i'm my g/f's 1st ever b/f and we're doing a long dist r'ship. we saw each other the other day and when we kissed she said 'it's been ages since i kissed a guy' as opposed to '....since i kissed YOU'. She then corrected herself to say she meant her brothers too.
Then last night we were talking on the phone, she was in her room when mid conversation she suddenly whispered 'don't fall'. This was familiar to me because she says that to me when we're together and i'm trying to move round her small room in the dark. so it got me to thinking there was another guy in there. she quickly said she was whispering to herself as she got out of bed and nearly fell. then she started being extra nice to me and a bit nervous.
am i just being crazy paranoid (i think probably yes - ldr messing with my mind) or could there be sth more?
2006-11-04 01:54:10 · 34 answers · asked by colejoe79 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why don't you just ask her? Surprise her by turning up unannounced with a bottle of wine saying that you've come for a romantic night. This way you'll either catch her or you'll have a good night.
2006-11-04 02:00:15 · answer #1 · answered by Jo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like someone else was there. People dont ordinarily say out loud "dont fall" to themselves. Long distance relationships are hard to maintain especially if you are in your first serious relationship. If the get togethers are few and far between, a person can get lonely. I dont believe that absense makes the
heart grow fonder. I am a firm believer in out of sight, out of mind. It sounds like your girlfriend could be lonely. When people are lonely, we seek out others. I have never felt that this means a relationship is over or that a person is out of love. It just means loneliness. Maybe the two of you should arrange to see each other more often by whatever means it takes. It is really hard to maintain long distance but I dont know your circumstances. A month is about the maximum I could take when distance kept us apart. Either get together more often or figure out a way to make those phone conversations and letters really dynamic. Cheating is a harsh word when you are talking about lonleiness. Some people can take alone, some cant.
2006-11-04 02:06:34 · answer #2 · answered by juncogirl3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds a little fishy to me. But how she said its been so long since I kissed a guy, that tells me she isn't kissing anyone. but the whispering when she is on the phone is a little suspicious. catch her off guard on something. try to think of a question that would really throw her off like....so and so said they saw you the other day with a guy and you looked like you were more of a couple then friends. something like that. saying the otherday leaves it open and she will lead you into somehting I'm sure.
2006-11-04 02:00:08 · answer #3 · answered by mnm4213 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could go unannounced at pay her a surprise visit that way U won't be obvious N offend her or U could ask her straight out N find out once N 4 all just do it nonchalant. Good luck with what ever U decide.
2006-11-04 02:03:43 · answer #4 · answered by Nitemuse 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think of it relatively is style of peculiar that he deletes all of his messages and calls good away... yet incredibly, different than that it ought to basically be how he discovered to artwork around his mom dealing with his stuff. perchance ask him why he's so secretive along with his stuff, tell him you could comprehend why he desires to have passwords and issues because of the fact of his mom, yet is there any reason to maintain issues from you (?) sturdy success! Edit: WHOA! you're 19, he's 26... specific he's cheating on you. there's a huge distinction between a 19 year previous deleting messages and having the habit you defined, and a 26 year previous. And incredibly, Daniel's good-- you will possibly be able to correctly be 19, yet he's a grown guy. you're courting a loser nonetheless residing along with his mom and dad...and now you're interior the blend residing along with his mom and dad. and there is no longer something incorrect with anticipating him to assist you...he ought to assist you. what style of unlawful substance are you on?
2016-11-27 02:41:03 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know that this is not going to be easy but maube you should just ask if she is seeing someone else tell her to be honest with you rather than playing you along if she is cheating on you then i know that your gonna be hurt and all but at least you can start going out and enjoy being single again, It does sound abit funny of what she has actually said and done.
Good Luck - plenty more girls and hopefully you will meet someone better.
2006-11-04 13:55:59 · answer #6 · answered by hunybuny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's definately cheating on you. That's not a bad thing though. The right thing to do here would be to hook up with her sister, but if she doesn't have a sister, just some random girls on the side would do. Also, you should take pictures, so that when she eventually tells you that she has been cheating on you, you can be like, "yeah I know I've been doing your sister." Then show her the pictures. The important thing is to pretend like nothings wrong and keep nailing her too though.
2006-11-04 02:00:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sorry, but I don't think you are being paranoid. It sounds like she may have found someone that lives in the same town. I would cut my losses and try to find someone closer to where you live.
2006-11-04 01:58:03 · answer #8 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are impossible without trust - especially long distance. If you're worried ask her theres no other way. Otherwise your paranoia will eat you up and you'll end up pushing her away
2006-11-04 01:58:06 · answer #9 · answered by cute_lovable_darling 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go with your gut instinct!
Usually this is correct...
She may be cheating, only way to find out is to go over when she's not expecting you!
Bet you wish you were just outside her place when she said "don't fall"
2006-11-04 02:02:31 · answer #10 · answered by mary_not_cathy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋