How worried should I be? Partner drinks a bottle of wine every night and a few cans of beer. Alcoholic ??

Question

Everytime I mention it he says he will cut down. It's a real turn off for me and is affecting how I feel about him. He blames it on family issues.

Answer 1

People are diagnosed as an alcoholic when the buying and consuming of alcohol causes them difficulties in their day to day living. It is NOT based on how much alcohol they consume.

These problems can be:
i. physical...ulcers, liver complaints, nausea, sickness.....
ii. psychological... cravings, dependency, mood swings...
iii. social... relationship probs, unable to go to work, loss of work, financial probs....

If your partner drinks what he does and can afford what he drinks, can get up for work the next day and do his job competently, has no physical ailments and no relationship problems, then I wouldn't call him an alcoholic.

Everyones alcohol tolerance levels are different. In time he may suffer from alcohol related problems which is best to be avoided. So maybe spelling out to him what his future may hold may open his eyes....but he may be reluctant to change his lifestyle when he has not suffered any adverse affects from it.

Answer 2

Sounds just like me and i'm a woman. If it does not make him depressed or in a bad mood and he is not offensive to you then o.k. However, anybody that drinks more than the health limits a day on a regular basis could be asking for trouble. O.k Winston Churchill drank champagne every morning and lived to at least 90, but i'm trying to stop. I wish our culture was not so orientated around alcohol. It is a drug.

It can give you bad health. Don't worry too much, but if it increases anymore or he honestly can't have a day without, then he may have a problem.

If you tell him he's drinking too much- he will become defensive as it is a habit and a comfort to him most likely.

I found this website very helpful
http://www.howsyourdrink.org.uk/home.php

all the best with it. I hope he can find an alternative to always opening a can or bottle- i'm trying to.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

The thing is, drinking doesn't solve his family issues does it? He's just hiding from them. However, I have been in your situation and in the end I just left. You have already tried talking to him about it and you're not getting anywhere so maybe your best plan is to set a time limit for yourself on how long you want to put up with it. As you can see from all the answers, people have very different views on what is an acceptable level of drinking, so really it's down to how it affects you. I know it's incredibly boring being stuck with a drunk, and I bet your love life isn't too hot either!

Answer 5

By definition, an Alcoholic is a person who drinks alcoholic substances habitually and to excess or who suffers from alcoholism.

And Alcoholism is a disorder characterized by the excessive consumption of and dependence on alcoholic beverages, leading to physical and psychological harm and impaired social and vocational functioning.

I know many people who live long and good life on more than what your partner drinks on daily basis. More than quantities, try and see if his drinking is getting excessive, is it affecting his (and yours) way of life.

If you do suspect something is wrong, expend your knowledge by consulting professional aid (AA for example).
It would be the best to talk to your partner directly, but better done after you know your way, as in both cases (alcoholic or not) you might have to confront him.

Answer 6

There's no doubt about it - he/she is either an alcoholic already or will very soon be. Have you any idea why he/she has turned to the bottle? Solving that problem (if any) would very likely solve the drink one too. If there's no identifiable problem causing the drinking, he/she needs counselling and a trip to Alcoholics Anonymous. As has been said, convincing your partner of this will be your first difficulty, but you must try - and you are right to be worried.

Answer 7

You know, it's probably not a huge problem now, but if a bottle of wine and a few bars aren't bad, then why not two bottles and six beers? Or so on, so forth. A few beers is nothing, but the whole bottle of wine every night with it could lead to future problems.

Answer 8

Two or three cans of beer a night? That's okay. A bottle of wine every night? More of a problem. But both beer and wine together? Not good at all. Definite sign of alcohol abuse. Solution? Find a new partner.

Answer 9

Nothing wrong with a bottle of wine, but I don't fancy mixing my drinks. As wine and beer are made differently he might have stomach upsets.But every night mmm perhaps the start of something, or is his job stressful ?

Answer 10

K az - I just wiped my entire prior comments away - does sound like you have a problem with his drinking and that you care, and seem not to want to seek the professionals yet - as apparently he is still somewhat pleasent with you regarding this situation.

Perhaps you should recommend an immediate vacation from whatever ills him- take some time off and when he returns get busy with exercise, getting out/ and off the couch, doing things with you, frineds or the kids - we all need a horseplay kick in the ***. If He wants to ween, he has to get something other to re-wire the paltry, easyminded self-defense mechanism that really becomes habitualy self defeating - i know i have worked with several good men that due to a midlife crisis turned from good men to men of troubled, drunken spirits. Alcohol like others have stated in these amounts is poisonous...to you, to his body and to your family- I drink daily yes i do, but I force my self to limit to small amounts and always with food.

good luck