I am in quite a mess. I always thought I would be against abortions but now I believe I am pregnant. (I want to decide what to do before I know for sure that I am pregnant.) I have 3 children and am currently divorced. (I'm in my mid 30s and do support my children.) Yes, I slept with a man I am seeing (we often talk about the future and how we will have our families together - he has 2 children.) I love this man dearly and under other circumstances, would not even consider abortion.
Here's my main problem. I have a medical condition which I am in a drug study for. I have to take birth control because they don't know about the side effects of this drug on a fetus. I was taking birth control up until a few days ago - I don't know if the drug counter-reacts but this medicine is what is keeping me from being sick and possibly having surgery. If I go through with the pregnancy, I won't be able to take the meds any longer and the pregnancy could make me sick. What should I do?
2006-11-04 02:32:33 · 9 answers · asked by needhelpadvice 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
The medication is already in my system and could very well cause major side effects to the fetus. Also, this drug is what is keeping me able to work. Prior to this, my docs suggested that I get on disability because they didn't think I could ever work again. Plus this would throw me out of the drug study where this medicine would normally cost $2000 a month and I am able to get it free. An abortion would not affect my eligibility but keeping the pregnancy would.
2006-11-04 02:46:26 · update #1
I have an autoimmune disease which I have already been on all the available drugs, had surgeries, and this medication is the only thing keeping me from being sick again which, without meds, would lead to more surgeries.
2006-11-04 02:55:25 · update #2
I'd put my energy into raising the 3 children I already have instead of risking my health with another pregnancy, but the decision is up to you and the potential fetus's father.
When you have this issue sorted, get sterilized.
2006-11-04 02:51:34 · answer #1 · answered by Pangolin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First go get the test and make sure- if this is a serious question then after that the obvious thing to do is discuss all options with your doctor- depending on that and your age/circumstances with this man I would decide keep, go or adoption- Your health is very important and your very early- it could be a false.....
2006-11-04 10:37:20 · answer #2 · answered by ARTmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a tough one, because i believe god is the only one who truely gets you pregnant with a child...god gives people children through tough times to see how they can handle it... and overcome the difficult situation... of course i would say DO NOT abort... you really need to see and talk to your docs to make sure there is NOTHING else you can do for at least the 9 months ... there has to be something ... whatever your taking cant just be it. And either stop having sex or get one of you "fixed" I think you should just deal with the sickness and got hrough with it... unless you have more than a 50% chance of dying... stick with it and pray to god everyday for your well return after the baby. I just cant believe in abortion when there are millions of women out there who cry everyday because they cant have children... and then some people just litteraly throw them away. But really, talk to doctors and find another cure for whatever it is that ales you.
2006-11-04 10:45:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would consult with your Doctor's and get a medical opinion before you decide and then if another child would be a problem then tell your partner also and you both decide at that point. Make an informed decision.
2006-11-04 10:48:57 · answer #4 · answered by Crystalwoman57 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing would be to inform them that you are pregnant. Birth control is suppose to keep you from getting pregnant so that has been cancelled out now. Tell them immediately. I don't believe in abortions but that is my personal opinion.
2006-11-04 10:36:40 · answer #5 · answered by redwidow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know in your heart abortion was not for you before you got pregnant.Right now you are in a desperate situation.You did not state what the drug study was for.Diabetes,blood pressure,aids,cancer,std,etc.................But anyways I will die trying to give life to one of my own.There is meds that is safe for use while pregnant.You would have to go to a regular baby doc for these.I would not throw away a life for a research program.
2006-11-04 10:48:15 · answer #6 · answered by darlene100568 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need the best medical advice and information about your situation before you ask this question. See at least one doctor or maybe two.
2006-11-04 10:42:32 · answer #7 · answered by Aspurtaime Dog Sneeze 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consult with your doctor, and see if there is a way you can go through with it, since that's what you know you want to do, deep down.
2006-11-04 10:38:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
abort. your children need their mother to stick around and be in good health
2006-11-04 10:36:03 · answer #9 · answered by chikka 5 · 2⤊ 3⤋