This girl at my work who i thouhjt was my friend keeps calling me retarded in front of people, what shoul i do. how do i tell her i dont want to be friends anymore? she is not a friend but bothers me to go to lunch but now i cant stand her anymore?
without causing a scene or getting my self in trouble for standing up for my self? dhould i tell her fuuuuck u the next time she says that?
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my boss lady said simiar things, and i told her i didnt appreciate and got reprimanded for confronting her. this other co-worker is violent and if i tell her where to go what if it gets ugly and i lose my job? even though im right?
2006-11-04 02:36:17 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is safe to say you are not and may never have been friends with her. So don't worry about that.
First of all don't talk to her. Give her the cold shoulder. Don't give her a reason to talk to you.
If you have to talk with her because of your work only talk about what you need to and leave.
Fighting with her will only get you in trouble. What she thinks about you is not important at all. She is a jerk. So pay her no mind.
You may want to think through the times she has called you this and try to come up with something you can say back that will make her look bad. Doesn't have to be witty just something that says you don't care what she says about you because it is not important.
If she calls you retarded just say well I guess you would know your family lives with one. Something like that that will take what she says and put it back on her.
Don't get real mean because you can get in trouble. That would be a shame. Don't let her get to you.
2006-11-04 02:48:21 · answer #1 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore this person. Soon she will get tired of annoying you and will find some one else to pester. If you create a scene you will prove her point. If you keep a cool head and just ignore her stupidity, you will prove a point to others that she's the one with the mental problem. As for your boss lady.... She is the one who can get into trouble for calling you such names. Most companies have a "Grievance Board", Go to them and explain your situation at work. If you don't have a Grievance Board .... Every one has some one over them, go to your bosses superior and tell them what has happened between you and your boss and your uncomfortable job situation. To be reprimanded, it has to be done in writing. I hope you kept a copy of this, you might need it.
2006-11-04 02:45:35 · answer #2 · answered by Vida 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...okay, take it easy. It's very uncool to lose your temper. What kind of job do you have that pple would treat you with such disrespect? I'd say first of all, try to find a new job. This is not a healthy work environment. You say your are worried about losing your job. Well, maybe you should try to find another before it comes to that. And who needs such stress? I know what you mean. A girl at a job once was such a b*tch, I almost called her a fat c**t. I didn't though. And she would have deserved it. Okay, don't make a scence. Are there other pple you can hang out with? Your "friend" who calls you retarded, that is very uncool. the term "retarded" is very rude and politically incorrect, even for pple who are mentally challenged. I would suggest this. Yes, stand up for yourself. It has been my experience that bullies (which is what your "friend" is") once you stand up to them, you see what cowards they are. So, have something ready to go, to hurl an insult back at her. But keep it light, like a joke. Laugh when you do it. So she calls you what she calls you (retarded) say, "I know your mother is that's why you are too".....it will stun the hell out of her that you are standing up for yourself. But the thing with insults (other than the mother insults) is that they must be true. Does she have oily skin, or a fat butt, or whatever. Pick your choice of her shortcomings, then say, "Well, i'd rather be retarded than have/be _______________" then fill it in with a true shortcomings of hers. In front of everybody. Laugh about it. Stand up for yourself. Try to keep it light. But your boss sounds like a loser too. Honey, look into another job. In the mean time try to avoid these pple and move on with your life. Good luck.
2016-05-21 23:02:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honest answer: 2 things you can do: confront those people and tell directly what bother you, or start to looking for a new job.With that girl,you need to stop her telling what is wrong.With the boss,you need to get professional help.Good luck.Do not let never somebody put you down,never.Be strong,stop those bullies.
2006-11-04 02:48:08 · answer #4 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her it's immature and why is she obsessed with that word? Or learn to ignore her. And start distancing yourself from her. If she wants to go to lunch, say no thanks. You can un-attach yourself from her without being nasty. Work well together with her, or whatever is needed to keep your job. But avoid small talk with her and keep yourself busy on the job. She'll get the hint. And her saying that in front of customers really makes herself lok bad. I wouldn't be embarrassed. Try to ignore it. If I was a customer and saw an employee talk like that to another employee, I would think badly of the one with the mouth not the one getting called names. Good luck.
2006-11-04 02:41:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your boss lady that if she continues to le this go on, you will go to the State Labor Board and file harassment charges.
If the coworker is violent and hits you, you shouldnt be the one losing your job. And Im sure your boss has her own bosses. Go to them as well.
2006-11-04 02:39:59 · answer #6 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are other jobs. Nothing is worse that kind of abuse. Who cares if you cause a scene? They obviously don't care about causing a scene with you. Say something like, "It's sad that you have to disrespect other people to feel good about yourself. I quit." And walk away.
Same thing with your "friend." Say, "I don't like the way you treat me. I don't want to hang out with you anymore. Later." And walk away.
2006-11-04 02:50:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to scoot on down the road and get another job. There is no need to continue subjecting yourself to abuse.
2006-11-04 02:43:29 · answer #8 · answered by William E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you're both not at work put her on the spot and just let it all out, tell her to eff off and just say whatever you want.
2006-11-04 02:39:49 · answer #9 · answered by Triathlete88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a different place to work. that is something that will end it all.
2006-11-04 02:38:23 · answer #10 · answered by Juice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋