I am a muslim girl but my oarents originate from Pakistan, so therefore they are very much into their culture... Their culture contradicts islam, they think it is ok to walk around wearing short sleeves and tight clothes as long as it is shalwar kameez (traditional pakistani dress), their culture doesn;t encourage the hijab because they are vain and like grooming themselves. I have started wearing the hijab (2 months) because i looked into Islam and saw that i should, but the problem is that it irritates my mum because my character is changing to adapt to Islam and we seem to be bikering constantly about this..i feel like taking the hijab off so i don;t have to argue with my mum..i don;t want to though because i know wearing it is the right thing to do but if i did i would wear it when i got married insha'Allah.. what would you advice?
2006-11-04 03:00:40 · 16 answers · asked by *~Princess_Lubnaa~* 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
will you disobey Allah and obey your mother in a matter of faith?
here's what Allah told us.
"And We have enjoined on a man (to be dutiful and good) to his parents. His mother bore him in weakness and hardship upon weakness upon hardship, and his weaning is in two years - Give thanks to Me and to your parents - unto Me is the final Destination. But if they strive with you to make you join in worship with Me others that of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not, but behave with them in the world kindly." (Luqmaan (31):14-15).
sister, Hijab is between you and God and no one has the right to tell you to disobey God even if they are your parents.
tell her to read her Quran and she'll see that you are right.
may Allah bless you and watch over you.
peace.
2006-11-04 03:18:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
Masha Allah, thats good!
Hijab, as you probably know, for women, means covering up their whole bodies, except for the face and the hands, in loose fitting clothes which dont show the shape of the body. The clothes must not be such that they attract too much attention. Veils are recommended, though far from necessary.
Anything other than that, is probably cultural.
You can wear the Shalwar kameez with a scarf, cant you?
Great importance has been given to obedience of parents in Islam(unless they order you to go against Islam), and treating them with kindness.
2006-11-04 03:25:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
A good one ques. I guess many muslimah faces this. By now you should know what is the purpose of wearing the hijab right. You see.. on your mum's point of view is more cultural. ISLAM is not cultural in any way. the west the middle the east of the globe practise the same way even before our time. So in my opinion you tell your mum that you believe what you believe. Wearing the hijab will protect you from wolves and monster(bad people) lurking on any corner. For her daughter's safety she will understand and will appreciate your hijab. No Mummy will allow danger to her own daughter.
On this case you have to confront her by explaining to her that hijab is not about fashion or cultural. Its about preserving your dignity from dangerous MAN! that has been taught to us in ISLAM. You know how BAD a man can be. This is 1 way ISLAM help and love women.
2006-11-04 03:16:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Do what you think is right in your heart. You do sound mature so it should be you're decision considering you're old enough. Don't let things hold you back hon. Talk it through with you're mum and what ever you decide she will accept it if she loves you.
Muslimah I also changed from being christian to Muslim and I did wear the hijab straight away because of circumstances but I felt really safe and comfortable in it. You should wear it slowly and gradually wear it more and more. Great advice :)
2006-11-04 03:03:53 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa 4 · 7⤊ 0⤋
May Allah give you strength!
I really hope that you keep the hijab on as this is what you want to do and yes Islamically , it is the right thing to do.
Please explain to your mom that , you are still the same daughter that she had proir to you wearing the hijab.
May Allah grant you a pious husband and for your own imaan keep the hijab on .
You will not regret it!
2006-11-04 03:09:29 · answer #5 · answered by All Star 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Why do some grown adult men throw acid on youthful females while they do no longer placed on a hijab? some all and sundry is threatened while others do no longer adhere to their own ideals. If all and sundry ought to stick to what they have self belief for themselves and allow others an identical priviledge there may well be no subject concerns. I replied a query the different day saying it is going to no longer be such an argument as long as its a call and have been given an digital mail from a guy stating it is going to no longer be my determination as in his concepts god has spoken of course what I ought to do and that's placed on one. i'm no longer a follower of Islam and that i do no longer for my area have any desire to gown like that so its uncertain to me why it is going to be imposed on others. this is the genuine crux of the undertaking. the different difficulty that does arise now and lower back is girls people who're radicals and use the drapy garment to cover weapons or cover their id. this is an occasion of a few undesirable apples making problems for others. there is no credible evidence on your supernatural ideals. in case you % to stick to them for your self this is fantastic. i do no longer discover them available and opt to no longer. If i'm incorrect and there's a god its between me and the god. Islam isn't for me. i'm going to gown as I desire and you and people who stick to Islam ought to do an identical. no person must be impelling every person right here. Your reaction incredibly shows your very own bias and soreness with people who do no longer gown as you think of excellent and share your ideals. So take a inspect your question lower back. you're accountable of an identical sort of blunders you attempt to intend interior the question.
2016-11-27 02:45:15 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have obligations to your mother and to Allah. The trick is maintaining them both. By wearing hijab you are obeying Allah, it is His commandment, so you should wear it. However you should also respect your mother. Just let her know in a kind way that you understand what she is saying, but it is opposite of what Allah commands, and she should not ask you to disobey Allah. Also let her know all the details of the reasons why you choose to wear hijab, so she will have a better understanding. Try not to argue with her so much because arguing with her in a bad way is also disobeying Allah's commandments.
Good luck insha'allah and congratulations on your very mature decision!
2006-11-04 03:07:02 · answer #7 · answered by hayaa_bi_taqwa 6 · 8⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to hear about this plight of yours.
U have to please Allah first then parents. Tell her U R happy this way and she should respect your beliefs. Try to stop the bikering, remember if Mohammed (pbuh) got tired of people mocking him, attacking, trying to kill him, there would be no Islam today.
Be strong but gentle with her.
2006-11-04 06:49:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should reflect upon the purpose of the hijab and why exactly did Allah ordain it for women. Its it really compulsory? Will you go to hell if you don't wear it? Will Allah be disappointed in you if you don't wear it? If you wear it, how does it benefit others? How does it benefit you to wear it? Do you like wearing it? What does it symbolize? Does it have a purpose?
2006-11-04 03:23:40 · answer #9 · answered by ali 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
sister follow wht u think is best for you. U r very right in following the jijab, go with it, even if ur mom doest allow u, because its loved by Allah, one day your mom will realise or else will get used to with it, talk her softly n tell her about your opinion, try to convince her, but do follow wht u think it the best.
2006-11-04 08:17:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋