My daughter is 19 months and keeps biteing and pinching herself when she is angry or upset. What do i do?

Answer 1

Ignore it.........when she finds it doesn't get a reaction out of you she will stop.

Answer 2

we all pull our hair when we're upset but it's because it doesn't hurt that much. I would speak to a child therapist about it.
My sister is 23 and when she has a bit fit she hits herself really hard. We can't control her and I can see in her eyes she's got so much hatred.
I'm not saying your daughter will turn out the same way but just in case the problem is deeper than we think go see someone.
You don't even have to take your daughter, you can just go for information.
All the best.

Answer 3

When you see that she is getting angry or upset tell her " You can be angry" and then tell her to stamp her feet. It's better that she's pinching herself than others. Set an example for her. When you are angry or upset stamp your feet. She doesn't know how to express her anger or frustration yet, so she's doing the best she can. This is normal.

Answer 4

i know what your going thru cos my son bangs his head when he is fustrated or upset and i will tell you that this is so hard. i was told 2 years ago by a doctor it was a phase but now he is under speech therapy and the occassional check ups. i can only say that you inform your gp of what shes doiing and make sure you keep a diary of what it is that makes her do it. make sure you keep in contact and keep your health visitor up to date with whats happening and they will give you advice such as the naughty chair. it hasnt worked for me yet but im hopeful.take care and dont get too stressed if you can help it

Answer 5

At that age they do get frustrated try distraction with a toy, a hug, maybe music or a song can be helpful.I used this technique with my son who used to bang his head off the nearest hard object when he got upset or angry so i know how upsetting it can be. It worked for us and he grew out of it.

Answer 6

My daughter does exactly the same including pulling her hair!!

Its just temper tantrums and the more you try to make her stop the more she will do it!! Just ignore her and eventually she will realise it hurts and stop.

This is quite normal and part of their way in communicating. My daughter is 19 months also. Born April 2005.

Answer 7

Totally ignore her by going into another room, but check on her from time to time. My little one used to throw herself in the floor, kick, scream, punch herself in the head and pull her hair. I video taped the event and took it to the Pediatrician. He said, yep, that's completely normal, just ignore her and she'll stop. Be consistent my take a week or more of ignoring her tantrums but she will stop when she sees it doesn't get your attention.

Answer 8

I saw something like this on telly where a toddler kept banging his head against the wall, I think they ignored it! Its because she is doing it for attention and if they don't get it they'll stop, only intervene when you think she's about to seriously injure herself. Does she act in a certain way before she does it? Like a warning, because when that happens you could distract her.

Answer 9

When she does it walk away from her and totally ignore her until she stops. When she stops go and give her attention and play with her. Every time she has a tantrum do the same thing, she will soon learn that its a waste of time doing this and that all she gets is sore arms!

Answer 10

Your not the only one my daughter is 26 months and she has just started this and it is just a tantrum i have found the best way to deal with it is to stand firm and ignore any kind of this behaviour. when she has stopped and calmed down i then discuss it with her and explain it is naughty. your daughter will grow out of it eventually when she finds the words to say how she feels.

Answer 11

You could smack her hand and tell her no and that it's not nice to bite and pinch yourself. Then put her in time out for like 2 minutes or how ever old she is.