How can we remember a loved on that has passed at our wedding?

Question

My grandpa passed away 2 christmas's ago and I would like to do something special at my wedding to remeber him. Any ideas?

Answer 1

Have you ever heard of a Groom's cake? It's usually a more casual, fun, theme cake. If you weren't planning on having one of those, maybe you could have a Grandpa (Jim) cake instead. Did your grandpa have a favorite cake flavor, sports team or animal? Do an internet search of Groom's cakes to get more ideas. (In the movie Steel Magnolia's, the armadillo cake was the groom's cake) .

Or, if he loved something else sweet, like chocolate chip cookies, you could make those your favors with a "in loving memory of grandpa" sticker or tag attached to it.

Instead of traditional favors, make a donation to a charity he'd approve of, like Alzheimer's Society. Then print out small cards, placed at each table setting that say, "In lieu of tradtional wedding favors, a donation has been made to (Alzheimer's Society), in memory of Grandpa (Jim)."

Congratulations, I wish you all the best!

Answer 2

I used a memorial bud vase at my wedding to memorialize my mother. The vase had an engraved, personalized message and date. As part of the ceremony I quietly placed a rose pulled from my bouquet into the vase. If you don;t want to use the vase (although it;s a nice keepsake) you can leave one seat open and place the rose in the seat where your mother would have been seated. You could mention this in the wedding program, if you're printing one, to let your guests know what's happening. Sometimes it's best to make this portion of the ceremony a little less obvious to limit the tears a bit. Below I'll post a link to various ways to memorialize your loved on during your wedding.

Answer 3

This can be done a number of different ways. Some couples have choosen to have a special candle at the alter in honor of those who could not be there in person - usually this candle is lite at the beginning of the ceremony by someone close to the deceased - your grandma or parent for example. It can be done at the beginning of the processional, or as part of the ceremony.

Other couples have set up a seperate place of honor, were they place a picture and candle or other memorabilia. You can do this at the church, or at the reception location.

Another option is to have a special reading - a passage, a poem, ort even a song, etc - in honor of that loved one.

Answer 4

There are quite a few different things you could do: At the reception, you could have a small set up, maybe near your gifts table, with a photo & candle, in memory of your grandfather. That is my suggestion if you have more then one person you are remembering. Another great idea is taking a tall pillar candle, doing a nice design with name/information, printing it on vellum paper, then attaching it to the pillar candle. You could have that set up at the reception or at the ceremony. If at the ceremony, you could then take a moment (like during the catholic ceremony) to place a rose by the candle.

Answer 5

I have seen different things done for remembering loved ones that have passed. A favorite bible on the alter, a single rose left on an empty seat where the loved one would of sat. Candles, beloved pearls incorporated into the bridal bouquet. My daughter wore a ring of my mothers during the ceremony and I'm hoping it works for my dads ham sauce to be featured on the buffet when my 2nd daughter gets married in august of 07.

Answer 6

You could have a table set up with his picture on it with candles. Make a donation in honor of him and have it printed in the programs. If there is something that was his favorite like a type of food, a color, or something you could incorporate it into the wedding plans and that way his favorite thing will be in the wedding and a constant reminder of his memories with you.

Answer 7

We put an "In Memorandum" on the back of all of our programs for the ceremony. Remember how long the wait can be between being seated and the start of the ceremony. We simply said: The bride and groom wish to include in memory the following family members who are no longer with us physically but always with us spiritually. We included two of my grandparents and my husband grandfather. It was nice. A lot of family members commented on how nice it was.

Answer 8

At a wedding I went to this year at the wedding ceremony and reception there were special lit candles, each had a name infront of them or on them and were dedicated to those who had passed.

Answer 9

I personally don't like it when pictures or displayed at a wedding. it's good to remember but you don't want to bring up sad feelings, it's your wedding day!!! for my wedding my husbands grandmother passed away a month before our wedding. she made wine and there was some bottled and left so instead of champagne we toasted with it. My groom and his father also wore pins that were hers on there boutenierre's. something personal.

Answer 10

I had candles engraved "In Loving Memory of______" and burning during the ceremony and I also printed the names of loved ones on the back of the wedding program along w/ a dedication poem.