i still love her..... the other day she was writing on my hand.... she's somewhat cuddling with me.... and she's been hugging me a lot lately....
we broke up about 80-85 days ago..... there isn't a day i don't think about her... we broke up because she said that she had too many things going on.... i thought that would be the right thing to do since it just wasn't the right time... and i thought i could possibly get back togeather with her when all this stuff is over... but then around 4 weeks later... she starts to go out with her ex b. from washington... who just recently moved here in LA... i guess she's been having problems with him.... today's her birthday, but i've already done something for her... n e wayz... we're still friends... i wouldn't mind making it out to be something more.... but is she giving me the signs that i want her to... or is she just playing around with a friend???
PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-04 02:36:47 · 18 answers · asked by the sign 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok....well me and my ex bf broke up about 3 weeks ago....and last night we were talking, as friends, and i had a status message that said...Boy are you blind? She loves you. You love her. So do something about it. B4 she moves on! and he said, im not blind just confused! so i think that she is hinting that she wants to hook back up w/ you! shes just tryin to make you jealous by hanging out w/ this other guy! so just talk to her about it! and see what she says! cuz im talking to my ex about us, and he said that he still loves me and wants to hook back up w/ me! so just talk to her! GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-11-04 02:42:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had to laugh at the "Run!" comment, although I understand it. That would be one way to go about it, but it wouldn't really answer anything for you or provide closure. I don't know how old this girl is, but I'm guessing fairly young 17-21. Essentially what she's doing is trying to have her birthday cake and eat it too. She sort of 'unofficially' breaks it off with you telling you that she has too many things going on. While this fact does not always mean what it means here, what she was saying in effect was, "I'm too busy for you right now because my ex is around again and I want to be with him." After that, when she finds out that he's not the Prince Charming she was hoping he would be, she starts playing up to you again - plus it's close to her birthday. You're in her life right now as a "safety net" - the guy she wants to keep on the line in case things don't work out with the ex. In short, you're being used and shown no respect. While I'm sure she has genuine feelings for you, right now it's all about her and she's not too concerned about how you're getting through all of this (the breakup, wondering what's going on with her, etc.). She didn't outright lie to you, she just failed to tell you that "too many things going on" to be dating you meant "I want to start dating my ex and I can't date you both at the same time."
You seem like a great guy and really intelligent and level headed. You took her at her word and hoped that things could get back to the way things were once all her "stuff" was over with. I really admire that. My personal opinion is she forfeited that option when she lied to you, but it has to be your choice. I know you love her, but if she lied to you to go back to her ex and then comes back to you because things didn't work out with him, she'd be willing to ditch you again whenever she felt the grass was greener on the other side. You deserve someone who shows you the love, respect and honesty that you show them. I'm not saying "Run!" I guess I'm saying you may want to let her know you don't appreciate being used and that you move on to someone more mature and understanding of what all it means to be in a loving relationship with someone. I wish you all the best!
2006-11-04 03:00:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's kinda flaky, no offense. Nothing wrong with still being in love with her, you just have to be honest with yourself and decide whats best for you. On again off again relationships are usually pretty hurtfull. Be aware that just because you think of someone every day, and love them so much, it doesn't mean that she's right for you. I know that sounds strange, but I've found it to be very, very true.
2006-11-04 03:08:17 · answer #3 · answered by Brad 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really Love her then talk to her cause my boyfriend and I broke up and we talked things out and still loved each other and ended up back together. She might be trying to get back at you to so just be careful about it!
Good Luck Hope things work out for you !
2006-11-04 02:49:47 · answer #4 · answered by Ash M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is just trying to hurt you run away from her as fast as youcan in the meanwhile you could talk to her boyfriend or even her just play it coal dont make it that big of a deal when she is around you or her boyfriend
2006-11-04 02:40:00 · answer #5 · answered by melissab 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's already seeing someone else, chances of you persuading her to leave him for you are, I'd say practically impossible. I'm sorry, but she not interested in you as anything other than a friend. That's tough to hear, I know & I sympathise.
For a while she still in your life, you won't make much effort to look for someone of your own.
2006-11-04 02:46:18 · answer #6 · answered by etb128 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like she's trying to get u back, mate. scope it out... ask around and find out if she and her ex r ok now...if not...charge! also, think about what type of person she is...is she the type who is really expressive and isn't afraid to cuddle with her close friends? since i am that kind of person and have created MANY misunderstandings with my behaviour, i'd advise u to take that factor into account b4 u jump to any conclusions.
best of luck , mate.
hope u guys get back together. u seem to really love her.
2006-11-04 02:41:52 · answer #7 · answered by bukroot 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to her about it. it is better to be sure than guessing what she really means by her actions. it is hard to tell. it's hard to be a substitute just because they are having problems. and she might just go back to him when they are already ok. but it was just a guess from me. it is more preferably to talk to the person who should answer this question.
2006-11-04 02:55:16 · answer #8 · answered by twenty_four 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
signs girlfriend give likes
2016-05-21 23:02:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I have too much going on"is a cop out! let her go,stay friends-but don't get back with her-.for her it seems the grass is always greener in other pastures.Life and youth are both too short to spend them repeating past mistakes
2006-11-04 02:42:53 · answer #10 · answered by Maw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋