I asked a question before saying that how do you know if a man was after one thing , but say if you know someone,
and like you say no too him, how do you know if he might attack and assault the women meaning rape her,
Im really just confused because Ive heard that in most cases people get raped with they boyfriends, and I just worry about
how do you know to be safe with a man if you like him, and want to go to each other houses espeacilly his house he could do anything
so if I like someone, and we want to meet up , how do I know if hes not up to no good,
2006-11-04 03:12:17 · 17 answers · asked by chrstian jesus is god 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
forlorn hope I think your very stupid man
2006-11-04 03:18:05 · update #1
Take up self defence...
And if you are going to be constantly scared of men, become a lesbian!!!
[EDIT] You are stupid for asking such a stupid question!!!
2006-11-04 03:14:42 · answer #1 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First: If you think that the man may make something not appropriate for you, then don't be alone with him in your house or in his house. Always take with you somebody that you thrust ( a close girlfriend for example).
Second: Go to a museum, a mall, an amusement park, a library, a circus, a picnic , an hospital , a theater , etc. together with this man ; go to dance with him in order to KNOW him better, to understand the responses and reflexes in various environments, to decipher his real behavior under various conditions. So you will be safe because of the many person around (including officers) .
If you test him under these conditions you may easily understand his real behavior for you.
Third: Investigate his friends. Learn what they do when they are together. Also a man having lover education may be more dangerous .
Fourth : Alcohol and drug abuse is very dangerous. A person under drug can do something unacceptable.
2006-11-04 03:43:54 · answer #2 · answered by istanbulengineer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with those that say meet in Public Places for the first few dates, make sure you know someone who can be around to go home with....the reality of the world today,. is that you can go quite innocently round the corner for a loaf of bread and be attacked or raped.
Its a fact of life, and you can not base your life on what might happen (otherwise you wouldn't have a life) , you can protect yourself to a certain point, be careful with your body language etc until you know him. If he is decent then he will wait until you give the correct body language, and then he will be cautious and ask questions first! Decency comes from both sides, any attitude that is not decent, don't go there again!
2006-11-04 06:20:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what kind of attitude is this?? You cant meet a guy then assume he is going to attack you!! The long and the short of it is this, if you feel uncomfortable with a guy and you don't feel safe with him, then go find one you do feel safe with. You cant just meet a guy and assume he is an attacker. That's just crazy! How would you like it, if this guy was making assumptions about you? You never know, he may well be.. he may be wondering if your gonna steal from him.. im sorry, but as harsh as it may sound, its all the same. You cant judge a person like that and expect happiness!
2006-11-04 07:21:58 · answer #4 · answered by Bobbie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should go out with him a few times to public places and get a "feel" for him, it is highly important when meeting a new "friend" to ensure that you tell someone where you are going and who you are going with.
I also think you should not try and over analyze too much and allow your fears to dominate your sence of adventure, life in general is a risk and as a consequence once in a while you have to take a chance.
however, if your going to go to his house in this modern open society 9 times out of ten a man will take this to mean he is expecting some action. can i suggest that you do not "go to his house" unless and until you are comfortable with the associated implications that may occur chances are he will not force him self on you if you say no but be wary not to lead him on too much
hope this helps
2006-11-04 03:32:33 · answer #5 · answered by spongeford 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey sister,
Men do sometimes get rough with their dates or force themselves onto women. The fact is, it is hard to know.
Sometimes the nicest of men rape or force sex onto women, infact 90% of rapes are by people you know.
I am sorry there is no precise way of knowing. Tell others where you are and get s friend to ring you to check your welfare.
And - 'Forlorn Hope', you are a really immature person. You are low.
2006-11-04 04:16:23 · answer #6 · answered by Tatiana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to keep safe If you are not sure about him do not go out alone with him or go out to public places where there are people that can see you with him and a friend that you can trust to protect you from hards way. Are you a minor?
2006-11-04 03:31:33 · answer #7 · answered by Awilda R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time is important. people can fool somebody for some time, but none can fool eveybody all the time. give a little time and ask some questions, the truth will unfold itself.
be safe.
2006-11-04 03:20:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You get to know them first and build up trust. Dont put yourself in any vulnerable situations and if you get that eerie feeling about him then you know he's a wrongun.
2006-11-04 03:17:59 · answer #9 · answered by hayley a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
better get to know a guy first. go for coffee or other public places. go out with friends and always let someone know that you are with whom and make sure he knows that somebody knows you are with him.
2006-11-04 03:18:38 · answer #10 · answered by janice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋