What do I do? I kinda like this guy, but I don't want to date him. He lives far enough away that I don't see him everyday but I still haven't given him an answer. He asked me to go horseback riding with him as a date and I really want to go, but not as a date, what can I do? Also there's this guy who I like a lot but I don't think he will ask me out because he thinks there's too much of an age difference. I don't have the same problem and I'd love to go out with him, but do I tell him outright or just leave subtle hints? help!
2006-11-04 02:00:04 · 14 answers · asked by redheads have more fun 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the age one tell him to his face because u know he likes u u just want to let him know that the age thing doesnt matter but with the other guy go horse bavk riding and tell him u just see him as friends and that u love him so much as a friend u dont want to let him go GOOD LUCK
2006-11-04 02:03:10 · answer #1 · answered by practicully_famouse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the second guy, I'd probably ask him out to do an activity, then leave subtle hints along the way. After you think he has recognized these hints, just spend more time with him. For the other guy, I don't know... If you don't like him as much as he likes you, it probably wouldn't last very long.
2006-11-04 10:03:30 · answer #2 · answered by wizard of stealth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie...my advice? give the first guy a chance. go with him on that date and just SEE what happens. who knows...u might end up liking him more than the other fella.
know this (and i'm telling u from experience): love has a habit of coming after a subtle period of "hanging out" with a guy. if the older guy isnt interested, forget about him, he'll just make u unhappy, girl. most importantly, think of YOURSELF. that might sound selfish, but its a fact of life. no one cares more about u than YOU do. u r the person who has to look out for ur own happiness. know when the guy is right, sweetie.
just think about it.... is the horse-back rider incredibly UNattractive to u? does he repel u? or make u embarassed to introduce him to friends or family? if the answer to ONE of those Qs was yes, then forget him.
as concerns the other older guy. i think u should forget about him too. or just try asking him out straight (just to show him that u aint as young and immature as he may think-if the age difference bothers him so much) i mean, show him u can cope and can handle what will come with the "package" if u two r together.
just try out those things and c what works for u.
bottom line: do what makes YOU happy.
2006-11-04 10:08:46 · answer #3 · answered by bukroot 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well tfor the first guy i think that if your not sure about dating him then maybe think about telling him your not interested in him in more than just friends hes bound to understand something that may help is to tel him you'd love to get to know him better as a friend.
I think for the second guy you've mentioned you should give him small hints but if he doesnt take notic tell him. be sure to let him know that age really isnt something that should come between two people of they like each other! :)
2006-11-04 10:07:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
er if he is bothered about the age gap thing then there is not alot you can do darling! if he liked you that much nowt would stop him in his tracks to have you as his girl! sorry but i think you are fighting a losing battle there. With the other gut... why dont you want to go out with him? what ever your reasons just tell him that it just is not what you are looking for and if you still like him as a friend then still hang out, just be careful of the signals you send out tohim if you do remain friends!x
2006-11-04 10:06:34 · answer #5 · answered by m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the guy you are not looking to be in a relationship right now, but if he just wants to hang out or looking for a friend to go riding with thats fine. expect to pay your own way. as for the guy you like, they are blind to our hints. you just gotta tell him straight out that the age thing is no big deal to you. good luck
2006-11-04 10:04:49 · answer #6 · answered by avanging bride 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to calm down ans straighten ur thoughts if this guy that u like wont date u then hes probably not worth it nd this guy who wants 2 go horseback riding well just tell him that u want 2 go as frends
2006-11-04 10:03:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the first promblem is that you should ask him out anyway it's tha best thing to do.your second problem is that you should leave some subtle hints. and then if he still hasn't got tha message you can outright him
2006-11-04 10:32:47 · answer #8 · answered by pammypiano56 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe i can help i like it when the girl gets right to the facts and age is just a number if you both feel the same for one another unless you are under age
2006-11-04 10:10:03 · answer #9 · answered by FallenFreak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him the truth about how u feel and end it by saying that u would still love to go horseback riding w/ him
2006-11-04 10:03:05 · answer #10 · answered by austin 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋