I broke up with my ex for another guy. I know I made a mistake and I want my ex back. I've tried talking to him and he won't give me another chance. He's not dating anyone else and when I asked him if he cares about me he said no. Hearing that hurt me alot and I told him if he gives me another chance I will never do something like that again. How do I break through to him and get him to believe me?
2006-11-04 02:42:00 · 12 answers · asked by crystal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like he has already made up his mind dear. Live and learn hun, live and learn
2006-11-04 02:47:06 · answer #1 · answered by donewithyahooanswers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation not too long ago. I wrote my ex a heartfelt letter (although I suppose an email would work), trying to explain exactly what I was going through at the time. I also wrote I had realized just what he meant to me, that I was sorry I had hurt him. I closed by saying that I know I didn't really deserve another chance and that I was asking him to give me one. In other words, I put the ball in his court and stepped back to let him make up his mind.
This worked for me. In my case, letter was better because I had really hurt him, so he was more or less avoiding me as best he could. It took him a few weeks to come around, but he did eventually and said the letter had really given him something to think about, he accepted my apology and he wanted to take things slower, but he was willing to try again.
2006-11-04 02:49:43 · answer #2 · answered by emt42 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can't. Maybe he doesnt want to believe you. A lot of times when a guy is really hurt he will defend himself by believing he really doesnt care. Who knows if he could ever trust you again. Once you break trust and security its really hard to ever get it back the way it was, if you ever do. You need to be careful with other peoples feelings and always be sure of what you want in relationships hun. My advice is that you stay away from other guys for awhile, and let ur ex be for a few weeks or whatever. Let him know you are going to give him some time and will be there for him if he changes his mind, but that you arent going to wair forever. In the meantime- just be his friend.
2006-11-04 02:48:10 · answer #3 · answered by Reese 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U won't. U made your bed honey, now u have to lay in it!!
Leave the ex alone and get on with your pitiful self! Y would he want you back?! You were shallow enough to break up with him to pursue another, so what makes him think that you're worthy of his company again?! On one hand it is good that you broke up with him to date another and didn't cheat on him, but the writing is on the wall and he's not liking what he's reading. Move on - just move on! So it hurt u what he said, do you think you're the only one who has the corner market on that?! U don't think u hurt him?
2006-11-04 02:52:13 · answer #4 · answered by yokrem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say you cant you hurt this guy and now you expect another chance cause it didn't work out, I'm not trying to be mean cause I've actually done what you did, so believe me when I say you have to move on he ain't gonna be able to trust you anymore, be more careful with the next guys heart/ego. good luck.
2006-11-04 02:57:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he hurt your feelings, but you probably can't begin to understand how much you hurt his feelings. Plus, the trust issue.
I'd never take anyone back that left me for someone else, it's just good form.
2006-11-04 02:48:44 · answer #6 · answered by WJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. He doesn't want to be with you. You hurt him, and now, you have to live with that. Move on. Take care of yourself. Let yourself heal at the pain you caused and the pain you feel. And move on.
2006-11-04 02:53:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's still hurt by the fact that you left him for someone else. he's gonna need time to deal with that and to know if he can trust you again. give him space and time. and if you's are meant to be it will happen.
2006-11-04 02:49:13 · answer #8 · answered by jdchick48 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've what they call, LEARNED THE
HARD WAY. He won't take you back, he will never be able to fully trust you. Get over it and him, move on and good luck to you.
2006-11-04 02:44:25 · answer #9 · answered by Cher 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Change your ex.
2006-11-04 02:46:07 · answer #10 · answered by Ashok S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋