My bf broke up with me & he said he would never look back. He told me also that he will find the phone number of his customer girl he met the other day. I dont know if he really means it or he just tries to make me jealous? I still love him very much but it seems like he doesnt want to come back or make it up with me anymore. I feel my heart is falling apart. I need to move on quickly, I cannot be like this anymore. please help!
2006-11-04 02:27:50 · 11 answers · asked by Winter 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all.... get angry! The man played you. Don't you think you deserve better?
We can't help who we fall for, but there is a better man out there for you. I know you hurt now, and the words "time heals all pain", sounds trite, but I assure you it really does.
A large part of the pain is that you feel you did something wrong or there is something wrong with you that he broke up with you in the first place. This is not true. Compatibility is a tricky thing. And you just have to accept that it was just not there between you and this young man. It has to "click" on both sides to be successful.
You should tell yourself that you do not need a boyfriend to define who you are. You are a special person in your own right. Decide that you don't need a steady guy in your life for the next six months. You can date, get together with friends, meet new people, but you are going to give yourself a breathing space where there is no pressure to have a boyfriend. There is something very magnetic to guys about a girl who appears to be unattainable!
Young women these days are not taught to use their own female power to it's best advantage. They all think they have to sleep with a guy to keep him. My mother always said, why should they pay for the cow if they can have the milk for free?
Put a higher value on yourself. Find a guy who deserves your attentions. Who appreciates you for who you are. Take your time. Discover who you are first before you decide to take a partner. The natural female reaction is to subjugate her personality, her thoughts, her natural inclinations to her mates. Make sure the "mate" you choose is one that you respect and who respects you.
Sit down and write your short term goals for you life for the next year. Then do one for your long term goals of the next five years. That should give you a road map as to what you need to be doing now to attain what you want for you. Then, when a man comes along who fits well with who you are and where you are going, you will recognize him!
2006-11-04 02:47:13 · answer #1 · answered by diane_b_33594 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who wants to love someone who isn't in love with them... That is the first priority... Quit sniffin and blowin... he is gonzo and has already lined up someone to replace you. You so don't want someone like that to share yourself with... Thank god, you are not together anymore, he would only drag you down.
Your heart will mend, and so will your spirit... give yourself time. it doesn't happen in an instant.... But there are things to do to make you feel better. Plan a night with your gfs and make it special, dressing up and going somewhere for a bite and then getting together at someones place to play music, dance, talk and share and have a great time.
Get on your bike and start riding... hiking, walking, jogging, whatever, something to get the endorphins going in your brain. (the feel good cells)
Do not go back grovelling and whining like a fool. Get a hold of yourself, dry the tears and get happy. The best revenge is being happy without them...... You will have many times of tears until you are comfortable alone again in your skin without a guy.. This is a good time for personal growth to make you strong and to recognize these type of guys in the future....You are so worth a great person to share your time with.. Don't get caught up in the looks and the charm, it is usually all surface stuff and goes along with a very insecure person.
2006-11-04 02:41:53 · answer #2 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beg or borrow a camcorder and hide it while he does those products and record it!! if which won't be able to be executed then in case you have a cellular telephone placed 911 on a pre-programmed button and hit it the 1st time he starts any sh*t it is going to quickly call the law enforcement officers once you push that button AND record what's being pronounced by capacity of the police while they answer and hear what is going on so as that as quickly as they take place it should not be your be conscious against his. No cellular telephone get one from a shield ALL cellular telephones wether with a freelance or no longer ought to grant loose 911 service. You no longer the problem he's!!! in case you may get him to be stupid on a secret 911 cal he's SCREWED and there is not any longer something you mom can do approximately it. yet know this!!!! if he's prepared to wreck a sixteen year previous your infant isn't secure!!!!
2016-10-21 06:12:13 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order for you to move on you must get mad! Think of how he told you of this other girl and how he totally dissed on your feelings. He has no care for anyone but himself! Why does someone so callous deserve your love?! Let her have the b**turd and consider yourself lucky that you don't have to take his bullsh*t anymore!
Do you really think this low of yourself that you're willing to 'wait' this thing out? There are NO 'quick' ways to get over a lost love. But the beginning baby steps is to get mad, mad as h*ll for him treating you like yesterday's garbage! You'll need to mourn the loss of the relationship becuz in a way it's like a death. But remember that when one door closes another opens!! You will survive this and be a better person for it becuz now you know what NOT to look for in a bf!!
2006-11-04 02:38:32 · answer #4 · answered by yokrem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how it feels to hurt over someone you really love and for them to tell you they don't want you anymore.
Move on to someone better. The way you do that is by NOT looking for it but letting it come to you. It will hurt at first and have you feel like the world is caving in on you, but as long as you stick strong you will be okay.
Learn to be by yourself a while. If he wants to talk to someone else. HIS LOSS!
Someone will recoginze your worth.
2006-11-04 02:36:24 · answer #5 · answered by PrInCeSs P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out with some friends and have fun! Meet some new guys and flirt with them and get their phone numbers. Nothing helps you get over the last one like the next one.
2006-11-04 02:32:00 · answer #6 · answered by Triathlete88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I can tell you is avoid him with all costs. Out of sight out of mind. If you keep letting him come and go he will keep doing it. Don't give him the upper hand. :)
2006-11-04 02:33:00 · answer #7 · answered by Bright Eyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel that there's no more chance between the two of you might as well move on. quickest solution to moving on is to find a new date. or other things that would avoid you to think of him.
2006-11-04 02:34:11 · answer #8 · answered by twenty_four 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to try to move on you should probably do fun activities with your family or friends. If he never calls you don't be surprised because you suspected it.
2006-11-04 02:37:29 · answer #9 · answered by amber m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl if he treated you like that he's scum, be happy he's out of your life. Get a new boyfriend.
2006-11-04 02:31:53 · answer #10 · answered by rebeandphantom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋