I've known for a long time that he has a collection of porn videos on his pc and had made a point about them a few times. He didn't really seem upset about me knowing about it, even though I'm sure he must feel a bit embarassed. In the end he deleted them all, but then I found out he was visiting porn sites and getting off while watching videos online (I guess he underestimated my pc skills).
This usually happened when he was away or I was away for more than a couple of days. And even though it upset me, I've always tried to be comprehensive - as long as I am not there. I've always thought it was way better to do that instead of going to another woman.
However this morning I went out, but then I remembered I had forgotten something so I came back to get it and caught him doing it. While I'm not away. It frustrated me even more and he says there's nothing I should forgive him for, but does have the guilty attitude.
I don't know what to do to stop that. Does it seem normal to you?
2006-11-04 03:26:34 · 25 answers · asked by MH 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, jsut so everybody knows - I've offered to keep him company while watching nmerous times. I myself enjoy it a lot and think we'd have super great time doing it together. But ... he doesn't want. He's always refused. I don't know the reason.
And from what I see and whathe says, he is vey happy with the sex he has with me. I do every imaginable thing, so I exclude the option that he doesn't like my performance. However, I must say that lately he hasn't been that much into me...sexually I mean. And I see no apparent reason.
2006-11-04 03:47:37 · update #1
Watching porn is an important stage of a man's life. Some of us may be hooked to it, others are sick of it. There are also those who visit casually from time to time. First of all, he doesn't want you to to watch with him as it is seen as a failure on his part. He may see it as 'unfaithful' in a sense. Maybe he needs to watch it as a staple diet(addiction) or as a fantasy. It is neither right nor wrong. The tone you reflected made me believe that it is one of accusation, so naturally he will react defensively. It does not mean that he is less caring or loving you in a twisted sense so what you must convince him is that while it is not wrong, this action is hurting your feelings. BE FIRM. Don't compromise on your principles or you will be hurt later. Let him understand you. You must also not be so tough on him, give him some space. By constantly checking on him, you show distrust. Keyword is understanding - on both sides.
2006-11-04 04:27:43 · answer #1 · answered by FJY 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-21 07:45:25 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey dont make him feel guilty about it.. this is perfectely normal.. on contrary you should change your mind... instead of getting frustrated just tell him that from now you would love to see him doing that in case if he has excited by watching some porn or something like that.. he will be more than happy and things will change dramatically....
2006-11-04 03:43:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems pretty normal. You didn't say it was any particularly nasty kind of porn. I would only worry if he's into anything violent or sick. It would also be worrisome if he was no longer interested in having "real" sex with you.
You do realize that by making a big deal out of it, you are only asking him to hide it better?
I don't know what you mean by trying to be comprehensive. You try and do everything he wants sexually?
2006-11-04 03:37:52 · answer #4 · answered by punstress 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honie your man has done nothing wrong ,this should be a little message for ,that he ain't getting satisfied .so why don't you try to to make your sexual life Little better ,i mean add a little adventure into it. do to him things that he fantasizes about so that he wont watch porn okay .watch porn yourself and learn about how to please your man. thank the lord he is not cheating okay ,so don't give him a hard time .surprise him and don't make him feel bad for not cheating on you okay otherwise you will lose your man over something stupid. just so you know almost all guys jerk off once in a while so don't worry as long as he loves you and is faithful not with his hand ofcause but with his heart . good luck. try it you will see !
2006-11-04 03:37:14 · answer #5 · answered by bubbles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perfectly normal. Maybe he's looking for more excitement. Try to spice it up a bit. At least he's not cheating on you because it could be far worse. I used to indulge in porn when I had a girlfriend. She didn't mind, really. She did cheat on me a few times. I did object to that, however. And she replaced me in a day. So, see? Could be worse. lol
2006-11-04 04:00:22 · answer #6 · answered by Masta Batang Dollar Billz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For his Birthday why don't you present him with a large binder,lets say about 300 pages,of hardcore sex scenes and images.You must laminate all the pages,so that he can use the book for the rest of his days.It will take you a while to download and print them off,but I am sure he will be very grateful.This was he can enjoy himself whilst driving to work and such like.Obviously not on a Train.It is also a very cheap gift.I am sure he would appreciate this very much.
2006-11-04 03:36:23 · answer #7 · answered by BAKKUS 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should sit down and watch the porn with him and whatever the girl was doing you should perform on him at the same time, he will love it. The good part is that he will probably only watch porns when you are there from now on because he will be getting double the pleasure
2006-11-04 03:31:10 · answer #8 · answered by Shanana 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You should find out why he is watching it.Tell him it makes you feel uncomfotable and insecure and you dont want him to look at it any more. When i told my fiance'(boyfriend at the time) that i didnt like him lookin at it, he completley understood and said he would feel the same if i watched other guys, so he stopped, and hes hasnt looked at anything since. If he cares about your feelings he wont have a problem stoping.
2006-11-04 03:41:54 · answer #9 · answered by Ashly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't give your age, but since you are shacking up with the bf, I assume you are old enough to know.
First, yes it's quite normal for guys to masturbate. Second, why are you upset and blame him??? Do you no know that men are cabable of having sex many times a day, and that we are visually stimulated???
So if you want to be the center of his attention and get all the love you want, get busy and keep his weapon empty. When he's out of bullets, he ain't likely to be looking at porn.
2006-11-04 03:33:55 · answer #10 · answered by snvffy 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋