, picking up ... Too many "they"s.
Priests (and I do speak from experience) are imperfect trying to do the perfect. They are consecrated to God and are God's servant to man. They are to act in a Christ like manner, and your discomfort is disturbing.
I could go on, but instead I will make a suggestion: Go to confession and ask them. Tell them that you feel that the priests do not like you and are picking up because you are unhappy. Is there a reason? Just ask in the safety of the confessional.
Remember Priest are the imperfect trying to be perfect as Christ is perfect. In your case, they are far from perfection.
2006-11-04 12:29:43 · answer #3 · answered by J. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To have a friend, be a friend.
What does friendship mean to you?
What actions are necessary for you to consider someone else a friend?
Once you figure these questions, see if you still feel the same way about your parish priests.
2006-11-04 12:26:16 · answer #4 · answered by Lives7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can empathise but remember they are you human too.You must remember the road we are travelling is narrow.Then there is also misunderstanding .A priest friend of mine told me that two good priests gave up because of pressure from parishioners. Hang in there and bettter times will come.
2006-11-04 21:42:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what you think but not what you know.
Because you are unhappy, you feel rejected and could be paranoid.?
try having a quiet word with a priest and or someone within your parish.
We tend to make assumptions that are not true.
Speak out your fears and the truth will be revealed.
be assertive, but diplomatic.
2006-11-04 12:24:06 · answer #6 · answered by Roy S 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Most parish priests are incredibly busy. I'm sure that there is nothing wrong.
2006-11-04 12:09:13 · answer #7 · answered by Never say Never 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
maybe they don't approve of the way you dress? the way you don't pay attention during their homily? there could be a number of reasons why a priest (or anyone else for that matter) would be giving you not so friendly looks.
2006-11-04 12:14:04 · answer #8 · answered by mesquitemachine 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I don't know what you're talking about, but maybe you should talk to your priests.
2006-11-04 15:20:03 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ Rose♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont care what the think just go for your Lord Jesus , thats all that matters!
2006-11-04 14:27:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋