i am really interested in this guy but want to know if he is seeing other people too. i dont think he is, i'm really just trying to get "status" on the relationship. any way to ask a man this without scaring him off? im 27, he's 34. dont answer this is you're in the teenage set please.
2006-11-04 03:59:31 · 12 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we have only gone out three times so i dont want him to freak out if i'm asking too soon.
2006-11-04 04:03:54 · update #1
Well I'm certainly a teenager no longer so will attempt to answer your question in a mature manner. In my opinion after three dates you should feel comfortable enough to be able to ask if you are the only woman that he is seeing at present, and also let him know if you are or want to see others. At both your ages the bull**** games should be over and you should be able to communicate openly and honestly. I am also certain that you will not "scare off" this young man and he may even appreciate you bringing this topic up. Best of luck to you in your relationship.
2006-11-04 04:12:14 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Crystal,
I am 38, so not a teen. IMHO, the best time to ask this kind of question is when you've been dating long enough that you've discussed at least some of the serious issues (like marriage, children, politics, religion, etc.) but not so long that you've become a friendly fixture in each other's lives as this often leads to the 'friends only' relationship, whether it's what you wanted at one time or not.
If your lines of communication are open and you've been dating for at least a month, then I think it's OK to bring this up. It may be best to do it in a teasing sort of way, like telling him, "you know you might just be the one for me. How about it, kid, do you feel lucky?" or something similar but wacky. This will get his attention but in a good way and if he's feeling the same way you are it will make it easier for him to respond in kind without feeling like he's under too much pressure.
Good luck and best wishes from bookyone :)
2006-11-04 04:08:26 · answer #2 · answered by bookyone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
..The first date! Why would you want to go out with someone who is seeing other people? Dont put your heart out on the line for him to crush, find out the first time you officialy are on a date, teenagers know better ways to ask guys than adults, im not one, but just saying dont dicriminate just because there not as old as you, there much more clever at things like this.
2006-11-04 04:04:13 · answer #3 · answered by Ashly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quite honestly I ask on the first date!!! If he is interested enough to go out on a date with you, then you have the right to ask any questions about their social/dating status,(married, engaged, long term-relationship, dating or not seeing anyone right now)other wise you cannot make an educated decision about wheather you will accept any future offers to go out with him again!!!!
2006-11-04 04:24:26 · answer #4 · answered by "N"saysable 1iric 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on how long you have been seeing him...Has it been awhile and you think it's getting serious? Or just want it to be serious? In my experience, it seems like men don't consider you their 'girlfriend' until after 3-4 months. And as I get older (I'm 38) it gets worse.
But if it takes off like a bang and you see each other almost every day, I think you can be straight with him and tell him you would like to be exclusive. I don't think you should ask if he is seeing other people.
Good luck!
2006-11-04 04:04:57 · answer #5 · answered by twest_dgo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him as soon as possible but don't be afraid if he is dating around. Just limit yourself on what you will and will not do. Date around too if that's what he is doing, or at least tell him that you have something else planned when he asks sometimes. Good Luck
2006-11-04 04:16:02 · answer #6 · answered by kstfas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are starting to feelings for this man then I would just ask him. It's not like you are teenagers and cannot communicate with one another.
2006-11-04 04:04:26 · answer #7 · answered by cmsmith114 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don´t know , in Europe it´s perfectly normal to ask during the first date or actually already before....I think you have the right to know, it doesn´t mean you claim him or anything
2006-11-04 04:02:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask on the first date if you really like him. If it is just a sexual thing then who cares.
2006-11-04 04:03:16 · answer #9 · answered by michael h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right away... If he is willing to go on a date with you then he needs to be willing enough to give you a response to that question.
2006-11-04 04:04:05 · answer #10 · answered by katrina k 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋